How many times would you accept "I'm sorry, it won't happen again" from an alcoholic who gets mean when drunk and won't go to AA or an inpatient detox? (and has private insurance that will pay so there isn't any money issue) I'm thinking maybe three and then it's adios amigo?
2007-02-06 08:07:14 · 8 answers · asked by thefinalresult 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The rules are slightly different when it comes to an alcoholic, especially a mean one. Tough Love is sometimes necessary before they get motivated to change. I'd accept the apology once, then it's either get help, or leave.
2007-02-06 08:13:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like this person has not even admitted that the alcohol is a problem. By continually accepting the apologies you are actually enabling them to continue because sorry is enough. So the drunken actions are essentially excused. Besides a mean drunk whether an alcoholic or just a social drinker is trouble.
2007-02-06 08:11:44 · answer #2 · answered by L S 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Pay attention to this because this is the same advice my mother gave me when I was going through a bad time with and abusive ex husband. "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me!" That is all it should take. If a person is truely sorry, they don't make the same mistake twice. I've only taken them back once. After that, it's pretty much asking for trouble. If they won't change, leave them. That's all you can do. Thank you and good luck.
2007-02-06 08:12:13 · answer #3 · answered by cookie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they get physical, don't accept the first apology. Just pack up and leave. People who hit don't change. Chances are, you will never hear what you want. Save yourself the misery and leave now.
2007-02-06 08:10:26 · answer #4 · answered by doodlebuttus 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If violent I'd report them to the police
If only an alchoholic [yea I can't spell all that well] and not harmful personally take them to meeting...
If after that didn't work, leave them
2007-02-06 08:11:30 · answer #5 · answered by Halle? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you're being too generous!!! The only way he will ever get help is alone!!!! Tell him you'll be waiting, but won't watch!!!!
2007-02-06 08:11:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
infinity. But you gotta start chaining him to a weight every time he say it.
2007-02-06 08:10:48 · answer #7 · answered by my alias 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
zero. I'd punch him first then leave.
2007-02-06 08:09:42 · answer #8 · answered by ** i Am hiS giRL ** 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋