My daughters father and I were never married. I did however recently marry my wonderful husband who is also a fantastic father to my daughter seeing as how her real one isn't around but one hour once a month. Everything with her father is really hairy and messy. I haven't been with him for a year and a half because he was violent towards me and when I went to leave one day with my daughter he got angry and went to hit me but missed and hit my daughter. This is something I will never forgive him for and because of his actions, the court has ordered him to complete tasks not only to prove it is safe for our daughter to be around him but also to prove he can take care of a child. Until he completes his tasks, he can only see Aliyah 1 hour once a month. I hate that he is my daughters father, I can't stand him. He calls to speak to her at his convenience and throws daggers at me every time..meaning he is always trying to start something with me by putting me down and blaming me. (continued)
2007-02-06 05:23:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Myself and my husband solely support my daughter in every way! We pay for everything and raise her. Meanwhile, her real father sits back and claims to love her so much that she is his heart and soul but won't pay a penny in child support or go forward in his case to see her more. I have given him and ultimatum, either do whats right or sign her over so that my husband can 'Legaly' assume the responsibility of her like we both want...that may be wrong but I see her father as a person that will ALWAYS hurt her. He still to this day, blames me for him hitting her and all I was tryign to do was get us out before we got hurt. He escaped all charges pushed on him by the state and hasn't learned a damn thing...I don't want that man around my daughter unsupervised and i'd rather he just go away!!! Is there anything I can do to have his rights taken away?! Screw the money, I can do it just like I have been. Any advice would help, I think for the most part I was just venting
2007-02-06 05:29:41 · update #1
One of his tasks is to pay child support and I have gone to the Dept of revenue but even with his correct address and phone number... they said they are unable to locate him and will continue to looks, what good those jerks are!! I can't afford and attorney, My husband is having problems with his ex so we have to take her to court to get visitaion. I have a court appointed attorney but he is awful, I had to report him to the Florida Bar Association because he was a no show to court twice. Idiots, ruined his career!
2007-02-06 06:22:02 · update #2
get a restraining order
2007-02-06 05:30:14 · answer #1 · answered by ktrxw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can really do. He was already on trial for hitting your daughter...he many not have been punished, but he can't be tried again.
He hasn't done anything violent since and there is no reason a court would force him to reliquish rights. Your best bet is to go after him for child support and go after him hard for back payments and all. You may be able to get him to relinquish rights if you forgive the child support payments, but until the court is after him to pay he can just sit back and be a jerk.
2007-02-06 14:00:02 · answer #2 · answered by Cyber Stalker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Until it can be legally changed (a family law attorney can help you here) you have to tolerate the 1 hour once a month. But nothing else. When he calls, just say politely, "Aliyah isn't available." If the phone rings again a second later, don't answer it. Don't tolerate--don't even have--blaming and put-down conversations. Consider him a bit-role character in your life.
2007-02-06 13:53:57 · answer #3 · answered by Wise Advice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Limit your time with him, do not respond to any of the iappropriate comments.... just, don't respond, hon... shut the hell up, and ignore him.... And if you can, take a second adult with you.....
You might get an attorney (sorry, those guys are indeed costly) to help set up situations where he is not alone with either of you --- supervised visits.... it his actions are so out of control, you may get the court to suspend his visitation rights until he gets some anger management therapy.... Good luck, hon. Messy.
2007-02-06 13:32:28 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to talk to a lawyer, there are things you can do to protect your self and your family, and if that does not work, if he is such a low life maybe you could pay him to sign away his parental rights? or seek out someone that can make him disappear.
2007-02-06 13:36:43 · answer #5 · answered by Sir Hard & Thick 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ONLY THING YOU CAN DO IS SEEK LEGAL ACTION. AND IT SOUNDS LIKE HE'S HANGING HIS OWN SELF BY NOT COMPLETING WHAT THE COURT TOLD HIM TO DO. SO LET HIM HANG HIMSELF AND WHEN THE TIME IS UP AND HE HASN'T COMPLETED HIS "ASSIGNMENT" BY THE COURT, MAKE SURE AND GO BACK TO HIS HEARING AND SEE IF YOU CAN TESTIFY AGAINST HIM AT THAT POINT.
2007-02-06 13:35:19 · answer #6 · answered by sweetbabykitty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your attorney general in your state can do this for child support. it will take alot of paper work but they can do it.
2007-02-10 02:40:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to an attorney.
2007-02-06 13:34:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move far far away so he can't see her so often. Moving far away will make it financially and practically inconvenient for him to see her.
2007-02-06 21:05:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋