Why after 15 years divorced my EX will not talk or look at me .We were married for 25 years and both have remarried,My grown children will not invite both of us at the same time at xamas or birthday,he tld the children if I am there he wont be.His wife is very vendtive and wants him to only be with her children and refuses to have anthing with his,and this is rhe kicker he is retired now and 2 years ago our son-in law became a quadrapaligic and he will not help his daughter or grand children out our daughter was only 32 when this happen.
2007-02-06 06:07:38 · 7 answers · asked by Kathy C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am not sure of the entire situation, but going from what you posted here, it seems as if she (the ex's second wife) is controlling him. This happens all too often, and (sadly) is rather common.
He needs to grow some balls and tell that woman that those are his children, no matter WHO he is with and treat them as such. He's not acting like a real father at all. Just be thankful that your daughter was at such an age when all this happened, and not much younger (as most children who are affected by divorce are). Thank goodness she was old enough to realize what is truly happening, and she isn't getting used as a pawn.
Maybe you are better off without him around. I don't know about you, but I wouldn't want to be around someone who feels the same about me. That's just my take on it, though.
We can always hope that he will come to his senses and see how truly ridiculous he is acting. Until then, hang in there and take care. :)
2007-02-06 06:21:19 · answer #1 · answered by polishedamethyst 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hold on, if you talking about helping them financially you are wrong the man is retired why would he need to be required to help them out what make you think that he has enough to live with his retirement money. I can understand that once in a while
for a special occasion he will put something in an envelop but to be required that is wrong when does a parent sentence is over
give this man a brake if you decide to helpout financially that is your business as you say your daugther is 34 now should she not take care of her family
it has been 15 years let go so you can be happy
as for your daugther it is her job not her fathers to take care of her family and I am sorry about her husband
and let his new wife off your comment because it seems that you are the vendictive one, darling I am an X and a new wife
the X has blame me for things that I know nothing about it
But one think I have say & promise myself that I will never make my X h feel that his children or I were a life sentence and when will he ever be free
children are blessings not jail time a parent need to use agains one another
1-Get over your X
2- your daugther is a growing woman she should take care of her own family
3- Take care of your new husband (you might loss him over your anger for your X)
2007-02-06 06:40:17 · answer #2 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I still feel very bitter on my divorce, I did not want it to begin with, I wanted my ex-husband to come home (I waited for him for one week and got frustrated). This guy was fooling around and I did not know, his girl friend took off on him after two weeks he realized this - he tried to patch things up by sending someone to the house to talk to me.
When my ex was trying to be Mr Nice Guy to talk to me, I asked never to talk to me as long as he lives. I mean it.
I walked away with nothing in the divorce, it is best he keeps his distance. Divorce is a hard procedures especially when people re-marry.
Maybe your daugther should talk to him, can he really afford to help them out? Maybe it is not like he does not want to help them out?
2007-02-06 06:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by Emily L 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just call him up and tell him that whatever happened between the two of you should have no impact on his realationship with his kids and that even though the kids are grown they still need their Dad.Beyond that it really is between him and your kids, as grown-ups they are going to have to deal with this on their own.
2007-02-06 07:13:07 · answer #4 · answered by Angela C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's just what he is a P.O.S .
I'm been divorced for years and still see my kids and the Ex .
My fiance has no problem with this situation
2007-02-06 06:51:42 · answer #5 · answered by Jackal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 15-years you are still trying to tell him what to do and putting him down in front of the world. I hope you treat your new husband better.
2007-02-06 06:58:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps you never realised in the years you were married how weak he actually was. How much of the marriage did you shoulder alone?
2007-02-06 06:11:52 · answer #7 · answered by mizz.squitz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋