should i ask her to marry me?

Question

ok so i have known this girl koi since we were in 1st grade and she is my gf, we have been thru so much 2gether and i really love her. shes 14 and im 15. we live 2gether((read my old question and questions from her u will see wat we have been thru, her name is koi)) with her grandparents and little brother. if we did get married we would beable to pay for every thing.she was pg but the baby died and we have alot of money saved for when we thought we were having a baby. we r moving to michigan from arizona in a rew months, and her little bro would be comming with us((she raised him, hes 3)) but i really wanna be with her for the rest of my life, and i no she feels the same about me. i no we r young but we really love each other. should i ask her?

my family is in michigan and most of her family is in michigan, the appartments we r lookin at are rite down the street from the high school we r going 2, the highschool has a day care and there is a elementry school down the street from the appartments and a middle school. we have like 35,000 saved for when we move. she doesnt speak to her parents cuz they were abusive 2 her and so thats why she is with her grandparents, im here cuz she was pg, and then the baby died

Answer 1

Yes.

Answer 2

Years back people would get married young.
But then, they only lived to 35.
Now, people live over twice that long, so is it any wonder that half of us divorce?
So, the chances of a marriage that starts out with no problems are 50-50.
If you end up divorced, you have a 75% chance of divorce at the next marriage.
My feelings are that you will probably be good for each other, BUT being human, we all see that the grass is greener on the other side. Marriage can make people feel trapped and obligated. It can make people feel that they must perform sexually.
It has always been my opinon that people who are perfect for each other, if they marry before living on their own and working and striving alone and dating all sorts of people, and joining groups that are interesting and taking courses, and getting involved in politics and having opinions and changing opinions, etc, etc, etc; sometimes will fail in the marriage.
When you taste life on your own and life knocks you about and you get up and try again, on your own, you build character - you become stronger - you then have something, are developed, something to bring to a relationship. I hope I am explaining myself well.
Thank God you don't have a baby. You are very lucky.
I would hope you both will independently develop some sort of self-sufficiency. Get your high school diploma. Go to a community college. Study physical therapy or some such thing as a profession. Something that has a future. When you are both able to stand on your feet without each other, then you will at least be free to start making such a decision.
For goodness sake, use protection. If you are not even smart enough to do that, how can you have the wisdom it takes to be husband and wife?

Answer 3

Probobly yes. Especially if you plan to continue being intimate at such a young age. If she has already been pregnant, there is a chance she will be again. Have you thought about how you will have health insurance should she get pregnant again? You can't be on your parent's health insurance if you are married, and how do you plan to get into an apartment? Most places require that you be 18. I know because I was 17 when I had to get my own place. What about transportation, you aren't old enough to have a license? How will you get to the grocery store to buy food for your home? What about utilities for your home? Can they be in your name if you are under 18? Or will you have to rely on your parents to put everything in their name? You can't live off of your savings, you need to keep that money put away, you need the time to work and support your family, and more than that you need an education. And don't think you will both work at night because then you won't have time to devote to each other and won't be able to maintain a healthy marriage. Marriage is work. If you go to church, talk to your pastor about pre-marital counseling. He can tell you a lot about what marriage will be like. Pray about it, God can reveal to you what to do, this is a huge decision, ask God to help you. He will.

Answer 4

you are wayyyyyyyyyyy 2 young 2 get married wait if u guys can wait 4 each other u have better chances 2 last 2gether stop the sex so that u no that the relationship isn't based on that! Wait till u r out of high school & may b college get promise rings talk 2 her about how u feel

Answer 5

If you love each other, then both of your need to finish your education.

Please live near proper schools and I hope and pray all of you will finish your education - including the little brother. I wish your parents would help both of you.

Please if she ever needs help check out The Compassionate Friends - online group for help in dealing with the death of a child.
It helped me so much when my baby died over 18 years ago. You have to properly face the 5 stages of grief when any major changes happen. They are:
1 - Denial, 2 - Anger, 3-Bargaining - if only I did that, then this would not happen, 4-depression, 5-acceptance.

GOD bless us always.

Answer 6

wow! you guys are so young? Are you guys still in school? It seems like you guys were destined to be together, but life is much more then getting married and having kids. Especially now. You guys need to give each other some time to grow up and learn about life, this is the age where you do that sort of thing. I know it may not seem that way now, but get your head straight, go to school, get good jobs, and then start thinking about raising a family. When you get older, your thought processes will be more developed and just stick with each other and do the right thing. I understand you guys love each other, but do what is right also. If you guys do get married, please re think having kids until you guys are atleast in your 20's.

Answer 7

Wow so your 14 and she's 15. You may be a little young to get married. Why dont you just keep things going the way they are. I mean you have your whole life ahead of you. What if by the time she's 17 she has another boyfriend?
I mean I'm not saying dont do it, just think about the fact that you are young and you have your whole life in front of you.
Make sure you think about it long and hard first!
If your extremely in love go for it who knows what will happen just dont grow up to fast, you'll miss out on alot!

Answer 8

I feel that 15 is to young to make a life decision like that. You need to finish school as does she. At 14 I don't think she can get married anyhow. Marriage is more than playing house. It is a huge responsibility that you have to work at to make it work!!! I have been married for 8 years and let me tell you it has not been easy. wait a few years to make that decision. Good luck Hun.

Answer 9

Definately! Especially if you have been through tough times together. That's unconditional love. You should ask her to marry you, but first ask her a question like "What do you think about marrige?" So that way you kind of have an idea on what she will respond. But it seems like you both really dig each other. Good Luck!

Answer 10

Finish school first and get a job so you can provide for a family. No one is going to hire someone that spells like THAT!

You sound sweet, though. Just continue being a loving and supporting boyfriend until you are both older and finished school.

Answer 11

No,you should not get married, don't ask. You are young and have been through a lot but that doesn't mean you need to get married. There is no hurry. You both need an education and an opportunity to grow up a little more.