WHY do women act this way?

Question

OK so why is there women out there that complian about being pregnant. Why are there women out there that the minute they take that pregnancy test say their pants are too tight and want pickles or somthing weird to eat and want to take a nap. Why do they say becuase they are pregnant they can't clean their house or take care of their kid. It doesnt make sense. I keep seeing these people who are getting pregnant that really do not need kids at all. But yet there are women out there that deserve children and just can't conceive. I dont get it. Its amazing how pregnancy puts this stuff in your head that you actually believe. Why do these women act this way?

Answer 1

They think they can get away with it. They want the attention. Or they're just plain ignorant. If only they knew that there are women out there who want children but can't conceive or that there are pregnant women out there who actually have problems. I'll admit that I'm tired of being pregnant, and I feel exhausted, but I have a husband and child to take care of. No, I don't feel like cleaning or cooking. Yes, I want to sleep all day and indulge in every craving I suddenly get. Sometimes, I don't feel like watching my son. HOWEVER, I have responsibilities that I can't ignore or push off on someone else. No one forced me to have sex and get pregnant. And these women should take that into consideration.

Answer 2

Ok, about that lady with the husband and chores....that was a troll.

Anyway, in regards to your question/observation. I honestly don't think its your place to say who should and shouldn't be having kids. You/we don't know anyone's entire situation. Yes, it totally blows that some people can't conceive.

Lets just look at things from another standpoint. (1) every pregnancy is different. Just because you didn't experience weird cravings doesn't mean some people don't. (2) yes, due to bloating and other things, some people's pants do start to feel too tight right away. Perhaps its a second, third or fourth pregnancy. You show faster, pants tighter quicker. (3) the first trimester is rough on some. Some women NEED naps and most doctors encourage them. Man, lemmie tell you, I was exhausted this first trimester. (4) maybe someone can't clean their house cuz the fumes bother them or the doc said to take it easy. Now, there is no excuse for not taking care of the children you already have. Just don't judge someone before you know the whole story. And no, you don't know someone's whole story unless you are that person.

Answer 3

I get what your saying, but every woman and every pregnancy is different. I still wanted to do what I always do because I am a housewife and have 3 boys to take care of and my husband works out of town, but I have difficult pregnancies. Obviously not right when I see a test turn positive..lol. But later on. So if they do that as soon as they say they are pregnant then Im sure they are looking for attention. But as for me., With my last 2 anyways(I m 33 weeks with my 4th and on bedres for incompetent cervixt) I have had an extremely difficult time and am niot allowed to do any housework, etc...But I sure wish I could! It would beat laying in bed all day and having my mom have to come from out of town and take care of me and the kids. I do feel like others will think about me how you think though. Because people dont always know the story. But what Im saying is maybe some of those that do whine and complain really do have difficult pregnancies, while yes the others are just looking for sympathy and attention. Everyone is different.

Answer 4

I know someone who is exactly that way! Tries to use pregnancy as an excuse for everything.. Now heres me.. Im 17wks.. I still clean.. I crave stuff.. but i dont make a big deal about it. I live my life the way i did before.. just with a growing belly :) there are some ppl out there that use there pregnancy to get a bit more sympathy i think.. and some ppl take it WAAAAY too far. So i have to agree with you there! Just know ther ARE a lot of pregnant ladies out there that are NOT like that!

Answer 5

Well - when I was pregnant with my third, I didn't like being pregnant - I get huge and it is very uncomfortable. But, I took care of two other kids, went to all their parties and programs and field trips for school. Went and sat in the hot heat all spring and early summer for baseball and softball games. Organized and got together uniforms and registration and teams for pee-wee cheerleading in my town( I am the cheerleading commissioner). And... took care of the house and worked a job - all while I was pregnant. ( and I was 32)
While I may not have liked being huge - I love the kicks and moving and the sono's and everything that goes with it. And the best part is - the birth. There is no other feeling like it.
So, I don't know-
But I do hate it when they all of a sudden crave food - it is a mind thing. But, I was not fitting into my jeans at about 8 weeks and about 10, I had to stop wearing them and tell people because I was getting bigger. But it was my third.

Oh - I forgot to say - He was born in July, so I was very pregnant doing all these things, not just a little pregnant.

Answer 6

Have u ever been pregnant! Its a blessing but the first few month we go through hell. We are tired all the time from basically making a baby from scratch inside of ourselves and trying to get nutrition to the baby and ourselves, our clothes dont fit because we are bloated and gassy, doctors say take it easy, no heavy lifting so its kinda hard to vaccum stair when u can lift anything eavy. I have a 2 year old and im 1 month pregnant. I have had difficulties getting pregnant and my health isn great so i have to take it easy. Im married to a marine so im up at 5 cooking breakfast and im clean all day and cook and am last to go to sleep. We are not lazy or making excuses, we are growing life in our bodies...what is the problem! And yes our cravings are strong, by the time a preg. test comes back postitive then we are about a month along so cravings do start at around this time. If this is that bothersome to u then reasearch the symptoms of pregnancy before u critisize us . Now i gotta go take a nap because im lazy like that> Good day.

Answer 7

well.... have you ever been pregnant yourself? do you know what it means having a human being litterally growing inside you??? it is not a calamity, it is a great joy, whihc unfortunately comes with some unwanted pain and discomfort. i am pregnant, and yes i camplain that i can't get into my clothes anymore, i had to spend some money on maternity clothes; then some days, there is no energy at all, you feel run down, and can't do anything. so yes, you do the minimum in the house. rather do that than forcing your body to the point of exhaustion and losing consciousness alone in the house... i used to love chocolate, but now i can't stand the smell or the view of it, only because i am pregnant. women do not do this in purpose,the changes in our bodies are tremendous, the level of hormones is driving us crazy, and yet, we remain happy to go through this again and again and have a family. any women who can conceive and who has had a child feel very sorry for those who cannot. i sometimes think i should just have a baby and give it to those who are so desperate to have one and can't. because it must be terrible for a woman to want a child and not be abale to have one.
so my dear, when you get pregnant, you will understand what we go through, the good days and the bad ones, the pickles we want, the need for a nap in the mid morning or in the afternoon, we can't help it, it's purely scientific and natural, not childish.

Answer 8

I am pregnant with #4. My pants did not fit at about 6 weeks along. I can't take care of my kids or my house with being on strict bed rest. Perhaps women complain about it because it isn't all fine and dandy! Perhaps because they have preterm labor issues, preeclampsia, or a low lying placenta and need some advice. Or perhaps you are just looking at those of us that don't breeze through pregnancy and not notice it! Maybe the women who cant conceive need to understand that just because we can does not mean that it is the most wonderful, happy 40 weeks of our lives. We love our children but sometimes life gets difficult. Why not show some understanding and compassion?

Answer 9

Pregnancy affects different women in different ways and you shouldn't judge them. Who decides who needs children, who deserves children and who doesn't? The ability to get pregnant has nothing to do with need or worthiness. Some women are able to get pregnant and some have trouble. Women who can get pregnant shouldn't have to feel guilty that other women can't and if they complain about not feeling well or being tired it's not because they think anyone else is unworthy of being pregnant.

Answer 10

Some women are just attention seekers. I am 4 months and still wearing my same clothes, work 40 hours a week, clean, do laundry, have dinner ready for my husband when he gets home, take care of our 4 yr old son. Take him to pre-k and day care and will start taking him to soccer practice in 3 weeks. Also.....I have NO CRAVINGS at all. I think some of these women are probably 1st time mothers who are just following suit to what they have heard other pregnant women say. They'll get over it after a while