Her father doesn't really say much to her about it. I went on her page today and she says that she needs a boyfriend fast on her heading! I was a bit shocked and couldn't believe it! She is 10 years old, has an attitude, doesn't listen and does what she wants. She is being interviewed for various schools that offer advance education because she is academically smart and advanced in my subjects. She gets bad progress reports over and over again for not respecting her elders or other students because she doesn't stop talking in class. I am concerned because MySpace is full of predators and many kids will make the mistake of meeting sick people online. I don't know if I should mention this to her parents.
2007-02-06 05:46:16 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
from the way you're describing it it sounds like her parent's don't discipline her much. i'm not sure that mentioning it will do any good.
2007-02-06 05:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by 'Lissa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most definitely speak to her parents. You are correct to be concerned. At age 10 a boyfriend is the LAST THING she needs.
My guess is that her parents don't know how to discipline her which is why she is so "outspoken" to people. Is there an older sister who might chat with her about waiting for a boyfriend and about being careful on MySpace? Sometimes kids take information better from another youngster than an adult.
If you truly love your niece. you need to intervene. Her parents should be monitoring her Myspace page - or even take it away if she continues to be rude. It's time they stepped up to take their place as parents and NOT allow her to always have her way.
Sometimes letting kids do what they want is just easier, but that is not parenting. Be sure when she is with you that you set limits - then enforce them. At first she may rebel, but I'll bet she will eventually come around and you will be her favorite uncle. Kids want limits, but won't ask for them.
You might also suggest family counseling to the parents. They need to re-learn who is supposed to be in charge.
2007-02-06 05:59:18 · answer #2 · answered by momkat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would mention it to the parents and see how they respond. I would state it in a way to make them think of what they would do if something did happen to her because she met somebody on that site. And maybe talk to the girl also and let her know about the people on that site. I'm 26 and I don't even want a myspace page. Give me a break, I can find friends and "boyfriends" without it.
My personal opinion is she is wayyyy too young to have that. I would definately mention it to the parents and even right in front of the girl and see how she reacts to it. Good luck with this one!
2007-02-06 05:57:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, i definately think that 10 years old is way too young to have a myspace, because they may not know how to deal with the inevitable perdators that try to prey on the young and vulnerable via the internet. A myspace is a fun thing to have if your just using it with your friends but a 10 year old will most likely not know or understand the dangers of putting your personal information out there for all to see.
2007-02-06 05:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by rebekah u 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she wants to grow up a little too fast but it's not that uncommon nowadays. Make sure that her parents are aware of what she is up to (most don't know). Stress to them that they should be aware of what she is posting and that there are predators out there and just wanted them to know. Then the rest is up to them.
If you are at all close to your niece I would also have a chat with her about your concerns. However going by her attitude I would suspect that she would just dismiss your concern.
This girl has some serious issues besides the account. If the parents don't start addressing her attitude, rudeness and listening to people of authority, it will get worse. They better get control ASAP. I wonder if she is very unhappy with herself and seeks this attitude for attention.
2007-02-06 06:00:43 · answer #5 · answered by trojan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could be wrong, but for children of the age, Myspace does not let anybody view her profile unless she accepts them as a friend. This doesn't mean that she's not going to accept random people who could be predators.
I'm highly concerned about her heading, "I need a boyfriend fast." I think you should have a talk with her father about this. I think she should be allowed to a have a myspace to communicate with her friends, as it is a very good medium to do so through. However, I think that her father, or even you, should have acces to it, including the password. Check out her friends' profiles, especially their "Top 8."
Going through her Myspace could be a great way to spy on her actually, and see who she's hanging out with and what she's doing.
2007-02-06 05:51:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, talk with her parents about it. Considering the father already knows and doesn't say anything to her is a problem as well. My daughter is 10 and I monitor any internet activity she has. She is not allowed to go on sites that are questionable like Myspace, or even Yahoo Answers for that matter.
2007-02-06 05:52:46 · answer #7 · answered by teashy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the parents are to busy to look into what little sally's doing! Have they NOT been watching the news. Kids are being louring away by creeps on the net! I would ensure that what ever computer is in the house was in the living room and EVERYONE can see what shes doing and who shes talking to! There is some great software that one can get that will BLOCK address parents do not want kids looking at, it also tracks where they have been and kids don't even know its there!! It works great!!!!!
2007-02-06 06:44:27 · answer #8 · answered by PSYCHO DAISY MAE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong for her to have a my space account. There is a link on there to where you can go to report a person who puts a false age, when setting the account up. It wont let them set it up unless they are at least 14. If she has an account than she must of put an older age. That can be very dangerous too. Just report her page on a link they give you on there and they will delete her account. She doesn't even have to know that your the one who did it. Good luck, and yes I do think that you should tell her parents. =)
2007-02-06 06:28:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not right. Send that kid off to boot camp or better yet boarding school. Sounds like her parents are raising her correctly. And she can't have a Myspace until 14 so how is she getting one now unless her mom or dad made it for her?
2007-02-06 09:48:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be rude, but was she was she whipped when she was young? I'm doing a phsycological study on the results of kids when they're disciplined when they're young.
Anyway. If she's as fast as you describe, delete that MySpace. You can't be sure what she'll do, and even though we kids are warned excessively about internet pervs, we ignore it or get curious.
2007-02-06 07:37:35 · answer #11 · answered by The Girl With All the Answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋