My college sweetheart and I dated off and on for about 5 years. We finally seperated for good when I was 23 and he was 28. He immediately married someone else and was divorced 3 years later. I married when I was 25 and divorced 4 years ago. He remarried the 2nd time about 11 years ago. After all these years, we keep intouch by e-mail and he will occasionally call me.
He is in the Military and has been stationed in Iraq for the past year.
He is on his way back home. Called me yesterday and told me that when he returns his next assignment will be a base about 1 hour from me and btw.. "My wife is not coming with me. She will be staying in North Carolina".
The problem is... I know he still loves me and I him. Before he left for Iraq he wrote me a letter. He said that it has made him think about his life and what is important.
My brother seems to think he purposely requested a station near me. Could this be true? What are his intentions?
2007-02-06 08:13:34 · 9 answers · asked by MiMi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is a gentleman. I think the reason that he has stayed with her is because she had two children when they married, none together. And in that time, I think he wanted to get them through college first.
2007-02-06 08:35:14 · update #1
It sounds like he's interested in picking up where he left off.
2007-02-06 08:17:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well whether his intentions are good or bad the fact that you both married, knowing that you had feelings for this other person, wasn't fair to the people whose feelings got involved. You're both jerks and you deserve each other. It's not going to work out, you can try it. But it won't work. Even if you two were to get married, it's been all these years you need to let him go. Whether you think you "love" him or not, he's a married man the fact that you're considering this shows what kind of person you are. So go with it, do what you will. You'll have to learn the hard way.
2007-02-06 16:26:32 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds to me like he is interested in being with you. By leaving his wife behind he is telling you he wants to be with you without saying it. The only thing I can suggest is that if you are interested in being with him as well, tell him up front that you do not want to be the other woman, if he is serious then he will divorce his current wife to be with you. Until he does remain friends with him. If things are still unclear then maybe write him a letter asking him what his intentions are.
2007-02-06 16:31:03 · answer #3 · answered by jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is married, get over him, find someone new, why would you want to break up his family, hurt his wife and children, stop being so selfish, lots of other man out there.
2007-02-06 16:56:30 · answer #4 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he is still in love with you then he might have suggested it. Make sure your visit with him doesn't get out of hand because he is married. Let him know that u still love him but make sure that he isn't just playing you to get something back.
2007-02-06 16:22:07 · answer #5 · answered by FairyPrincess 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he loves you he should divorce his wife and not stay just because of the kids i divorced my 1st husband and i raised my girls i got two grown daughters
2007-02-10 12:01:39 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes not a gentleman. you are stupid to believe that. would you like to be the one cheated on? nope, hes in the military and what she doesn't know won't hurt her attitude that is he knows he can get from you free my how conveinet. well stupid get rid of him.
2007-02-10 02:52:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he wants to get together with u for a little tete' a tae; however, please notice he says nothing about getting divorced....so if u are looking for a good time and NOTHING ELSE...go for it
2007-02-06 16:42:38 · answer #8 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds promising but if you really want to get together then he will have to leave his wife why has he waited all these years
2007-02-06 16:19:52 · answer #9 · answered by SHY1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋