My girlfriend has been seeing (sleeping with) a guy for over 2 years. He tells her everything she wants to hear. He has never been her boyfriend, but has been someone elses when he was with her. He told her if the other girl was gone it would be only her. He broke it off and then decide to be single. He was seeing my friend and at least 2 other girls, along with the ex. I never liked him, I knew what kind of guy he was, but I thought she would see it herself. She finally did, after going back and forth and believing his lies for over 2 years. I was so happy it was finally going to end. She knew the truth and I was right all along. She said she was done for the 100th time. I found out a few days ago she was with him, even though he is back with the ex. She says she can't be without him and I am so tired of listening to her whine about this guy it makes me sick. She has always had a lot of drama in her life and I'm starting to think she enjoys it.
2007-02-06 08:25:45 · 3 answers · asked by grdangel 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She does sound like she gets her energy from all the drama and you sound like you're losing your energy from all the drama. I'd say you still support her as a friend in all other respects but her relationship with the guy.
Tell her if she has an open relationship (which is what her relationship with this guy looks like) then she can't whine or complain as much as if she was in a monogamous relationship. She has always has a choice whether to leave him or not. Tell her that you don't like the guy and would appreciate it if she quits talking about him, but that you'd still be OK being her friend in all other aspects.
2007-02-06 11:40:41 · answer #1 · answered by yellowscissors 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should be her friend. You just need to hook her up with another guy. Her problem is one simular to my problem. She met a guy who really put it on her. She enjoyed him so much that she don't really care who else he sees as long as he sees her.
I had that problem with a woman in my past. The only cure for it, was another woman who put it on me just as good. I quickly forgot about the other woman and went with the new one.
2007-02-06 08:31:33 · answer #2 · answered by 35 goodlookinmalefrombalt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a friend support is a key ingredient but take her somewhere that the other girl will be with him let her see how they interact she'll give up soon
2007-02-12 06:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by Dawn S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋