I have a friend lets call her 'x' who i have been close to for a little less than a year, but we really hit it off. We had the same sense of humor, musc taste, and we were always having a good time. Then another girl came, 'y'. I was friends with her, and she is really nice, but lately, I've felt like they are pushing me out. They leave lunch early without me, I have to start convo's on MSN (a very moden friendship problem!) I have lots of other friends, but 'x' was my closest. And I don't know how to tell her because she's one of those people who hates fights and always thinks I'm starting them, but i dont want to fight! I just want us to be like we used to! How can I get included agian?
2007-02-06 05:18:59 · 11 answers · asked by tialaingo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
if they are being bitchy then you can do better.
you shouldn't have to push people to be nice to you and include you - if they are good friends they will do it without being told to. You need to open yourself up to other people and not worry aso much about this one girl.
It's hard, but sometimes it's best to just walk away from drama like that. if you guys are really great friends it will end up that you start hanging out al lthe time again. You don't have to fight for it.
Make them want to be your friend and wish you were around more!
2007-02-06 05:36:54 · answer #1 · answered by imnotachickenyoureaturkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well beleive me that happened to me alot.What i would do Is tell "X" nicely that ur not trying to cause a fight it's just that your feeling alittle left out.I would try to open up to her and let her know how u feel.If she keeps doing it and she knows how u feel then she not the type of girl u want to stay friends with u know.Beleive me deep inside she cares for u more ,you guys have been together way longer then"X" and "Y" have been together.See this happened to me and what I did was I told her how i felt and she starting including me in more and it was like we where equal you know.This could very well happen to u if u give it a chance.Sometimes u have to hang round other people u know but talk is probely key in this situation.GOOD LUCK i hope she understands!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-06 05:31:57 · answer #2 · answered by stacy_diva_girl619 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when a trio is having a problem like this, add a fourth to your group. Someone who will be there for you. I had this same problem. My best friends and I would always do everything together, but me and my best, best friend always did things together walk each other to every period, go to the movies we'd just to do sleepovers and everything. When we felt like the third person in our group was feeling left out we added a fourth and then they ended up liking each other and hanging out. Eventually my best, best friend and her became good friends and my other best friend became close, and we started doin things together. None of us are friends anymore, it worked out for the better because I now have friends who I love and adore and that I don't have to worry about leaving me out or anything else for that matter. Just make sure you know who you're real friends are. Good luck hon!
2007-02-06 05:25:37 · answer #3 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beware of friend X who always thinks you her FRIEND (you) starts fights, is she really worth the worrying? You should never have to compete with friendships, a real friend wouldn't leave you out or make you feel small. Good luck in whatever decision you chose to make.
2007-02-06 05:25:57 · answer #4 · answered by ladyrapture1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is talk to her, if she is a good friend then shouldn't be accusing you of wanting to fight just because you want to talk. just tell her how you feel and that you want to be included again. tell her you don't want the friendship to end and ask her how to get it back on track. if she really wants to stay friends she will go the distance to make it happen, if not then unfortunatly its time to move on. GOOD LUCK, hope it works out!!
2007-02-06 05:24:47 · answer #5 · answered by onyx maiden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what you should do is talk to both of them at the same time and tell them how you feel. If they dont care then you shouldnt be friends wit them cause there not worth it.
2007-02-06 05:24:58 · answer #6 · answered by mimibabix3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem in highschool. x and y were involved in drugs and i wasn't and they were conspiring to drop acid in my drink without me knowing. needless to say i dropped both of them and a year later my bestfriend of 15 years called me and we made up! maybe if you ignore them a little they will correct the problem!
2007-02-06 05:24:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just remind you of the theme song to Three's Company:
Come and knock on our door.....
We've been waiting for you......
Where the kisses are hers and hers and his,
Three's company too.
Come and dance on on our floor......
Take a step that is new.....
We've a loveable space that needs your face,
Three's company too.
You'll see that life is a frolic and laughter is calling for you......
Down at our rendez-vous,
Three's company, too!!!!!!
2007-02-06 05:24:00 · answer #8 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easy get a fourth to join the party.
2007-02-06 05:23:11 · answer #9 · answered by David S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry can't answer but i have the same problem at school. email if you wanna chat.
2007-02-06 05:23:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋