Boy problem... please help?

Question

I'm having trouble starting a conversation with this guy i know. Lately hes been so quiet, but i can tell he really wants to talk to me and vis versa. Its just akward to be the one to start the conversations. Lke, last friday i finally suck up the courage to talk to him, and we talked for a while, and then i asked him if he was okay because he had been quiet all week, and he just said "i'm cool" but he looked sad when he said it. Should i ask him again if everything is really okay, i don't want to pry. But i used to talk to him everyday last semester, but hes been so distant. Yet he always walks behind me when we walk to gym. I don't know what to do, and i can't stop thinking about him!

Its confusing, and i really just want to talk to him, but how should I? Thank you for any answers, i really need help :)

Oh, and i'm not his girlfriend; sorry i didn't say that earlier :)

Answer 1

hahaha I am that guy:)

really, I ve been doing the same thing to a girl I know, so I might help out.

first, be positive that you are not paying more attention to another boy. When I did tht I did it coz I felt taken for granted. People act this way usually, because they want to get back at you... you must have done something wrong if he is doing this especially to you.

maybe he is being distant to everyone, I mean maybe he is going through rough times. Maybe something is wrong with his relationship with his family. show him your supportive side if so.

Have u said something behind his back, not intentionally to hurt him? I mean sometimes a girl says something very harmless to a friend and it is interpreted by the friend in a whole different basis, causin a miscommunication of feelings between you and the boy.

You have to step up, and be more dominant. Come up to him and demand an answer!!! Be strong! tell him that you are not going to leave until he tells you wats wrong. He will say something to you a bit vaguely but still he will give sth solid since we are talking about an emotional and a sensitive guy since he has closed his connections tht way. only very emotional people do it. Emotional people become distant and other people become hostile. Sensitive people always tell his feelings when they are pressed tht way.

But make sure you are not pushing him too hard, that might give more reasons to ignore you or might reach to a level where he is actually hostile. Speak like a friend but be demanding but dont be like a cop.

If he doesnt say anyting tell him this
"I am not going to give up on you because I really care about you"

If that doesnt make him talk in a few days (you will still show you are not giving up by trying to socialize with him while this processes) nothing will.

I hope you guys become close as you used to. let me know about any progress about this situation:)

Answer 2

Find out what his interest are if you don't already know. Not all guys are interested in sports. Talk about music or hobbies that you both have an interest in. It could be that he has strong feelings for you and does not know to let you know.
Do not ask if he is OK again. Just tell him you like him as a friend and really enjoy talking with him. As things go on maybe you two will develop a loving relationship. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 3

You said you can't stop thinking about him and that's just what you need to do, why ? because as long as he think's you're into him will, he's going to just keep playing the hard to get role and all you really need to do is FLIP the script on him. Look, if you've been talking to him this long than it's obvious that he's been brain stormin about you. Push away the plate(him)and let him chase after the meal(you). And don't act loved starved! And remember your alway's busy on purpose because remember! You're the QUEEN! Your mother didn't make nothing LESS!!!

Answer 4

See if he goes on the computer and get his msn or yahoo messenger...He may have alot goin on with his life that you don't know about...and that is why he's backed off a bit. Sounds like he's goin through something, perhaps if you could get his messenger name you two can start talking online ...sometimes it helps people to open up about what's troubling them. Just keep on talking to him, let him know you do care. Eventually he will open up to you and thank you for being there for him...GoodLUck*

Answer 5

Talk to him....
if you never do... you'll grow up thinking "what if I had talked to him"....
...If you have feelings for him... tell him how you feel,... sometimes we gotta do it ourselves... at times guys are just too very shy.... and that's where we gotta come out... if it seems to you that he wants to talk to you as well... then I see no problem there... the only thing is that his shy ....so go ahead... talk to him...

if you're under 13yrs old... DON'T!! You're not ready to be dating or thinking of 'boys' ...you are to think of school... but then again,.. I remember when I was that age... AND i wasn't in to boys yet.. times change... gosh!!

Answer 6

ive had the same problem but all guys r different. he probobly doesnt want u askin too much how hes doing so ask one moree time but then like try to cheer him up and say a joke or somethin and get his mind off his problem. it may work

Answer 7

Start talking about what he is interested in. Like:

Football
Video Games
Movies
etc.

Answer 8

tell one of your girls to see what wrong or what you could do is try to talk about something else but if you know you are going to be really distant then all you could do is forget about him.

Answer 9

well if hes acting like that you need 2 break up with him
u r his girlfriend so he should be able to tell u
girl u can do better than that

Answer 10

I wouldn't ask if everything is ok again. make sure he knows that you're there for him if he has any problems. maybe he really likes you but is afraid to tell you.