Me & my unborn baby's father are no longer together and he wants a DNA. I have gladly obliged w/him footing the bill for the test. I know he is the father and he can waste his money if he wants; however, he says he doesn't have the money to get the DNA anytime soon. But my Dr. is inducing Thursday Feb. 8th, 2007 and I am pretty sure I have to fill out the birth certificate before me and the baby comes home. My ex wants her to have his last name but I am a little bitter since he hasn't shown any interest in her, me, the pregnancy or birth and he says he will not give me any support until he gets the DNA. So legally, what last name should I give her? His legal last name or my maiden name?
2007-02-06 07:40:50 · 32 answers · asked by Rebel73 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
your name if he has no interest in the child, why should the child have his last name? and ps make sure you file for child support when you get the paternity test done
2007-02-06 07:44:21 · answer #1 · answered by Carrie H 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Give the baby your maiden name. The only way to put his name on the birth certificate without a DNA test right away would be if he is your husband (which he's not) or if he sign's an affidavit of paternity (which he's not willing to do). He can't stop you from giving the baby your name. And technically, you could give the baby any first, middle, last name that you want--you could even give it a last name you made up if you wanted to. Then you sue him for child support, and he'll come up with the money for a DNA test. The first time he pays late you get his wages garnished.
2007-02-06 07:46:35 · answer #2 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Legaly you can give your baby any last name you want too there is no law about that anywhere that I have heard of. I know someone who had a baby and gave it its own last name not hers or the dads last name so you can even make a last name up if you want too. Im sorry to hear the father is being that way it seems so many men are like that these days and if he wants to waste money on a dna then thats his own stupidity let him go for it. But if you dont want the baby to have his last name then you dont half to do that at all.
2007-02-06 07:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by Amy D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was born I was in the same boat. My father wanted an abortion and when my mom refused, he wanted nothing to do with me. When you look at my birth certificate, there is no father listed and I have my mother's maiden name. My father is a complete *** and I don't want anything to do with him, and my mom sued him for child support which he pays.
So, I would give your baby your maiden name, and still go through with DNA testing and then sue him for child support. Hopefully your ex is a better man than my father was, and will be a part of your childs life.
2007-02-06 07:51:50 · answer #4 · answered by redcherri817 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriends mom is a nurse. She said that when you deliver the baby you can request a DNA test the same day and the hospital will cover it. Just talk to your doctor and ask about the DNA test. Usuall if the dad doesn't sign, the baby takes on the moms last name. Hope this helps.
2007-02-06 08:19:30 · answer #5 · answered by Mom to a MicroPreemie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would give the baby your maiden name. You are the only one who has an interest in your unborn child. He's (the father) is in a total state of denial, and just probably not ready for a child. Since he does not want to help provide or show interest, give the baby your well-earned maiden name.
2007-02-06 07:48:08 · answer #6 · answered by lil_thickums_007 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't give the baby his last name. If he wants a DNA, it sounds like he's trying to get out of his responsibility. Go ahead and let him have the DNA test. That way, when he tries to tell the judge, "It's not my baby, it doesn't even have my last name" then you can say, "Here's the test that shows you are the father". 18 years, 18 years
2007-02-06 07:47:04 · answer #7 · answered by Answer Schmancer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is your choice! even if he had proof that he is the father you don't have to give the baby his name! I gave my son my last name, and I also left him of the birth certificate. there is nothing he can do about it even after he gets the dna test. He will have rights, but as far as the name goes, he can't have it changed, you have just as much right to give the baby your last name as he does. and it often makes more sense for the baby to have the mom's name anyway. it is easier when you put them in school and such.... Good Luck!!!
2007-02-06 07:57:21 · answer #8 · answered by ME 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where you live, but in many states, you cannot give the baby the name of the father if you are not married. I know this is the case in my state, NY.
The baby should take whatever your legal last name is. If you don't want the baby to have that name, change it fast! If you can't change it in time, you can always change both of your names later.
2007-02-06 08:14:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your maiden name. (Or whichever you are most comfortable with)
Unless he is willing to sign "acknowlegement of paternity" papers, he does not have any rights to the child, or makes the decisions for what name goes on the certificate. If he wants DNA, make him pay for it. Good for you. Why would he insist on your baby having his last name if he isn't SURE the baby is his? Tell him to grow up. If he is this immature he is not ready to be a father.
2007-02-06 07:47:16 · answer #10 · answered by Mom of 3 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Deffinitely give the baby YOUR last name! Obviously, even if your ex does figure out that he IS the father, he won't be very supportive towards you or your child. Besides, you are the one who has to deal with the pain of child birth and you are the one who is going to have to raise the baby. Do what's right for you and your child.
2007-02-06 07:46:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋