Do you think it is possible for a man who has been physically and emotionally abusive to woman to change without counseling? What are the chances??
2007-02-06 08:52:04 · 36 answers · asked by Jennifer M 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, first of all, these m-effers never think they are to be blamed for anything; it is always someone else's fault. So if they can at least acknowledge that it is WRONG to be violent and abusive to someone you supposedly love, then that's a step in the right direction. Unfortunately, once people are angry, most rationale goes right out the window. Even with counseling, it is very, very difficult to fix this kind of problem...these men remind me of pit bulls--this violent nature is almost "bred into" them. So without counseling, the chances are slim to none; in fact, they don't exist at all.
2007-02-06 09:23:07 · answer #1 · answered by fun_purple_beach 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think an abusive man will EVER change! Don't stay with him if he is ever abusive, emotionally or physically. Leave the very first time it happens. I'm only 20 and it's never happened to me, but trust me, I know what I'm takling about. I have 4 aunts who have been abused both emotionally and physically. One of them ended up in a home because she can no longer take care of herself. Her brain is permanently damaged from years of abuse. She is basically mentally handicapped now. My other aunt kept taking back her husband after he would beat her and it never ever stopped. Don't believe him when he says he will stop. And don't ever think that it's your fault, because there is no reason for him to abuse you. The first time it happens, leave and don't take him back. It's just not worth it. You deserve better.
2007-02-06 09:22:52 · answer #2 · answered by jlg_jdf 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Possible? Yeah. Likely? No way.
If you are in a situation where you are being physically or emotionally abused, and the guy isn't willing to go to counseling, get the hell out of the relationship. There are too many people out there who are willing to treat their partner with love and respect. Don't waste your time with someone who doesn't treat you that way.
2007-02-06 09:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by battistin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The chances are slim but very possible.I was a physically abusive to my first wife for about 6 years and she passed away with cancer.Ihave since remarried and haven't hit a female in over 7 tears.I think counseling is a better way to go about it.
2007-02-06 09:02:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I say we lock up all abusive men in a mental institution and throw away the keys cos if they never change they would get into another relationship and the circle continues.
Since we all know without any doubt that they never change when they get before a judge regardless of statue in society lock them in a mental ward and throw away the key.
Or ban them from another relationship if they get into another relationship arrest them before they hurt anyone else.
I mean people never change or do they? I don't know really it depends on the individual, one thing though he got to want to change and what will cause a selfish man to change when he is being affected directly. And in the case of the abuse you are the one getting hurt he gets to be a lowlife so you can treat him like dirt (which is where he wants to be) so his insecurity is accomplished thereby the circle continues.
2007-02-06 19:52:36 · answer #5 · answered by I B lady O 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not possible for a man or woman who does this to change without entering anger management counseling. Unless someone willingly enters counseling and sincerely works to change they never will.
It's a very difficult process to do this. Not many people succeed.
2007-02-06 09:00:07 · answer #6 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are NO chances!! A person is abusive bc of maybe their past or history that they've been scarred with. But there is no way they can just change from night to the morning with out some serious help!
2007-02-06 08:55:48 · answer #7 · answered by qtiebabie06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Abusive men never change. Not unless they get years of intensive therapy while NOT in any relationship. If he could change without counseling, why didn't he do it the FIRST time he lost control , hmm? "I promise I'll change it won't happen again I love you so much you make me angry" is pure bullsh*t.
2007-02-06 08:56:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a man wants to change he will but the chances of them fully changing without professional help are slim to none
2007-02-06 08:55:47 · answer #9 · answered by Love always, Kortnei 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! NO! NO! I was married 32 miserable years to a physical and emotional abuser, and he kept saying he would change, but never did. I finally got the nerve to leave. Don't believe anything they say about change for a second.
2007-02-06 10:09:09 · answer #10 · answered by oddbutterfly1 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋