has anyone had troubles in the department of concieving a baby?

Question

me and my husband has been trying to have a baby for a year now. and my friends are poping babys left and right and they cant even take care of their kids.
it hurts when everyone i see, has babys or is pregnant.
and to me it would be a blessed gift to be able to get pregnant and most people arent appreciative about their pregnancy.

i get so fustrated and some times inpatient. and kinda depressing sometimes thinking. Ill never get pregnant.

please no insults or anything negitive. and i dont want to hear. the words "when time is right youll get pregnant. it takes time" i hear it all the time. and i tell my self the same quote every single time i think about babys.

ALSO: i know my ovulation date. i am planning on seeing whats wrong with me or my husband.
Im asking has anyone have this problem.
thanks

Answer 1

Girl, join the club!! My husband & I have been trying for 2 years and 3 months to have a baby! Nothing is wrong with either one of us, but it just isn't happening! And I know it's soooooo frustrating! I don't know what to tell you except good luck! I know exactly how you feel though! It sorta makes you feel like less of a woman every month, doesn't it? I get really depressed when I find out that I didn't get pregnant this month or that month! And I also know how it feels to be around people who have kids or are pregnant! It just makes you feel even worse! I hope you have better luck than I have had, though! At least now you know that you are not the only one going through this! Good luck...

Answer 2

First and foremost what you need to do is just take a vacation or do something to take your mind off of the fact you are having some trouble conceiving. If you have to distance yourself from your friends that are pregnant. Or better yet go and hang out with your friends who have kids, I know it isn't going to fill your desire for a child but at least you will be able to have fun with the little one. I don't know how long you have been trying to conceive but you need to find out the source of the problem, go see a doctor and let them know maybe they can pinpoint the problem. Try ovulation predictor kits, try charting your basal temperatures. A really good site to do that is www.fertilityfriend.com. I know some of this might not be comforting but I do believe that there is a plan for all of us. Instead of making sex a mission to get pregnant, enjoy it, make love because you love each other and let getting pregnant be one of the miraculous perks of it all. I wish you all the best of luck and I hope some of this was helpful to you. Good luck sweetie and tons of baby dust to you

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Keep your head up girl it will happen, don't let other people get you down, i know how it feels to want a baby so badly, I have been blessed by the lord above to have a beautiful almost 15 month old son and we are wanting another child but are having trouble getting pregnant, but everyone around me is popping up pregnant one of which got pregnant 4 weeks after having her son, don't envy anyone else just relax and enjoy trying that is the best part in the whole baby making process. Take a break even if you have to. Example say you are going to stop trying for three months or so. Usually couples find themselves have gotten pregnant while taking a break.

GOOD LUCK TO YOU HUN

Answer 3

I'm going through the same thing right now. One of my friends had a little girl earlier this year and I see her all the time and it just makes me so anxious to have my own. Another friend of mine is pregnant and starting now to look pregnant and I just ache to have a cute little pregnant belly like that and feel my child kicking and moving inside. I hate being jealous, but I am. It was so easy for them and for me it has been a few years of struggling already. I don't get it but I hope someday soon I will have my own miracle to be excited about. I am scared but I trust that God knows what is best for me and my future children, and his timing will be perfect. I also trust the doctor I'm seeing now to figure out how to make things work down there. :)

Answer 4

i totally relate to you and your husband all our friends and family are popping out kids letting them run wild and we desparately have been trying for two years now since my miscarriage to get pregnant again with no luck. i know in my situation i need to go to the doctor first because i have not had a real period in a long time i dont know if it is stress or weight issues but as for you if you have no medical issues try an ovulation predictor or they also have an over the counter male fertility test.. give both a try then if you need go to the doctor see what you can get help with.. my prayers are with you good luck

Answer 5

Hi, when I see woman pregnant or with newborns I get very irritable. Especially when it takes them just having sex when they want to or having one baby then a few months later being pregnant again, also when they say they r going to get pregnant on a certain day and they r. Well here is mine and my husbands situation: I am 23 he is 22, we have been ttc for 34 months, charted for 16 months, been on clomid for 5 months, been on femara for 2 months, did 3 IUIs, had 3 surgeries, lost 3 babies, I have endometriosis, pcos, hydrosalpinx, and hubby had low sperm count. We r going for a consultation for IVF, and getting on waiting list. If we didnt want a baby dr wanted me to get a hyserectomy. Take those odds. 12 months is usually when they tell u to see a dr to do a workup.

Answer 6

i feel you girl i have the same problem sometimes i catch myself crying i do every thing right the charting everything then i think maybe god doesn't think i am ready but i think so it will be alright for you we will be blessed with this gift i have been trying also and it is hard to look at these little fast girl some you can't read ain't never been to skool get the one think i want and can't seem to get. i tell you what i told this older lady bout my problem try herbal tea ( i am trying raspberry myself) but try that and i will pray for you and if you every wanna talk im me or email me [e-mail] god bless and don't give up

Answer 7

I know how frustarting it can be, also ttc for about 5 months now not a year but before you know it will be. It is alot easier for women who already have a baby to say it will happen because it has already happen to them, All I keep telling me self that my time will come I don't know how much longer I can keep telling meself this but thats when you start to pray a little more. BABYDUST TO YOU! Wishin you luck and myself.

Answer 8

I had difficulty having children, yes -- and one of the worst things to hear when you're having trouble is "relax...and it'll happen." Aside from being BS it's just an incredibly stupid thing to say (right up there along with "look into adoption....my friend's sister's doctor's acquaintance did that and as soon as the adoption proceedings started, they got pregnant!").

It took us about a year until I got pregnant, although our timing during much of that year wasn't ideal (which we knew at the time, too). After that, our fertility issues fell into the category of "recurrent pregnancy loss" -- which I wouldn't wish on anyone, believe me.

If you've been trying for a year, especially if you've been charting (or using ovulation kits or some other method to determine when you're ovulating), it's time to see your doctor and get a referral to a fertility specialist. I really urge seeing a reproductive endocrinologist and NOT your regular OB/GYN; while plenty of the latter deal with patients who have fertility issues, it's really not their area of expertise....it's rare that I've heard of an OB/GYN doing the full amount of the right testing, and/or treating properly (or with proper monitoring). A lot of OB/GYNs treat the problem with Clomid as a first step, and while that in and of itself may not be a bad thing, they rarely monitor their patients who are on Clomid, which is astounding to me (among other things, one of the common side effects of Clomid is a thinning of the uterine lining, so the woman may ovulate just fine and dandy but now her lining is hostile to implantation). But, I digress.

There are a couple of online resources I found incredibly helpful when I was TTC without success (or going through my numerous losses...take your pick). Primarily, the message boards at http://www.tcoyf.com -- the site itself is connected to the ovusoft software for charting your cycle, which is itself connected to Toni Weschler's book, Taking Charge of Your Fertility (a book I strongly recommend you read, if you haven't already). There's forums on those boards specifically for women who are having difficulty, and they were a great source of support for me.

For what it's worth: after not getting pregnant for nearly a year, I had three losses within 15 months, followed by another loss about 6 months later. We tried "the old fashioned route," Clomid, injectables...and eventually found ourselves dealing with PGD (which requires IVF). We were fortunate to have great insurance that actually covers fertility treatments.We also were seeing a doctor at a great facility that offered a phenomenal "shared risk" plan for which we qualified if we needed it. In the end, we did 3 IVF/PGD cycles....and just celebrated our twins' 1st birthday. Now, that horrible spate of years seems like a fairly long time ago; at the time it was, to say the least, all consuming, and I remember all too cleary what it was like to have it seem like everyone around me was pregnant, or to bear the insult of seeing my friends get pregnant after they had come to *me* for advice on how to conceive.

I hope for you the road to parenthood becomes easier. Please see a doctor -- and don'y shy away from online sources of support, such as the forums at http://www.tcoyf.com, especially if you're not getting the understanding you need from the people who see you "in real life." Also, I second the recommendation for "alternative" courses of treatment -- for myself, I did acupuncture after speaking at length with some women for whom it clearly worked wonders. While I'll never know whether the acupuncture itself helped me to conceive, it might have....and in the meantime it also did help me to relax (which, despite the fact that the words "just relax" are annoying to hear, is still a good thing, whether TTC or not!) and perhaps more importantly just made me feel like I was taking some "time out" to do something to pamper myself.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 9

I waited for 3 years to have my son, it felt miserable waiting, but every night I would pray to god, that all I wanted was one child and finally I was pregnant with my son. My advice to you, is to keep your faith, but also try alternative methods to help you to regulate your cycle, such as acupuncture, herbal meds those things worked for me, and finally if you still can't conceive go to an endocrinologist, not just any OB doc.

Answer 10

Since you've been trying for a year you should go to your ob/gyn if you haven't already. They should be able to help you find out what the problem is.