I have a problem. Mature people only please thanks. What should do? I have problems with my stupid neighbors: They are college aged and are very noisy and snobby. One time, I followed the advice of someone on here who said to befriend them, but that didn't work out. They are nice in general, but I thought I could make friends with them last year but that didn't work out because they didn't really want to be my friend. I thought they did because one of them lent me their DVD to watch that time and when I brought it back, weeks later I emailed her because she gave me her email but I also asked for her #, I thought that we were going to be friends from that day forward but I was wrong and now my feelings are hurt because I think she was only trying to be a good neighbor and not a friend because I invited her over to my house one time and she declined and then whenever I see her now, she doesn't say hi or anything. Then her college roomates always through a party and never....
2007-02-06
05:08:45
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Suzy Suzee Sue
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invite me. I'm sick of living next to them because they hurt my feelings before and they also tricked me by being nice at first then only to stab me in the heart by acting like they are too cool for me to be friends with them. What should I do? I thought about doing something to their car for revenge (Ive done it before) but then I don't know if I should... so what should I do. Right now I have three options (about three though I'm open to more).
2007-02-06
05:10:43 ·
update #1
a) move out or look for a place to rent with someone and start working
b)stay and experience hell and develop a heart condition due to the everday reminder of this thing
c) stay and repot them to the city of _________ because they are not allowed to turn the houses into dorms, though I don't know how successful that will be or how much they will listen to me.
2007-02-06
05:11:00 ·
update #2
Oh yeah, I still live with my folks.
2007-02-06
05:11:40 ·
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they were angry about them too disturbing us. One of our other neighbors is also irritated.
2007-02-06
05:12:11 ·
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Sylvia--How rude! I am their age group!!! I am 22 thank you!
2007-02-06
05:20:48 ·
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Look, if you’re going to insult me, might as well not answer people. And for your information Niobe, I don’t live in an apartment, I live in tract houses. Older ones though.
2007-02-06
05:23:17 ·
update #6
To sir hard and thick—No, I don’t need to make friends with every neighbor I have, I just thought ones that were in my age group. That’s all. And were conveniently close by. Oh well though, you’re right about most of the things you said.
Keith J –I didn’t know they were snobby till I got to know them better.
2007-02-06
05:37:54 ·
update #7
I gave you a thumbs up Keith J, but then I realized that You called me pathetic, so nevermind.
2007-02-06
05:40:01 ·
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you know what? maybe I AM pathetic cuz the reason I went to them was because i thought they would understand me better and since I couldn't make friends easily, I thought I'd try them.
2007-02-06
05:41:46 ·
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I have had many neighbors over the years and I follow the advice of my parents. Don't be to close to your neighbors.
Too late you already have..well i had to learn the hard way too.
You are way to sensitive for having living this close to people ..period..no neighbor is the best neighbor..they all can cause problems if you let them get under your skin.
YOU HAVE TO BE THICK SKINNED TO SURVIVE.
I am positive if I talked to your neighbors they would have a few stories too so remember it takes two to tangle.
JUST remember fences do not make good neighbors but saying that I put up a six foot privacy fence up and now I don't have to look at their sloppy yards full of garbage and rubbish...yech such slobs..and have their pit bull jump my four foot chain fence and attack my poor shih tzu
Take the higher ground and be cordial but you already no the personalities of these people..don't move unless you can move where you have no neighbors...as you might run into people worse then these yahoos..no pun intended...you have to be aware how stupid some people are..and for gods sake don't key cars or do something as stupid as I did this as it just came back on me in another form...bad KARMA...what you do will come back..believe me I saw this in my life...try to learn from this bad experience and try not to lose your cool..you only will make the dumb neighbors happy when they see how they upset you..
2007-02-06 05:21:37
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answered by Anonymous
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It sounds more like jealousy than anything else. Maybe you should mind your business and stop trying to be friends with people who obviously don't like you. You sound more hurt by the fact the girl didn't call you back than anything else. Perhaps if you focused on getting your own place, you wouldn't have to worry about these issues. Possibly you will make some friends as well. Either way, get a life and move on. Revenge will only get your butt kicked or land in jail. Thank you.
2007-02-06 05:17:34
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answered by cookie 6
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It sounds to me like the problem is yours, why do you need to be friends with them so bad. They only live next to you not with you, and because they don't want to be your friends, you feel you have to do something to their car? You don't sound like a very mature person, do you have any Idea how many people live next door to people they don't even know, and tell me what happens when you move, and your new neighbors aren't your friends, what will you do to them, you need to get some help!!
2007-02-06 05:27:32
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answered by Sir Hard & Thick 2
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You are pathetic!!!! Hurt your feelings? You said they were snobby. Why were you looking for their acceptance then? Grow up and move on. If you are 16 or younger I can understand your immaturity level, but who cares about being friends with them. Ever think they might view you as creepy? You do live with your parents.
As for the noise, if it excesive, then call the police or whoever they are renting from.
Most import is just get a life or you will end up being some weirdo that can't function socially.
2007-02-06 05:32:58
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answered by Anonymous
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Just ignore them and make new friends. Just because they are your neighbors doesn't mean you have to be friends with them, nor are they obligated to invite you to their parties. My husband and I don't even know the names of the people who live next door to us, and we know the people across the street by name but only to say hi to.
If your neighbors are making too much noise partying and disturbing you, then call the cops. Otherwise, just ignore them and leave them alone. If you egg their car or try to get revenge in any way, you'll just make the situation worse.
2007-02-06 05:16:37
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answered by Anonymous
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Revenge is wrong. I'm sorry that they hurt your feelings but you shouldn't care so much. Getting revenge on them is only going to make you feel better temporarily. How would you like it if they messed with your car or stole something from you? Have you contacted your apartment complex to complain about their noise? I'm sure they can help you. Also, if you are that mature then revenge wouldn't even be an option. Go with option A.
2007-02-06 05:13:31
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answered by Jess_DH13 5
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i comprehend a number of there names. does no longer say all neighbours are pleasant yet have a tendency to assert hi to everyone passing. Get some that are nosey and attempt to quiz you, yet then you truly comprehend they bypass all that data around the realm. So am careful of what i say! I do imagine even as i develop right into a baby our neighbours were alot friendler.
2016-11-25 20:24:51
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answered by ? 4
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Um... it really sounds like you don't have much of a life. SO WHAT if your neighbors don't like you? Not everyone in this world is going to be your friend. And if you go around reporting people to the city and messing with people's cars, they've got a good reason to steer clear of you.
Seek help. Seriously.
2007-02-06 05:14:39
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answered by Vix 4
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Ignore them as if they dont exist. If they try to greet, act like you dont hear. (whey even make friends around you?. I dont fancy it myself)
Make great friends from afar, bring them to your place, Make sure that your female friends are hotter than the girls in your neighbourhood, make sure she talks inteligent
For your faraway guy friends, make sure that they are goodlooking, mysterious and hot too.
Your neighbours will want to start comming close, but keep ignoring them. If one greets you about 6 times, dont answer. Greet him first the next time you see him. HE WILL ANSWER YOU BEFORE YOU FINISH GREETING
2007-02-06 05:40:55
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answered by mail2chik 2
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You want Mature people to answer this?????? Take the feelings OFF YOUR SLEEVE, neighbors have their own life and are not subject to including you in theirs. What ever they do is none of your business and other neighbors also. Get your friends from your own age group. How plain do your neighbors need to make it that they do NOT want you hanging out with them?
2007-02-06 05:18:34
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answered by Anonymous
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