Bisexual greed/lust or for real what you think?

Question

Rob E let me just state that i am not biggoted i have gay friends and a few who are bi i do belive that you can fall in love and or be atracted to both sexes hence my use of the word real just quite a few people ive come across seem to think of this as just plain greed and i just wondered what others thought

Answer 1

What is 'for real'? You mean a true, valid, real sexual orientation?

I don't understand how people think bisexuality is something related to greed. That would imply that it's something we're all capable of, and other non-bisexual people somehow manage to rope in. Yet talk to some straight and gay people, and see how they react to talk of being with the 'opposite sex' (whichever one they aren't attracted to) . . . they are definitely not just being the opposite of greedy. They literally have no attraction for both sexes.

Bisexuals do. And as for the 'lust' concept, well, nobody can be with someone they aren't at least somehow attracted to. A horny straight guy, one who is truly heterosexual, won't be aroused by men in themselves, no matter how lusty he is. Bisexuals have a lust for both sexes, but that doesn't mean they are sex-addicted or nymphomaniacal or just love sex too much. It just means they can have sex, and are capable of desiring sex, with both sexes.

Here's a little something that everyone needs to see and keep in mind before they start questioning bisexuality:

We are a very maligned group of people, with so many stereotypes, misperceptions, myths, and outright hatred against us! I just wish I could tell everyone that we are NOT:

1) Greedy.
2) Confused.
3) In a 'phase'.
4) Indecisive.
5) Horny or sex-addicted or nympomaniacal.
6) People who want to have their cake and eat it, too.
7) Necessarily polyamorous or in open relationships.
8) Commitment-phobic or unfaithful.
9) Really gay or straight and in denial.
10) Really gay or straight but getting perks/avoiding condemnation by being bisexual.
11) Necessarily into group sex.
12) Necessarily equally split in their love of each sex.
13) Necessarily experienced with both sexes in order to call ourselves 'bisexual'.
14) The spreaders of disease from the gay community to straight.
15) When it all boils down to it, any different from anyone else.

And no, not everyone is 'a little bit bisexual'. I believe strongly that there are people out there who are 100% straight or gay, and never dally along the lines in between. However, a good deal of us are somewhere in the middle, even if we don't acknowledge it with the label of 'bisexual'.

Hope that's helped you understand bisexuality; we must constantly fight biphobia and bi-invisibility.

Answer 2

A neighbour had a long term relationship with a woman and then a man. He appears for real on the register of electors in the UK.

Surveys have shown sexuality to be not just either 1 of 2 choices. There are 3, (gay, straight and bi) with bisexuality comprising the larger of the gay or bisexual group. Certain cultures have been more accepting of bisexuality than some today, think of the romans where it was not just latent but practised commonly.

You also need to realise that not all bisexual, gay or straight desires are for sex, and thus lustful or greedy. What about my old female teacher, in her 70''s, (has had both types of relationship) who would like love much more than sex, from another woman. She is not greedy or lustful. Merely following the natural human instinct for partnership.

Consider your motives for asking the question. Are you confused, maybe disliking people who have more options in life than you or a little bigoted? Your question is simple, but humans are complex creatures and a glib 1 line answer wouldn't do justice to such an issue where ignorance prevails today.

Good luck! Rob

Answer 3

For real I would hazard a guess!

Most people are on a scale and this scale is cross gender from 100% female to 100% male so I would guess that bisexuals are between 48% to 52% I.E. in the middle of the scale hence they don't care about the gender love can be cross gender so yes the answer is for real.

Answer 4

I am Attractive to both sexes, I have been with both males and females. The only true way to find out is actually dating a girl and see how you feel for them. I like guys more than girls, but that doesn't mean I'm straight. But bisexual is truly real

Answer 5

The definition of bisexuality is a sexual and/or romantic attraction to more than one gender, and recognising its significance.

Most bisexuals are attracted to one gender more than the other. What makes them bisexual is that they cannot deny their feelings for the other gender.

Just because they fall for people of either gender, it doesn't mean they fancy twice as many people as everyone else. Bisexuals probably fall for no more or less people - its just spread across both genders.

For some people, its all about looks.
For some people, its all about personality.
If you consider gender as a relative term, like looks or personality, then you understand how bisexuality works.

Answer 6

I have a bi friend, and he does fancy both, but apparently men are much easier. So if he wants naughties and he wants them now he'll go to a gay bar, but if he wants a relationship he'll find a girl... I guess it has a lot to do with lust, but most men wouldn't be physically able to do it with other men surely? So there has to be something behind it.

Answer 7

i am attracted to men and women. but i'm not a lustful person. i want love before sex, heck, i am still a virgin. i won't have sex til i know i am in something long-term and serious. i also only want one person at a time. none of this "i'm bi so i need one of each" attitude..

Answer 8

I don’t know what you mean “for real”. I’m gay, but I have met bisexuals in the past and yes they’re for real.

Answer 9

hello, my wife has had same sex encounter as teen ager. is now mother of 2 sons,but,i still see her lust on another girl and buy "mens magazine" Maxim to look at the girls. u both can ride my face. :)

Answer 10

um...i'm bisexual and not greedy. i've been in monogamous relationships before. i'm currently married to an amazing lady and while we both still look at other men/women, we like being monogamous.