Dont want to name the baby after its father!!!?

Question

i know i am not going to marry this person, and my brother just passed away reciently, and i really want to name it after my brother. I hate when girls name their babys after the father, and then the father turns out to be a dead beat, and the kid has to grow up with his name. I actually want my last name too, but I wont go that far. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

As the baby's mother, you can name your baby whatever you want to name him. There is no rule that says a baby boy has to be named after his father nor is there any law that says a baby must have his father's last name. You get the paperwork in the hospital to fill out to apply for the birth certificate so it is up to you to fill it out the way you want to. I say it is perfectly acceptable to name your baby after your brother and give him your last name, too. Name your baby whatever you want to.

Answer 2

Name the baby what you want to name the baby. My first son is my husbands middle name, My second sons middle name is my husbands first name. There should be no pressure the case worker comes to you in the hospital and you fill out the paper work stop stressing and name the baby after your brother if you want to compromise use the dads name as the baby's middle name and use your and the dads last name you can do that everyone will be satisfied.

Answer 3

You don't have to name it after the father, then. It's as easy as that. He can't make you. The nurses will give you the paperwork to fill out, anyway.

And you can even give the baby your last name, if you want. If you KNOW you're not going to be with this guy, why give the kid his name? It'll just make it ackward for you when you take him to the doctor or register him for school. Everyone will always either have to ask you what relation you are to the baby, or they'll mark down the wrong last name and you'll have to correct them each time. My son's last name is different than mine, because he had his father's last name. We are going to be married and I will be changing my last name to match theirs, but if we weren't going to stay together, I would've given my son my own last name.

Name the baby whatever you want, no matter if the father is arguing about it or not. I hate it when people name little boy's Bob Jr. or Bob the fourth (or whatever, directly after the father). My boyfriend's grandma wanted us to do that to our son and we just looked at each other and shook our heads, we didn't even have to discuss it.

Answer 4

If you dont want to and dont want to be mean then just explain that you dont want to because it will end up being complicated, for example the phone rings and someone asks "is Richard there?" then you have to repond "big Richard or little Richard?" or when someone says your sons name to address him but both he and his father are in the room and they both reply "what?" I know its not a huge reason not to do it, but its not a horrible excuse if you dont want to come out and say, I just dont want him to have your name. You should also explain that with the death of your brother it would be very special to you if you could name your son after your brother. Theres not a lot you can do if he wont budge from his idea, you cant make him agree, but you dont have to agree to the name either. They give the mother the forms at the hospital for stuff like names, so you in the end have the final say whether he likes it or not.

Answer 5

Not every baby needs to be named after the father. Just name it after your brother if you want to. Let the father of your child know your feelings about your brother. Maybe he doesn't expect the child to be named after him.

Answer 6

You dont have to name the baby after the father. I got married and had 3 boys and we never named any of our boys after my husband and he never suggested it. I dont understand what the problem is. Name the baby what you want. You dont even have to give the baby the dads last name if you really dont want too. Its not a big deal.

Answer 7

If your not married I would give the child your last name...That is what I did and it worked out the best that way (for me). If you end up marring the father you can always change the last name. As for a first name - do what your heart tells you...

Answer 8

Since you're not going to marry this person (at this time, you could change your mind later like in my case) and if they haven't asked for the baby to be named after him then name the baby whatever you like

Answer 9

don't do it, i would name the baby after my bro/sis any day if he/she passed away, nothing wrong with your name either, as i like to say, gonna carry the family name for generations, i have one son with his moms maiden name so he can carry on her name and i do have a son named after me, he just started grade 1 and every time he gets off the bus and barges through the door, he yells out "daddy, I'm home" personally i love it and am glad my wife named him after me. I hope you come up with a decision that satisfies you and your baby...good luck......oh yeah never call a baby..IT, ITS..use the term babys dad or babys mom

Answer 10

well, who is it that wants the baby to be named after the father? is it him, his family? my mother in law insisted that we name our first son after his father and have him be a Jr...neither of us wanted that. we chose to use his name as the middle name and that was never good enough for her but she lived with it.
i do think that if the father is going to be involved that the baby should have his last name...my boys have my last name but my daughter has mine and now i am having a hell of a time changing it!