Why it is so difficult to find a honest, loving, not selfish and understanding friends. Any suggestions to find a good friend, who can be there for you talk you through. I have always given my 100% as a friend but I am always been betrayed and back stabbed by friends. Few years ago there were good times when friends were your life, prehaps world is moving too fast and friends and frienships are moments of past.
2007-02-06 05:40:52 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Plain in simple, most people just dont care anymore about other people and more wound up in their own little world to care. Sad, as it sounds, get a pet. They are honest, loving, dont know about understanding. But no matter how bad of a day you had, they will always love you the same.
2007-02-06 05:44:44 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
When you are young, you have the time and people available to have friends involved in much of your life. As you move into the workforce, the time you have drops quite a bit as you struggle with keeping a job, finding a place to live and so on. By the end of the day you might be too tired to go out with friends or it may be too late since you have to be up so early the next day. The same thing is true of your old friends.
I've found that I just have a very few friends and try to enjoy the time I spend with my family and coworkers. I'll still check in on my old friends from school but it's just a "So how'd your life turn out?" type of thing.
2007-02-06 05:50:01 · answer #2 · answered by J D 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree, its hard to trust people these days, it is hard to find friends that are loyal, trustworthy and real, and there for you when it matters, I am yet to find an abundance of real people that are genuine although they are not completely impossible to find be strong in yourself and know what you want from a friend and when you meet friends set the boundaries if they don't match up then move on either they will respect you more and become the friend you deserve or you will meet another friend worth your while in the future, don't accept any form of betrayal, or selfishness because if you do they will continue to use you and walk all over you knowing you will forgive and forget.
2007-02-06 15:33:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people change, but keep yourself open for more friends. Try doing something different, perhaps you will meet a whole new type of friend. If there is a hobby or sport that you have always wanted to try then get involved with a group or club. A true friend rarely comes along but that doesn't mean they are not out there. You just haven't crossed paths yet.
2007-02-06 05:48:45 · answer #4 · answered by tman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you on some points, friendship isn't what it was years ago. I don't have the problem of being backstabbed but it truly is hard to find a good friend, someone to really share your life with, good times and bad, special times, not so special times. Maybe you are choosing your friends from the wrong "material". Where do you find them? Try looking in churchs, or join groups which share likes (athletic clubs, chess clubs, reading clubs, etc.). Good luck and God Bless.
2007-02-06 05:46:10 · answer #5 · answered by tersey562 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop expecting people to backstab you. If that is what you expect then that is what will happen. Maybe you need to look at yourself and see if there is a reason everybody is acting that way. Also get better friends, stop choosing the same old loosers to be your firneds anymore. Most of all, if you really start to trust people and stop thinking that the world is out to get you, then you would be amazed at how much easier it will be to find really good friends.
2007-02-06 05:46:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Moral & religious values are shrinked. People least bothered about the preachings of epics like Bible, Granth Sahib, Mahabharat, Geeta etc., they go through it as if these are fiction,or stories. Educated people do not believe in existence of god and not fearful at all while betraying others, People in past are dread of curse etc. People become materailstic now.
Try if you can trust yourself and can be a good friend to yourself
2007-02-06 06:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by gurdip_homeo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree..i dont know how old you are..but as you get older you will realize that people change, sometimes we are soo busy with work and school and kids that we dont have time for friends like we did when we were in high school..people grow and change and sometimes you have to drift away from friends..me personally i dont have alot of friends..i have learned from past experience that friends are not always going to be there for you and will not always have your back..they are more quicker to stab you in the back than anything else....i say be content with the person you are..dont go trusting females..beware of females friends...i am sorry to say but females will stab you in the back...I once had a female friend/co-worker who was the devil in deguise...
if you are a guy the same goes for guys..be careful with guy friends.........good luck
2007-02-06 05:52:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's difficult. Yes, you must search intensively. But never give up! Think positive and don't pay attention to the little defects of the others. Be yourself and the life will attract to you the people you deserve. Good people really exsist. You can see the angel in disgise in the person beside you...
2007-02-06 05:48:19 · answer #9 · answered by savoya1978 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sturgeon's law: 90% of everything is crap. Good friend's are as hard to find as good books or good customer service or good bosses. Also building good friendships takes time. The people I consider good friends are people I've known for 10-20 years. After years of being there through thick and thin you know who you can count on.
2007-02-06 05:46:54 · answer #10 · answered by Queen of Cards 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋