Should I Trust My Wife?

Question

My wife and I Have been married for 1 month. Before we got married, I've caught her lying, cheating, etc. One week before we got married she talk to the guy she cheated on me with but didn't tell me. She claims she told him that they couldn't talk anymore. Why would she try to keep it from me? Do you think she is up to her same old stuff? Should I trust her? let me know.

Answer 1

Just keep your eyes and heart open. If something doesn't "feel" right, usually there's a reason. Maybe she's being honest, maybe not, but one thing is for sure, time will tell, because the truth always comes out!

Answer 2

ABSOLUTELY NOT! Once a cheat always a cheat! In reality you should have never married her, but I did the same thing the first time I got married.

I found out from my friends and roommates that my ex was more than just "friends" with this guy she worked with. But because I loved her I wanted to trust her and believe her, so like an idiot against the advice of my friends and family I married that stupid whore.

Then I actually walked in on her and her high-school f u c k buddy 4 years later. So, like I said once a cheat always a cheat, and as they say hindsight is always 20/20. If I were you, I'd save yourself a ton of drama and heartache and get a divorce/anullment.

Answer 3

Once a cheat always a cheat. My ex-wife cheated on me before we was married and i frgave her. We got married and within a week she was already emailng guys telling them how she missed them. I forgave her and she said it would never happen again. She joined the Army again and went to school and within a week she had a boyfriend and wanted a divorce. I later found out that she was just using me to take care of her for a while until she could find someone else stupid enough (Yes I admit i was stupid) to put up with her and take care of her.

Answer 4

i have two comments on this bro and i hope I'm not being harsh.

1) Why did you go and marry her?
2) If you went ahead and married her why aren't you trusting her?

Now let me elaborate a bit. You must have faith in this woman to have gone ahead and married her. YOU MUST!! Now if you do, why are you not exercising that trust. Yes.. most times cheaters are cheaters but you know what LOTS of times, people do change and do better.

My advice: If deep down you have reason not to trust her then get out of it! Don't be going back and forth - that's no way to live and it's not fair to either her or you! Marriage is a holy institution, you took the vows before God and man! Honor those damn vows if you were serious (..for better ... for worse,,,). Be honest with her... tell her of your insecurities (don't be afraid)... let her know that you've got them, you're working on them, you need her to help to put you at ease... you NEED her to be truthful .. ALWAYS .. you are willing to go the damn distance!! and work the damn thing out, pray on it... give it a fighting chance... then and only then.. do you call it quits. Live up to the commitment you've made bro!!!

GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 5

Your marriage is so new for there to be so little trust. Why would you get married if you had these issues. I am sure they did not just arise.
Well, now your married so there is no point of in say what you should have done.
I think you should talk to her about it. tell her your concerns.

I am a newlywed as well. (5 months) and I could not image living my newlywed life feeling so insecure about my marriage.
may be you should do marital counseling. did you do premarital counseling before you got married. If not, maybe you should have.
I wish you well!

Answer 6

You should have asked yourself that question before you said "i do". Sweetie whether its one month, one week, or one day before the wedding, if she's cheating after she has already agreed to marry you, then she will continue to this to you. Having secret conversations with her supposed ex-lover to break things off is a poor excuse. She's obviously not ready for a commitment. You could try to give your marriage a fighting chance but only if she's completely honest with you and honestly, she might not last under all that scrutiny. All the best sweetie, Good Luck!

Answer 7

I think that you should of waited to get married but its too late for that advise. So I think that with her history I would be watching her like a hawk. There would be an eye on her in everything she does. i would want to find out now if she were up to no good. Then I would immediately end that marriage. Because if she is after having done it in the past to you then there is no hope of her ever being true. Good Luck to you.

Answer 8

i honestly can't figure out why you married her even with the doubts you had...BUT, since you did--give her the benefit of a doubt, maybe she did just tell the guy she had gotten married and was committed to you. Get some counseling if you really want this marriage to work, sounds like the odds are already against it so any help is better than none.

Answer 9

Yes, you should trust her. She kept the last conversation from you becasue she wanted to handel it without you getting involved, it would have gotton messy. You married her, so your love will have to help you look past her past. You both have a whole life to live 2gether from here on out. This is something you have 2 deal with internally for the health of your marriage. If she gives you any reason for you to question her honesy in the future, discuss it with her, don't hold it back.

Answer 10

Well i think u should sit down and talk 2 her 1 on 1 that's the best way 2 resolve any problem.