Please no men. I could care less what one male finds attractive in another.
2007-02-06 08:48:40 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
ok, Lizzy. What does my question, and how I worded it say about the "real me"? :)
2007-02-06 10:25:59 · update #1
Cleanliness is a must, along with a good attitude and a sensitive nature. I like my men in all shapes and sizes!
2007-02-08 18:29:50 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was going to pass this question by. But there are entirely too many stupid *** answers on here, and I feel the need to defend intelligent mature women everywhere.
The answer, obviously, is different for everyone. And the answers change for some, based on whether it's sexual attraction or platonic.
However, I am initially attracted to any person whom I get a good vibe from. By good vibe I mean they seem honest, they have kind eyes, they appear sincere, they are down-to-earth, they have a sense of humor. Arrogance, *********, immaturity, and an apparent obsession with fashion/grooming/appearances are turn-offs to me, because I interpret these as signs of an insecure person.
I'm interested in people who don't waste precious time attempting to fit a mold created for them by society, and who are genuinely comfortable in their own skin. People are like presents - they come in all shapes and sizes. And until you get to the inside, you have no way of knowing what you've got.
There is no mental check-list I run down when I see a man Mr. Right may be an ex-con with a heart of gold, or have a beer gut and f'ed up teeth, and make you laugh so hard you cry.
And I'm okay with that.
2007-02-06 14:11:14 · answer #2 · answered by ~Biz~ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I find individuality attractive, a positivite and open minded attitude, confidence, depth and strength of character. I don't find arrogance, conceit, control freaks or aggressive behaviour attractive and yes, these characterisits can all be picked up from first impressions!
As far as looks go, I love mysterious eyes that appear to see deep into your soul and a warm smile that puts you at ease. I love a guy that is charasmatic and I will admit that a nice toned body and dark features are a bonus, but those physical traits don't mean a thing if he has a bad attitude or is not on my wavelength.
HTH : )
2007-02-06 09:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find a man's personality attractive first and foremost. If he is humourous and engaging. I also appreciate thoughtfulness, and kindness towards others, which means treating all people with respect and equality. I like good hygiene, neat appearance and they must have all of their own teeth (this point is in no way negotiable) and they have to be in good shape. I like when a man speaks to me and looks me straight in the eye. Intelligence and the adventuresome. I don't want to look at some out of shape, couch potato laying around eating Cheetos in a pair of dirty underwear, flipping the remote, to me that would be the equivalent of one of the lower levels of Dante's Hell.
2007-02-06 10:13:33 · answer #4 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personality makes him attractive to me. I mean sure I see guys who I think are attractive, but if I meet them and they behave in a way I find unacceptable, then they become ugly to me. This same thing goes for some men that ive considered unattractive on first impression, once I get to know them and they have a good personality, then their looks seem to improve for me. Its weird.
2007-02-06 17:56:14 · answer #5 · answered by Bonzai Betty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The minute he opens his mouth!
1) A great smile
2) Good Hygiene, so far so good...
3) What comes out of his mouth and how it comes out... This determines if he's attractive or not!
You could be drop dead gorgeous, and if the words out of your mouth were anything less then your looks, it would be over.
Suave, one liners, you can smell them a mile away.
The minute you speak will say so much about you, who you are, and what I want with you!
For example: the question you wrote. It said a lot about you!
2007-02-06 09:22:41 · answer #6 · answered by Lizzy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I work on a ship, and I have worked with men all my life. I find that what attracts me to a man, is his smiling happy face. I love someone like that. Friendly, and genuinly nice guy.
2007-02-06 08:52:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At my age, I've learned that you can't judge a book by it's cover. A guy can look awesome, but have absolutely no personality. Looking good is a plus, of course, but looks fade, personality is FOREVER. If a guy has a great smile, kind eyes, and can make me laugh, and I can feel comfortable around him, I'm hooked. lol
2007-02-06 08:57:03 · answer #8 · answered by sparkie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An attractive man is one who is nice to look at. It does not have to be a complete package thing. When my husband and I were just friends, I would look at his lips. I could listen to him talk forever just to see his lips move. Muscles in the hands and fore arms. I like to watch the little tendons move. I know my sister-in-law likes to watch my brother play video games. 'Cuz when he gets into it, he sticks his tongue out the corner of his mouth. She thinks it is just cute.
2007-02-06 09:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by tyingtobenice 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I consider piercings, tattoos, confidence, compassion, drive, intelligence, and thoughtfulness to be the most attractive attributes in a male.
2007-02-06 08:52:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋