I'm a teen and I think i'm having ababy?

Question

i'm 16 year old going on 17 pretty soon me and my b/f was not
planning on having a child and i think i'm pregnant and what should i do and should i get rid of it

Answer 1

Nice way of putting it. "Get rid of it". This is a child, a human being, at least be mature enough to use respect enough to use proper terms.

You need to sit down and talk to your boyfriend and both sets of parents to decide what is going to be your best bet. This is a PERMANENT decision. One that will effect your life, your boyfriend's life and this child's life.

Answer 2

First thing is to find out if you are actually pregnant. If you are, then you have several options, please do not consider an abortion. It has many long term affects on the mother, and their are loads of mariied couple who would love to have children but are unable. If you don't think you want to keep the little one for yourself, then realize that adoption is always an incredible option. You said your boyfriend wasn't planning on having a chid, and I doubt you were either. No one is planning to have a baby at that age. However, you can't go back and change the situation, but remember that there are better options than abortion.

If you are not pregnant and don't want to becme pregnant, then you should consider better forms of protection. Condoms and birth control pills are effective, but NEVER 100%. The only way to make sure you don't end up pregnant is to not have sex. That is a personal choice, but if your choice is to be sexually active, then use protection.

Good luck, and I hope everything turns out for the best.

Answer 3

I think abortion is very wrong, but excusable in certain situations. You should think about it very carefully. You are sucking out a human being from your belly and killing it. There are other solutions like adoption. You are very young still and have a whole life a head of you. Talk to your boyfriend about it...I am sure he is still very young also, and both of you are not ready to start a family. The least embarrassing thing to do, with out your parents knowing that their little girl is pregnant, is having an abortion. But think about what you are doing and be more careful next time. You are also more likely to get pregnant again after being pregnant once. Also, if you decide to keep it, remember it is going to be hard to raise a family and finish school, you don't want to be a drop out because then it will be hard to get a job, just remember, you are going to be in for a hard life, vs doing the family thing the right way and easier way!

Good luck with your choice, it is going to be a hard one!

Answer 4

Start with a test...

If it is negative, count your blessings because a baby would really be hard on everyone right now. And take more precautions with sexual activity.

If it is positive, educate yourself on all your choices. Then tell your BF, then both tell both families and everyone decide together what to do.

Abortion is something I say I disagree with, and morally, I do, but I have never been in your situation and it will be a hard choice to make if that is what you decide. It is a big deal, you are interrupting life. It may be a fairly simple medical procedure, but it has a lot of lasting physical and psychological effects.

You can let the baby be adopted, there is a chance that someone in your family will adopt him, or you can give it to someone local, or distant, or open or closed adoption. There are pros and cons to all these choices depending on who is available to take the baby, how much you want to be involved with the baby's life, etc.

You can have the baby and raise him. You need to be prepared to do this without the boyfriend, as supportive as he may be now, he may not always be there. It will most definitely take a toll on your relationship so if you want to stay together, get counseling now and work on trust, parenting, communication, team building, etc so you will be a higher functioning parent. Also start setting goals for yourselves...so you can get income and childcare figured out, finish your education, and be a good parent.

No matter what you decide, you will need a lot of support during this time, you are really too young to be having a baby. No matter how smart, mature, etc you are, developmentally, you are not emotionally prepared to deal with all this in our culture. You aren't even ready to face the world by yourself yet, much less to go out there this young with a baby. It must be horribly overwhelming for you right now. So my advice is to get some counselling for yourself, and lean heavy on friends and family support.

Listen to your parents especially. They aren't stupid, they raised YOU so they have some experience, and they will probably be very involved in the life of this baby, and thus very affected by the choice you have made. So taking their needs and wants into consideration is very important. Not kissing up...but being honestly grateful for their help. Your choices may have seriously affected their lives...retirement, plans for the future, everyday routines if they are helping with childcare, not to mention hoping their baby has a good life. Trust me this is not what they hoped for you when you were little. So they will be grieving the good life you might have had a lot more easily than if this was not your situation.

There is always hope for better days. Fortunately, there seems to be a lot more understanding and support in schools for teen mothers...and there are govt programs to help with basic needs. You can finish your education, build a career and support this baby financially if you want to...but it will be an easy temptation to just go on welfare and let the system take care of you. It's not a good life. You will have to work your butt off to overcome that situation.

God bless you and take care of you in this time.

Answer 5

Its a SAD state of events when the youth of America talk about a child as if it were a piece of trash. How would you feel about yourself if your mother had taken that stance on you!? There are options out there. Having the child and giving up so that a LOVING FAMILY will take care of something you see as trash. There are families out there who cannot have children, give that child a chance. Your going to kill a child that DID NOT ASK to be brought into this world, by a selfish teenager who is thinking only of herself. News flash, he might want to be a daddy ... give that some thought. Next time you decide to mess around, think twice. Marriage then sex sweetheart! Talk to your parents!

Answer 6

tell him. talk to your parents. do not get rid of the baby just because your guy doesnt want kids. you can raise a baby on your own.if you want to. of course your life will change but that is something you have to think about and decide on your own. dont let anyone make the choice for you. most important, talk to your parents!!!!! and find out for sure if you are pregnant before you start freaking out!!

Answer 7

If you cannot keep your baby, I would seriously consider adoption. If you feel you cannot handle the pregnancy, have an abortion, but make sure you use a condom and birth control. Better yet, don't have sex until you can deal with the consequences.

Answer 8

Go through it til the end you could do it. A child is a blessing do not get rid of it.

Answer 9

You need to sit down with your boyfriend and your parents and find out what the best option is for you. Maybe your parents will want you to keep it or adoption is always a good option.

Answer 10

NO keep him or her this is a child you were the one that made the mistake do not let the incense child pay for your wrong doing or have it then put him or her up for adoption!!!!!