I won’t be making much more in the beginning, but there is a lot of room for advancement. It’s a Federal Job; My X told me that they are moving down South in a few years, where I will be at.
2007-02-06 04:58:15 · 13 answers · asked by bob 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Put yourself in the place of your daughter. How would you have felt if the person that will teach you love is moving away from you.
There is no amount of money that will replace what is being taken away from her if you decide to leave.
2007-02-06 05:07:36 · answer #1 · answered by Rowdy Yayhoot 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The good thing about federal jobs is that they are located all over the country and in time you can transfer to a new position and location. If they are moving closer to where you are I do not see what the problem is. I would try to spend at least 1-2 weekends per month with your daughter and at least one week per year. As a former federal employee another great thing is the fact that you can gain time off very quickly. So it isn't an either or question it is a how do I make both work question.
2007-02-06 05:05:37 · answer #2 · answered by needingajob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, that's always a touchy subject. When my parents got divorced when I was 8 my dad moved a cpl states away. In the beginning he called and sent things and came to visit all the time. But as the years went by he called less, visited less, and stopped really caring I think. You have to think of your daughter and what she would have to sacrifice. I know that money is important, but time is the best thing that you could ever give her. Do you really wanna miss out on those crucial few years of her life? It's up to you man...but when my dad left, our relationship changed and it will never be the same. I'm not trying to say the same thing will happen to you, but just think about it. Best of luck to you.
2007-02-07 15:15:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex and I just had this conversation last night. Making this type of decision is extremely hard; however, I would suggest family first and career second. Your daughter needs you now. You can always find a good position within the government.
2007-02-06 05:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by Nisha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too many people see opportunities like this as only black and white decisions - never as a mix or a clear positive in both directions. Approach the new job as good for both your career and your daughter. Make it work in both directions. If there is a will, there is a way.
2007-02-06 05:08:01 · answer #5 · answered by MrKnowItAll 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Postpartum melancholy isn't some thing that is going away instantly and till it does she will be in a position of no longer be an similar lady you fell in love with. that is sturdy that she is getting the help that she needs yet i'm afraid that her kin is taking section in on her vulnerability. i comprehend you're hurting yet attempt to no longer be to not person-friendly on her only yet, she's no longer herself. no matter if she did no longer have the Postpartum melancholy she only had a toddler and that on my own alterations issues. My wager may be that her kin is in the back of the situations and see you later as they're interior the image you've not got any wish of fixing issues. You did not element out this yet I were given the impact that perhaps her kin wasn't all that happy with your marriage, otherwise they could be with you - and under no circumstances hostile to you in attempting to make the marriage artwork. Your spouse may be 24 yet she isn't mature adequate or extremely waiting to take on the customary jobs that comprise marriage and kin and that i do not extremely see that replacing each and every time quickly. i comprehend that you're suffering financially yet you've were given to someway detect a sturdy criminal professional that could be sensible you get custody of your daughter, or a minimum of a few rights. I have a feeling that her kin will sometime interior the close to destiny help her see for you to be paying her alimony and newborn help - you pick to preserve your self from her. i do not typically recommend that someone get divorced yet on your case that is extremely your in common words chance of having some authentic happiness. sturdy luck to you and that i extremely wish each and every thing works out for the perfect. P.S. My acquaintances spouse did an similar ingredient as yours and he ended up transferring on and marrying a really sweet lady - they have been fortuitously married for 3 years now, so there is wish - there is continually wish!
2016-11-25 20:23:04 · answer #6 · answered by rensing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can provide a better life for her, then I say go for it. You can arrange for her to come and stay with you during vacations from school. And make sure you call her every day even if its just to say hello. Eventually when you have yourself established you can help your x move down to where you are. It won't be forever. Sometimes we have to make sacrafices in order to prosper. You do not have to choose a career or a relationship with your daughter you just have to find a way to have both and make it work.
2007-02-06 05:03:19 · answer #7 · answered by Learn2LoveMe 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
do you belive your x that they are moving there were you are .cause some of them do lie . and if she is telling the truth what is more in portent a job or being with your daughter. to me my kids would come first ,you said you wouldn,t be making much more than the job you have now.but if you took this other job just think what you would be missing out wtih your daughter growing up and being there when she needs her daddy .may be this is your chance to be near your daughter again.
2007-02-06 05:20:21 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 is a tender age to just leave like that, even if it's only for a year or two.
2007-02-06 05:07:35 · answer #9 · answered by NyGirl28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont believe anything the X says.
To hell with the money.
Your girl will only be a girl ONCE...you only have one shot at it...do it right....that is worth more than money.
2007-02-06 05:05:28 · answer #10 · answered by gary d 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋