I knocked on my ex gf's door after seeing another rig there...was this wrong or a natural reaction to things?

Question

we broke up the week prior,and i stopped to leave her a note on her righ, and discovered another rig there. about a week after she moved out for "space". I stewed about it for hours and then beat on her door looking for answers. she has since accused me of stalking her..this was the first and last time i'd been by since the breakup..and we talked after the incident, but she essentially didn't want to explain her actions, and told me to not talk to her again..that was a week ago, and I haven't contacted her since that last conversation, save to send her an email (directly after getting of the phone and being told to leave her alone) telling her that i wasn't upset with her, and that while i was unhappy with her actions of moving on so quickly, that i would still like to be her friend when we get some time behind us and the situation. I just left it open ended and in her court. no contact since....going on a week, and i don't plan on contacting her. did i react wrongly? thoughts ppl?

Answer 1

It was wrong AND a natural reaction!

Answer 2

I think it was a natural reaction whether right or wrong. Obviously your ex definitely wants her space and that's exactly what you should give her. The email sounds like a good idea but I would drop any further attempts to contact her.
Wait on her to contact you. If she doesn't after a reasonable amount of time then she is no longer interested in you. As much as it may hurt you, you will get over it.
Don't be sitting around waiting to hear from her. Get yourself busy with activities you enjoy, spend more time with friends, etc. It may take some time, but she will become someone you think about less frequently to the point she will be a distant memory in the past.

Answer 3

ASK HER THE FOLLOWING; 1. Is the bed; the whole of the world; 2. Are the actions in bed with the partner; the only actions which can truly satisfy the self; give pleasantness to self; and make the self happy. TELL HER THE FOLLOWING; 3. If you have already tasted THE BEST; then would that be your last; If not; then obviously you have not yet been satisfied, felt pleasant, and gained happiness. 4. While The GOOD; is always found beyond THE BEST; and it includes THE BEST AS WELL; the best can be found every where and is not always THE GOOD. 5. The seekers of GOOD only; and none other; get them; All the rest merely get THE BEST only. 6. You will never ever feel satisfied, pleasant, and gain happiness; till the time you get the GOODNESS OF THE GOOD; AND FROM THE GOOD AS WELL. 7. TRY ME. .

Answer 4

Yes, I think you needed to completely leave her alone. Most of the time when someone says they need space. It means I am breaking up with you. I am sorry you are hurt, but I think if you continue to call, email, write or drive by her house at all, she may be correct in you being a stalker. Let is go and start dating other ladies. Maybe later when she see you are OK with out her and doing well, she will realize that she might have made an error in letting you go.?
Tracylyn S

Answer 5

You know how they say to count to 10 before you act/react? Maybe you should've counted to 10 before you reacted to this situation. What you did was a natural reaction but it would have been better if you have approached her at a later time and in a different context. With any other relationships you may have use this experience as a learning tool. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 6

She is probably embarressed about you finding out that she moved on so quickly. Most women don't get over a relationship that fast, and her actions with the other man might have just been incidental, not really what she wanted. I think you acted fine, and there is no reason for her to tell you to leave her alone.

Answer 7

Maybe the only why she broke up with you is so wanted to be with someone else? You finally found out the truth about her and hit it right now by seeing it with your own eyes - more like busted
her.

Maybe it is best you move on too. In relationship separation there is a thing or time period where you want to work things out. I know it is hard, believe me maybe you are last to know about her affair turning out to be a public relationship. Maybe now that you have found out more people will come out to tell you about her activities about while she was with you.

Answer 8

You did react a bit rashly a first, but you seem to have your head together now. For whatever reason, she has moved on and does not wish to have any contact with you. Give her what she wants. Erase her numbers and e-mail address, then go on with your life. Find someone new and you find yourself a whole lot happier than you will be sitting around trying to be her friend.

Answer 9

You're reaction was only natural. Perhaps you were looking for more reasons from her of why the two of you broke up.

At this point, I would leave the situation alone. You're only going to make matters worse on yourself.

Let go and move on.

Answer 10

Well, I mean not the best thing to do but you were angry and rightfully so, you didn't hit or hurt her and she was really screwing you over...so...
Anyway...you said yo wanted to be her frend..what kind of friends do you have?...she isn't friend material, and definately not girlfried material, she is gutless and she lied to you...you need to move on, be thankful you didn't marry the tramp...she did you a favor, now go find a nice girl with some class.!!!!

Answer 11

Ya it was wrong but understandable.Advice,stay away from her right now you don't need to know what she is doing it will just bug you. Use this time to do your own thing and remember time heals all wounds, you may not even want to be her friend in a short while. Good luck.