And why are vows the only thing that women take really seriously? Women fight for this idea to death it seems. I mean sex isn't serious back when they were in the dating scene.
Know sombody for a few hours? Sex him
One night stand? Sex him
First date? Sex him
See what I mean. Yet, if a dude that has taken "vows" tries to have a little fun, oh my god, its the end of the world!
So prior to marriage, sex is just sex. After marriage, it will cost you dearly if you think that sex with another woman is just sex.
2007-02-06 06:53:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Vows = promise
2007-02-06 06:58:18 · answer #1 · answered by marnan97 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel the meaning behind the vows (I'll assume you're refering to the wedding vows here.) in your heart when you say them, they are simply words.
And also in my opinion, if you said the vows without truly meaning them, then you shouldn't have taken them. (Keep in mind, people change and you may not feel in 10 years what you felt then. I myself am guilty of this.)
Marriage is dedicating yourself to one partner. Period. No exceptions. No sex with anyone other than your spouse. No online affairs. The vows vary state to state and ceremony to ceremony, but as I recall, the vast majority of them include "Forsaking all others..." this would in my opinion, mean physically, mentally, emotionally, and financially forsaking all others save the one you married.
If you didn't feel that way when you took them, again, you should've considered that before undertaking marriage or at the very least explained to your spouse that you didn't want to adhere to the tradition of monogamy in your marriage. If the feelings changed sometime after that, then I think you and your spouse need to have a serious talk about marriage and what both your expectations in a marriage are.
2007-02-06 15:23:51 · answer #2 · answered by genetic_traitor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Vows are when you take your partner forever (suppose to anyway), it means that you don't want anyone else, and that you love that person enough to walk through the pits of hell with them if that's what it takes. They are special and when you decide to get married it means that you don't want to have sex with anyone else. That's why marriages don't work anymore because people don't take their vows serious. They think as soon as something goes wrong you can just up and divorce, and not try to work through anything.
2007-02-06 14:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because when you marry you are saying that she is the one you will be with for all eternity better for worse. i understand what you are saying but not all women give it up after one night my husband and i were dating 6 months before I lost my virginity and we are still here almost 9 years later. That why when you propose you make sure she is the one because you cant have her and sleep with the world. If my husband wants to sleep around thats fine but he will never have a good looking trusting woman and mother like me.[ Hey it sounded good]. We would be getting a divorce.
2007-02-06 17:55:34 · answer #4 · answered by hotmoma1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Except for the children that are born, generally speaking most children prefer to be parents that were a little more responsible with their sexual behavior then a self-center nothing matters but what I want teen-age attitude for a dad!
Reality is for responsible people the sex gets better once you get married, that way you are in the same boat for handling the consequences (children) that sex produces. Worked that way for me -- but I was never a self-centered child like you.
2007-02-06 15:07:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So why did you get married? Why make promises? If you're that shallow...why even pretend to be committed to someone?
Do you care if she runs around on you? I assume you don't from your post...since sex is just play and nothing serious. You won't mind if she has sex with whomever she wants too...if that's the case then you have no business being married!
2007-02-06 15:03:21 · answer #6 · answered by Misty 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Vows are a big crock of sh*t If you are married to an a**hole, but they are the only means a woman has to hold on to a good man.
2007-02-06 15:00:13 · answer #7 · answered by Destiny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women that refuse to sleep with married men both respect themselves and respect the institution of marriage. They believe in karma as well - if you are the other women, when you are married, you deserve to be cheated on too.
2007-02-06 15:04:33 · answer #8 · answered by Tara P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually when you hear the word vows it is related to commitment.Without one the other doesn't stand a chance.
2007-02-06 15:17:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never have sex with someone else that your not dating, married too or seeing. Its cheating anyway you look at it. You have to have something that is only between you two..
2007-02-06 15:00:57 · answer #10 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋