My wife and I have had our issues...and we are doing our best to work things out.
She doesn't work because she doesn't want to...
She doesn't go to the gym because she doesn't want to...
She spends my money...because she wants to...
So, to help the situation, I booked her a cruise for her and anyone she wanted...she chose her mom.
They took off yesterday and she has called me NUMEROUS times crying her eyes out (from the room on the ship...can't wait to see this bill) because its raining and supposed to rain all week!!!!
Well, now that she is hitting a port tomorrow, she is going to fly herself home from Nassau because she is mad it is raining. The cost of this is TWO THOUSAND DOLLARS!!!!!!!!
I told her to stay on the cruise and enjoy the food and entertainment, but she is so angered by the rain she insists on coming home NOW!!!
This is the last straw, how to I stop her from spending this money??
I can't talk to her on the ship, only when she calls...
HELP
2007-02-06 06:13:10 · 18 answers · asked by Ted Arcidi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your wife sounds like a spoiled brat. No offense. She needs to get a JOB, or at the very least a hobby besides spending money. She's crying because it's raining? What a baby. The only thing I can think of is this: Why on earth would you want to work things out with this woman? Get a divorce and move on.
2007-02-06 06:22:49 · answer #1 · answered by Lotus 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is an astounding situation. I've been sitting here trying to think of a way to help you.
Does she have acess to your credit cards? Is this how she is planning to get home? If so, turn them off. It's your money, and most likely your credit that is suppling her. Tell the credit card company, or bank as the case may be, not to accept any airline charges.
My husband and I talked about this. His first wife was like this - spent his money and did nothing. His suggestion is the same as mine - make sure she doesn't have access to the money to fly home. She's on a perfectly good cruise ship, a little rain won't hurt her. That's part of being on a cruise. Weather happens.
I don't know how you feel about staying married to her. My husband suggested telling her when she gets back from the cruise to go to her mom's house and tell her to get a lawyer. It sounds like she is bleeding you dry and doesn't really care one way or another. There are women out there who do care more about what they can buy. Trust me, we are out there and you shouldn't have to be suckered.
So the simplest solution - don't give her the money. She's not going to die in the rain. Make sure she doesn't have access to it, otherwise you're just going to have one more bill to pay off. You already have the phone bill to look forward to. And if she keeps calling you and harrassing you to pay for something so unnecessary - there's this nifty feature about phones. You can either unplug them or turn them off. Then you don't have to hear it.
Good luck.
2007-02-06 06:35:16 · answer #2 · answered by noncrazed 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems like you're married to one of those people who are never happy. You should never have booked a cruise for her, she should have stayed home. Tell her if she spends the money than you want a divorce, because she can't go around wasting money. You tell her that. If she doesn't care, there are ways to prevent people from getting money. Put a hold on the card. See how she likes that. Good luck!
2007-02-06 06:38:44 · answer #3 · answered by April 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That was really funny, made me laugh, but I don't think it's very funny for you though, so I'm trying to be as serious as I can... ok, maybe you might tell her you checked in the internet the weather forecast for tomorrow, and IT WON"T RAIN. Or, you could say that this thing for her mom's health wouldn't be really great (I mean the voyage/travel). Or you can say that she could spend her time WONDERFULLY and it doesn't really matter that much it is sunny or not. Try to PERSUADE her with these things... than, if she wants to return home... hmmm... that means that she loves you much and can't stay without you (impressive how I found a good side in this, isn't it?) Good luck and be fast!!!
2007-02-06 06:25:33 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The next time she called tell her that you are not going to allow her to spend anymore money and that you have put a hold on all of the credit cards so that she cannot charge a trip home. Even if you don't do this...she will think that you have. Maybe then she will have time to think about what she is doing.
2007-02-06 06:18:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand how booking your wife a cruise and letting her take whomever she wants is going to help your situation...but ...I would say phone the credit card company and have them deny the transaction. If she can't pay for the ticket home than she will have to stay. When she gets home from the trip, I would recommend some marriage counselling.
2007-02-06 06:24:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
What an ungrateful person she is! OMG! If my partner did this for me, I wouldn't want to come home until the very end of the cruise. Your wife is a very negative, unappreciative person.
The next time she calls, tell her she can come home because you have papers you need her to sign.
P.S. How the heck do you put up with all this nonsense?!
2007-02-06 06:20:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Cancle the credit cards or suspend them (report stolen) and freeze the bank accounts. Make her aware when she calls that if she spends the money to come home then her bags will be waiting outside the front door for her. Don't put up with this...put your foot down!!!
2007-02-06 06:33:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
call the bank and tell them you wont authorize that amount, or report her card stolen....she sounds like a spoiled B. I would be greatful to spend time with my mom on a cruise, even if it was raining, i would find the best in the experience.
2007-02-06 06:39:30 · answer #9 · answered by Jake & Jamie T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would stay home with you, give you back massages, give you a candelight supper, thank you everyday for being a good provider and what more would I ask for. Too bad I met my soul mate already.
Ditch the spoiled *****, and find yourself someone who will appreciate you. The only thing you can do is to divorce her eventually when you have had enough.
2007-02-06 06:23:00 · answer #10 · answered by Emily L 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋