Im only 19, and my fiance' is 21. Ive known him since i was fourteen but started dating when i was 17. He asked me the big question on our one year anniversay. Its real love! and everything feels right. However my friends of like 11 years dont want me to get married to him. They both ganged up on me and i almost broke down in tears, these girls were supposed to be my bridemaids. We had a girls night out but i didnt show up or call, because they wanted me to flirt with guys at the bar for drinks, i know that my fiance wouldnt agree but they kept pushing me to do it. Now i dont know what to do, i mean there my friends, or supposed to be. Did they do anything wrong by telling me how they feel? What should i do?
2007-02-06 07:59:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do whatever makes you happy, If you love him and know you can spend the rest of your life with him then go for it. Tell your friends to respect him for your sake. tell everyone to be nice and put childish games aside.
2007-02-06 08:05:54 · answer #1 · answered by Ambra D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friends are probably just thinking you are still too young and are afraid of losing you when you get married. However, trying to make guys flirt with you and buy you drinks isn't right. You have to do what you feel is right for you and your life. Your friends, if they are true friends will be there for you no matter what and will be happy for you when you are happy. If you feel like you are ready and have no doubt about each others love or commitment then follow your heart and get married. I think your friends really care about you and didn't mean to hurt you.
2007-02-06 08:15:28 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know how you feel i was in the same boat i am just gooing to tell you my oppion on it, your friends in no way did anything wrong, they are being honest and real with you and i am sure that even though you feel like they arent right they will still support you, i was dating my man since i was 13 he proposed to me when i was 18, i was so excited at the time everyone had doubts and i listened to them but the decission was still up to me, even though my friends were not agreeig with it they still supported me like true friends do, well a friend of me got engaged at 17 got married at 18 and is now 20 with 2 kids and hates her life, i didnt marry my man we are waiting i am 22 and i an college after college we will get married but only u know if its right or not so its a tough situation but good luck and remeber its all up to you
2007-02-06 12:29:55 · answer #3 · answered by brown_eyedgurl22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a distinction, relatively? I evaluate my husband to be my suitable chum, even though it relatively is diverse then my suitable chum as a results of further intimacy and the flaws that we share which you purely won't be able to with a chum. There are additionally complicated trials and tribulations that your chum might in no way share with you. Marriage desires friendship, confident, yet there must be something extra. So i assume i might pick soul mate.
2016-12-17 10:50:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they've been your friends for that long, then they probably have your best interests at heart. Judging by what you've described, they don't think the guy's right for you and are trying to keep you from making a mistake. Best thing to do is follow your heart. If it feels right, go with it. Your friends will understand.
2007-02-06 08:04:40 · answer #5 · answered by Radgar E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess ur friends should not tell u not to married him cause its wrong for telling u, it's ur fiancee u should do what u want and what make u happy, i mean it's ur life, dont listen what people said about u or him married, but maybe ur friend is feeling jealous?
2007-02-06 08:03:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well them telling you how they feel is fine but to be straight mean about it is wrong. if your happy they should be happy for you reguardless, i mean unless your fiance' beats or cheats on you then they just need to be happy for you
2007-02-06 08:06:51 · answer #7 · answered by BROWNLYN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋