My fiance is being acused of abuseing an under age girl while she was asleep. He said he didn't do it. It was his sisters friends daughter and the night they are talking about he said they were all drunk (it was 2 years ago). He doesn't actually remember, but it is not something that he would do and his sister was there. This girls therapist now wants to speak to him he is terrified about going to jail. And not being able to prove that she is lying. Does anyone know the process on this kind of thing or what we can do?
2007-02-06 07:20:29 · 9 answers · asked by tinytinkbell 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Please get a good lawyer, right away, before talking to anyone.
And ask yourself, for your own sake, what you think really happened.
Good luck.
2007-02-06 07:35:45 · answer #1 · answered by American citizen and taxpayer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting a lawyer at this point is like putting the cart before the horse!
You have no obligation to go to the therapists office!
Likewise, in over 30 years of investigating criminal activity, I've never heard a confession in the beginning especially when dealing with sex crimes involving juvenile victims!
Because your fiance' has not been charged, a lawyer will not do anything but tell you to wait and see if you are arrested...and persent you with a bill for his advise!
Not a time to accuse your fiance', however, look him straight in the eyes and let him know that you love him and support him...however...if he even REMOTELY thinks he may have done something while he was drunk...
1) get some rehab for the alcohol problem
2) get some counselling for the problem of interacting with juveniles IF he did!
3) considering all the facts up to this point...decide whether you want to be a part of this potential problem with such a loud "early warning."
Best wishes!
2007-02-06 15:31:19 · answer #2 · answered by KC V ™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my mind, there are two issues here- your fiance and his situation, and the possibly abused girl.
The therapist is being an advocate for the girl and is trying to help her, and apparently thinks this will help.
If I could help give the girl closure and healing, I would. I'd talk to the therapist (with my mom or dad with me) to find out what he wants to talk about and how. I'd also want to know if this was covered by any sort of confidenciality agreement of if things I said could get me arrested.
Even if I were perfectly innocent, I'd want guarantees since the charge would be one of sexual molestation, which is fairly easy to be accused of, and harder to defend against- and which can 'stain' your record even if found innocent.
If it is safe to participate, I would for the other girl's sake.
2007-02-06 15:42:52 · answer #3 · answered by Madkins007 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this isn;t what you want to hear... but maybe he IS lying. Why would the girl make that up? And why is she in therapy?
And your fiancee was "drunk"? Come on? Doesn't remember? I mean if he were drunk and doesn't remember then it may have happened.
2007-02-06 15:25:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
What are the facts. What are her motives.What is his response to the question being asked about him.
He is not guilty until it is proven. Its not just one thing its the small things that give away a lie. professional interviewers are trained and can determine the truth from a lie. The truth will out
2007-02-06 15:30:40 · answer #5 · answered by froggerty 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think before talking to the therapist he needs to talk to an attorney who can advise him on whether he should speak to the therapist.
2007-02-06 15:25:23 · answer #6 · answered by cinsingl83 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The best advice I can give you is to marry that guy as soon as possible, cuz you found a winner.
2007-02-06 15:32:14 · answer #7 · answered by ianvredmond 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
They cant prove it but I would call him my ex if I were u. you will always have the ? in your mind!
2007-02-06 15:31:58 · answer #8 · answered by sharlene l 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BEST ADVICE: GET A LAWYER!
2007-02-06 15:23:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋