first no rude replies please, or degrading jerk comments. My friend was raped at a party, when she was under age. never reported pt because she was scarred of the death threats that were made to her and her 4 year old sister. Shortly after she dropped out of school, and cut off all her hair and gained alot of weight. before she was very pretty, still is. and even though its been years and years she still is not outgoing any more or can get over panic attacks. could this effect her even now, I know lots of girls get raped, and survive....
2007-02-06 09:12:51 · 16 answers · asked by oceanluvduv 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes since she never told the police and he was never prosecuted,I am sure she is afraid he is still out there. She really needs to seek rape counseling no matter how long ago it was. Or at least see a therapist to gain control of her life and then the panic attacks will decrease and in time she will be able to live her life with no fear.
2007-02-06 09:23:28 · answer #1 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before I answered I read some of the answers some people gave you. They're all right when they say that this horrible event will have changes on her for the rest of her life. Truthfully too many that we even care to think about. I don't know if you're told her or not but she needs a friend like you to lend a shoulder to cry on and to talk. Doesn't have to be intense but just to start some catalogue going and eventually to definitly get some councelling. However I'm going on a limb saying this, since she's terrified of the threats that were made to her I think that you should say something to someone who can do something about it. Weather it may be one of your own parents, or a family sibling that you trust, a ministre, a school councellour, anyone. The alternative is to watch your friend slowly wither away and always having to deal with remorse, guilt, fear, all these terrible feelings that will close her in on her little lonelly world. Since it's been so long that it happened, you should perhaps start the healing process that she deserves but hasn't taken place yet. I feel terribly sorry that this horrible rape took place.
2007-02-06 10:52:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not alot of girls, she is one person. I have to wonder if she ever got counsleing at any time of her life. If she never reported it then I'm thinking that she didn't. She needs it and I hope its not too late. Maybe you could talk her in to going. Rape is a horrible thing and if there were death threats and she believed them she was scared into this dark whole and will never get out without talking about it. get her to go and get help.
2007-02-06 09:46:58 · answer #3 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow rape can do alot of things to a person mentally. It takes their sense of self away. She needs a Friend like you right now and she needs to talk to someone. She could be putting on weight and purposely making herself unattractive to make herself less vulnerable. It doesn't work she needs professional help\ and a shoulder to cry on. and a ear to listen and vent into. Be that freind.
2007-02-06 09:18:59 · answer #4 · answered by momof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it could effect her the rest of her life. She needs to get help. She needs to talk to a therapist about what happened to her and get it out. She's harboring the past and holding herself responsible for what happened. Because nothing was done, she never got to get over it. You need to talk her into seeing someone and seeking help. Be there for her through the whole thing and understand it will be difficult for both of you. She's going to get mad, then upset, but once she's got it all sorted out she will be much happier with herself. Best of luck to you both!
2007-02-06 09:22:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what comes to my mind is a kind of self hatred for herself, not feeling as if she is anything, having low self worth no self esteem. cutting the hair seems to suggest she feels she is ugly. if she doesn't get therapy for this, her whole life may be affected. have a friend who was raped by her grandfather she kept it in, today she has been with numerous guys, all ones who hurt her, and abused her. she has a very low self worth, it is something she may carry with her the rest of her life, my friend has. she needs to bring these people who hurt her to justice, file charges on them, face them. or she will run the rest of her life away from it, and allow people to hurt her and use her.
2007-02-06 09:25:42 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 20:52:49 · answer #7 · answered by mguyen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rape undoubtedly shoved her over the edge of something that she was already pretty close to. It's a terrible set of crimes. The rape and the fact she didn't get help. Can you get her to someone who can help her?
2007-02-06 09:21:14 · answer #8 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, a violent rape can affect a person for the rest of their lives. Help her find professional help. Otherwise she will be negatively affected for the rest of her life.
2007-02-06 09:17:16 · answer #9 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And there is a very big difference between 'surviving' and LIVING!
Yes, she will never be the person she was. Only she knows what she experienced. Thus no one can even imagine, or begin to judge her. Be thankful.
2007-02-06 09:21:11 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋