2007-02-06 05:42:59 · 30 answers · asked by Lurker 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
married to a woman
2007-02-06 05:46:39 · update #1
In my humble and nervous opinion, I think it's possible to have strong feelings for two people at the same time, but I think you can only truly love one person at a time.
2007-02-06 05:44:45 · answer #1 · answered by Kedar 7 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Yes and it has happened plenty of times - I know of at least 3 men personally that this has happened to (I am a straight, married woman) and it is common so do not feel like you are the only one. There are also many organizations for men like yourself to help you go through difficult situations and decisions. There are even groups for wives dealing with their husbands turning to bi/gay. Some even stay married and live happy lives! There is a group called GAMMA (http://www.gay-married.org/) that can help you further. Also society is becoming more aware now of these situations - look at "Brokeback Mountain" which is a beautiful movie. The good thing here is that you have found love and perhaps in two different spots! Unfort. such a good news sometimes brings heartbreak so make sure to think things out carefully and with time. Don't forget about your wife and if you have children. Best of luck!
2007-02-06 05:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by Gemma H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe this can happen. I believe that people who are in same sex relationships are there for different reasons. I do not believe all of them were born that way. But I do believe that a man can love a man some very good friends of ours are gay and have been together for OMG 17 yrs or more. They love each other very much. I think for someone to say no to this question is a coldhearted person with No feeling for another human of any kind.
2007-02-06 06:14:59 · answer #3 · answered by MissT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope to God that you let your wife know that you are gay, because clearly you are. Please do so with earnest as there are many persons in this world who would be deeply disappointed if you were to infect your wife with some form of disease. While I won't go off the deep end and say HIV/AIDS, although that's possible, I think many persons today are being much more careful in preventing the disease. But you can however infect her with stuff like e-coli, etc as bieng GAY you guys practice anal sex, and then having sex with ur wife is definately NOT COOL.
I wonder sometimes why are some gay men so cruel. Why can't you just be with your men and leave women out of your web of deception. You need to tell your wife ASAP and let her go, you know that you are G-A-Y and there's no turning back.
Please give your wife the opportunity to be with a heterosexual man, because clearly you aren't.
2007-02-06 06:01:38 · answer #4 · answered by Noodle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, people are capable of loving many people, all in different ways. The love you may feel for this man will be different than what you feel for your wife or for your kids. The question becomes whether you act upon it and whatever consequences that may happen should you take that step.
However, it is very possible to love a man and yet remain dear friends. You agree not to cross the line. It is difficult, but he may respect you all the more as a man who has kept his vows to his wife.
2007-02-06 05:47:05 · answer #5 · answered by sagegranny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course. With the social pressures to fit the normal mold, people will sometimes form a life that is easier than one that is more honest. What you need to determine is if the married man is willing to give up the life he knows to explore what may be stronger and more honest feelings.
There are gay men everywhere who are married to women. Some are willing to leave the comfort of their lives to be who they are; some lack that willingness. Love is patient, but love should not be blind. Give this a chance, but don't give it years you can be loving another.
Some people are never willing to give up what they know for what they want. Some are. You obviously know him pretty well, determine what kind of person he is.
2007-02-06 05:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by karebear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 12:14:53 · answer #7 · answered by bason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do think this is possible. I've always said that if two people totally are meant for each other, it shouldn't matter what sex they are. There is more to relationships than the sexual aspect. Too many people in our society focus only on the sexual aspect. However, if you are sincerely falling in love with this man, you need know if he feels the same way, and you need to discuss this with your spouse, to be fair with them.
2007-02-06 05:49:49 · answer #8 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes - though you don't state whether the married man is married to a man or a woman.
Some people unfortunately fall in and out of love with each other.
2007-02-06 05:45:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Of course. Happens all the time. Just because a man is married to a woman doesn't mean he's even "straight", just conforming to society's expectations.
2007-02-06 06:10:03 · answer #10 · answered by kena2mi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course. He could be polygamous or he could have married to hide his actual sexuality or he could have just realized his sexuality later in life. That is what happened to my mother. My parents were maried for nearly 15 years before my mother realized she preferred woman and now she is happily living with her partner of 5 years. Unless the man you are talking about is you, you are in no place to judge anothers sexuality or their ability to love more than one person.
2007-02-06 05:48:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋