to be happy all the time? As for my self I hate being pregnant. I hate it. I can't have my coffee in the morning (starbucks) I cant dye my hair so how I have two sets of hair color (black and red) I cant go out with my friends and more to bar or clubs. I cant do anything fun any more. Ok why cant thing like washing dishes, laundry, ext.. be bad for the baby. BUT yet I work 40 hours plus a week and I feel sick all day. And yet my boyfriend wants me to have sex with him. He has to be ot of his mind. I no idea how some women go through this.
2007-02-06 05:55:29 · 31 answers · asked by trish 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
And yes I do live with my boyfriend,
I just want to have this baby already
2007-02-06 06:02:39 · update #1
1 Yes, a lot of things do suck. For me -- nothing fits, I can't take shits... Etc.
2 The 'trying to conceive' crowd = the only ones bitchier than the already-pregnant, it seems...
3 You doth protest too much.
Re. coffee:
http://www.clarionledger.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20070206/HEALTH/702060305/1242/health
Re. booze:
http://www2.potsdam.edu/hansondj/FetalAlcoholSyndrome.html
http://dovercanyon.typepad.com/women_wine_critics_board/2006/01/wine_and_pregna.html
You can have a reasonable amount of coffee. You can even have _a_ glass of wine when you go out (and why on earth can't you go out?).
4 Get a cat. Emptying the litterbox while pregnant _is_ bad. Makes the "why can't laundry be bad for me?" easier.
5 You might actually want loads of sex in the 2nd trimester; in the meantime, buy him some porn and a box of Kleenex. Really.
6 "no idea how some women go through this" -- I have no idea how women keep full-time jobs through it. I nap quite a bit now during the day; I'd find a job impossible.
7 Most importantly, you're supposed to've joined the conspiracy of the baby-crazy, telling everybody it's wonderful and beautiful and you just adore throwing up on your vile elastic-waist maternity trousers. There's some idea out there that the woman who dislikes pregnancy also magically dislikes babies and motherhood. You're _supposed_ to say "It's the best thing that ever happened to me," or else people are completely justified in saying "You should've kept your legs closed, you filthy tramp." Didn't you know that?
2007-02-06 06:16:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I completely understand. I am 34-weeks pregnant, and I can honestly tell you that I am tired of being pregnant and want this over with. You can have Starbucks-there were studies done saying that a cup or two a day is not harmful to the baby. Just make sure you drink lots of water during the rest of the day. Also, you can dye your hair. Just make sure it's one of the low ammonia types. You can still go out with friends; although, I'd stay away from bars and clubs because there tends to be a lot of smoking done in them, and that's definitely not healthy. Go out to eat at a good restaurant or go see a movie. There are things you can do to enjoy yourself. The 40-hours or more a week sucks, so I would let your boyfriend know that he can help around the house, too. My husband was never one to do any of that until I was pregnant with our son. I sat him down and told him I needed his help or else it wasn't going to get done. And the sex-thing...compromise. Once or twice a week should be good. If you really don't like doing it, then there are other ways to please him...and it's a lot quicker!
2007-02-06 06:15:59 · answer #2 · answered by herefordsun 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Good news Trish! I saw on the news the other night that there was a study about pregnant women and caffeine - and the results showed that the babies came out just the same as those who's mothers didn't drink caffeine! Check out the website...
Also, I don't see any harm in dying your hair once to match your natural color - the colorist can do it so it won't touch your scalp.
For your morning sickness.. (why they call it morning sickness? It lasts all freaking day...) Try taking vitamin B-6 with your prenatals at night with a snack. This cured my morning sickness in about 3 days.
When you get further along in your pregnancy, your hormones will kick in an you will want to have sex more often. Until then, your BF can either take matters into his own hands or you might just lend him a hand to keep him happy. :)
As for the other stuff, I am sorry you feel that way. When I was pregnant, I was just too excited and happy about having a baby to let it bother me that much.
Your boyfriend has a big roll in helping you - you shouldn't have to bother so much with housework. He should be doing it - you are busy making a whole new person!
Perhaps when you start preparing for the arrival, you will be more excited. I had a blast shopping for baby and setting up her room.
Take care and sleep as much as you can.... you're gonna need it!
2007-02-06 06:11:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I do know how you feel, my husband was sometimes less than supportive when I was pregnant with our first. It was the hottest summer on record (1988) and since we didn't have A/C, I spent a lot of my time in the basement where it was cooler. Not very exciting but I got a lot of reading done, and I was thankful I wasn't working at the time. But my husband went out with his friends and even went out of town on vacation twice without me. I lost weight because I couldn't eat in the heat, and I had my doctor complaining about that. At the time I was not dying my hair, but I was perming it and was told I couldn't do that, or have any coffee. I think things have changed somewhat since then. Check with your doctor first, but maybe try the decaf and the natural hair dyes. I think you should go out with your friends too, you need to have some fun. If you're concerned about the smoke or not being able to drink, maybe go out for lunch or dinner instead, or to a funny movie.
When our baby was born, my husband became very helpful and supportive, getting up in the night, changing diapers, doing housework, running errands. When our second one was born, my husband was great. So hopefully your boyfriend will come around when yours is born. If he loves you, he will understand that you're not really in the mood for sex right now, or maybe just try different positions. You don't say how far along you are, but I remember feeling really sexy during my 2nd and 3rd trimesters after the queasiness was gone, even though I looked like a whale!
Best wishes to you and I hope things get better for you soon. Congratulations on your new little-one-to-be!
2007-02-06 06:29:08 · answer #4 · answered by mom of 2 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Haha. You are too funny and right on the money! Sometimes when Im bored I feel like that.
But you can have some coffee...in moderation, just drink lots of water too.
You can dye your hair. Just use a low amonia dye and be well venulated. If you have to get it done in a salon, think about going 1 color until after the baby gets here, so you arent two toned.
As for the sex...im in the boat with you. But you will feel better. You will slowly get used to the lifestyle change. And for the meantime tell your sweetie to "take matters into his own hands".
2007-02-06 06:03:29 · answer #5 · answered by MommyTwice-TwiceTheLove 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
That is an old wive's tale that you cannot have caffine while pregnant. My doctor, and recent studies have claimed that 2-3 8oz cups of regular coffee...or one double shot esspresso had little or no effect on the baby. I had my 2 cups of coffee an hour before my ultra sound with my son and his heartrate was the same as when I had an ultra sound with no coffee before. You can dye your hair after the first trimester, but I always use Herbal Essences...no ammonia so it smells better. If the club is smoke free you can still go out. Just drink juice instead of alcohol. Pregnancy is not like a jail sentence.
2007-02-06 06:02:23 · answer #6 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
goodness me
sounds so bloody tough
be grumpy if you want. i think a little grumpiness is good for what ails you
you sound like you need to inject some fun into your day..... just for you.
get some mates around and have an eating fest, book yourself a facial this weekend and tell your boyfriend that back massages are what is needed in the bedroom for a little while.
and i guess the most important things to remember is that it will all end soon and there are babysitters out there just waiting to allow you a morning in Starbucks, followed by the afternoon in the hairdresser and a long evening of debauchery with alcohol and friends
for now though...... sounds like you need some pampering
2007-02-06 06:08:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Because maybe they're not the one thet's carrying the extra weight around, and they don't have to watch everything they eat and drink. Just ignore them, and just try to be happy. And as far as you not being happy because you're pregnant without a husband is a bunch of BULL! Don't listen to negative people. Try doing some of the things you like, or maybe even having a day of pampering at the Spa. Good Luck and hope things work out for you. Just remember to keep your head up and this all will be over soon!
2007-02-06 06:10:44 · answer #8 · answered by Shannonsfirst 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well I kind of agree with you when you are talking about working 40 hours, but the clubbing thing is where you have to be realistic. Being pregnant is a blessing that many women can not say that they can have for whatever reason. Please be mindful that it is a great thing to be the "bearer of life" and some women would jump at the chance that you have right now. You can drink and hang out once baby comes right now just relax and prepare for the addition in your life.
2007-02-06 06:02:45 · answer #9 · answered by shaniel f 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Just becasue your pregnant, doesn't mean you can't have fun!!! I go out to the bar with my friends, but i only drink sprite. It was hard at first, because i used to be a big partier, but now im alright with it.
But i totally agree with you about everything else. I don't know how people expect us to be so happy all the time!! Sure, im happy that im pregnant, but honestly, im tired, puffy, bloated, and getting bigger, yet my fiance still expects me to have sex with him. I really do wish i could dye my hair again. I think thats the first thing im doing after i have my baby!!
Just stick through it. Its all worth it in the end!!
2007-02-06 06:01:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋