Children? I will still see my daughter and write to her and get a web cam, and try to come down as much as possible, but I know it will not be the same, I just want to be able to provide for my children, I love my daughters and I see them every other weekend, but if I leave I will not be able to do that.
2007-02-06 07:00:36 · 9 answers · asked by bob 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You can wrestle with this until the cows come home, but the reality of the situation is once you have children, your needs and desires are secondary to that of the Child's.
This is the one true most awesome responsibility you have, to be there for your child under any and all circumstances.
No ifs ands or buts about it Buddy. This will show what strength of character you truly have.
True love is when you move out of your own comfort zone to nurture the spirit of your child.
2007-02-06 07:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a dad but a mom that understands your heart is in the right place. Tough decision, your daughters may not understand if they are young so you will need to put it in words that they can understand "Daddy wants to do more for you but to do that daddy needs to move far BUT daddy will come and see you on holidays, birthdays and maybe you can come and be with daddy on some weekends, daddy will alwayse think of you and have you in my heart alwayse, I will miss you EVERYDAY" I dont know what you situation with thier mom is, but some women are nasty and can feed their children bad stories of why dad is not around, so i suggest giving them all those terms I mentioned to inbedd into their heart before mom inbedds something else... GOOD LUCK.....
2007-02-06 15:12:56 · answer #2 · answered by claudr_30 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men all over the world has been doing that forever. 90% of dads go beyond the call of duty for the sake of the co.You don't see your children in the morning and if their lucky they get to see you maybe three hours a night.We moms are left to do everything we are the ones who raise the kids.Most men could be considered weekend dads.Think about it guys if you could be honest with yourselves you no I'm right.If I hurt your feelings I'm sorry didn't mean to just being honest.
2007-02-06 15:22:47 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you visit when you say you will, write when you say you will, call when you say you will, your children will understand. Especially if you are working towards being their for them. Life comes at you hard sometimes and you can barely keep you head above the line. If you are working towards a better future for you and your daughter then no worries. You have to make yourself happy before you can make someone else happy.
2007-02-06 15:05:30 · answer #4 · answered by GoodWillHunt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a dad. My ex and I split up when my daughter was 9. I was there living in her home town for one year. Then I left and moved on with my dream. moved 1800 miles away. we talked by phone every time I was in the state she came to see me. But I went on with my life.
She turned 18 last July. In august she called and asked if she could come visit me. I got her a flight and she came to visit. After she was here for one month she called her mom and told her that she will not be coming back home.
I never told her to move here, I just told her to pursue her dreams and goals. Go after what you want in life, And then I lived that advise in my own life. She is now living her dreams doing what she wants in life. and she loves and admires me for living my life.
So live your life, make your mark on this world. Do not live for someone else. Your children will respect you and love you more for going for whats best in life. Then when they become adults they will live there lives by there own rules.
2007-02-06 15:18:52 · answer #5 · answered by xxgq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are going to miss you.
You will miss a lot of the events in their lives.
But if you stay in touch with them often, visit when you can, invite them to see you when possible and work hard to provide for them you can make it work. pay attention to them and their reactions - they might not realize until after you are gone how much they'll miss you. good luck!
2007-02-06 15:04:24 · answer #6 · answered by imnotachickenyoureaturkey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you left a long time ago.
2007-02-06 15:21:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know u think about them in your sleep
u can never go back and do it over again
i know housewives obsessing over their kids
as if it's the only thing worth living for, blah!
i know people obsessing over jobs
as if it's a live or die situation, blah!
2007-02-06 15:09:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't cry when they grow up & don't give a crap about you.
I dare you to demand respect from them if your not around.
2007-02-06 15:03:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋