Ok so here’s the thing. I am known to be very intelligent for my age, I don’t mean good at math, science this, I mean when it comes to street smarts and life. At least that’s what some people say. I speak my mind a lot, and I don’t give in to peer pressure. I don’t have time to flirt with boys, and I don’ t like wearing pink and acting all fake and perky like most of the girls at my school. I thought that would make me cool, but for some reason I don’t have any friends at all. NO boys seems to be interested in me, and people always tease me. Do I really have to change myself to be cool? Or is it just me? And sometimes I can be very naive.
My grandmother says I should just act like a kid, yeah I know this, but still....
2007-02-06 04:53:41 · 22 answers · asked by Echo♠ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I would say be yourself. If you are comfortable and happy being the way you are now, go with it. If people cannot like you because of that, they are the ones missing out.
2007-02-06 04:57:02 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Goodkat 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No offense to your grandmother, but you can act like a kid and still be mature. People tell me the same thing all the time. But let's take it one part a time. About wearing pink...I don't like it either, it's almost like pink is what little girls wear and that you should grow out of it. Don't worry about that. Continue speaking your mind, too many people are afraid to do that, and those are the ones that become "uncool" as they get older. Like you said, you are street smart, so you know how to deal with people and situations. As for the guys...they're guys, what do you expect? Ok not really, that's a joke, but seriously, guys at this age don't know what they want. No guys liked me until 7th grade, at least not that I knew of. I'm still mature and everything, and I have the most awesome boyfriend I could imagine. He's more laid back about a lot of things than I am, but we compromise on it.
Are you in high school yet? Things change a lot when you get there...it's different from middle school, and people accept you more for who you are.
For now, STAY WHO YOU ARE. You have the gist of maturity, and that's something we need more of. Don't change for anyone!
2007-02-06 18:19:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Conformity is a big part of our being, right? I mean, seriously. You are dressing to identify with a specific group. Think about it. What group are you identifying with? If the group that you are identifying with is not conducive to create healthy social support..ie, friends, peers, and boyfriends...then maybe you have to use your smarts and conform a little. You might enjoy it. It doesn't mean that you have to wear pink or act all fake and perky...it means that you may have re-evaluate the way that you come across to others and maybe try to approach others in such a way that is warm, but not infringing on who you are as an individual. I don't know how old you are...or how you do dress...but 'street' might be considered threatening. Your attitude might portrait this as well. Just a thought.
2007-02-06 13:02:01 · answer #3 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, I can totally relate to you because when I was younger I was just like you and I had the same problems. You don't have to change yourself at all to be cool because no matter what you do somebody will always find a flaw. It's not right but this is the way the world is. If I were you, I wouldn't change because I haven't and you see the world for what it is - you know the truth. I think you should keep seeing the truth and being who you are.
Join my group where there are teens just like you and I hope you make new friends, check out the source section for my teen groups.
2007-02-06 13:21:40 · answer #4 · answered by Dimples 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be who you are. You really just need to learn the art of picking your battles. Sometimes its not so important to speak your mind. some people try hard to make others feel the same way about things. Is it going to change the world if people do not see things the way you do? It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and you should be proud of that. As far as friends go you'll have plenty, just give it some time and never care about what others think about you. Be happy that you are a strong minded person . You can not please everyone just please your self
2007-02-06 13:08:28 · answer #5 · answered by HELLO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are who you are and at your age there is so much phony behavior because kids are more worried about having friends than being mature. Good for you, it just shows you are beyond all the stupid fake stuff and sorry to say but not until you get older will kids accept and appreciate you for your true self. Good Luck, you probably have a better rappor with your teachers, and that's not a bad thing just enjoy who you are and what motivates you and glad to hear you do not bow down to peer pressure. Stay strong. .............
2007-02-06 13:00:01 · answer #6 · answered by whattheheck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps your peers are intimidated by you, or they don't feel like they have anything to contribute. If you are hard on yourself and expect a lot of your ownself, it is easy to be just as hard or have high expectations of others. Maybe give yourself a break and lighten up a little. Have some good clean fun. Enjoy life a little more. Join a chess club, or scrabble team.....
good luck & bless
2007-02-06 12:59:25 · answer #7 · answered by Wood Smoke ~ Free2Bme! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? Be yourself. People will come around. You don't want to hang out with people who want you to conform to their ideals. I admire your ability to hold your own. My own 13 yr old is like that except she does think about boys. But she dressed the way she wants and lets people know what she thinks.
People are just being standoffish because heaven forbid someone have an original thought and not have to be a part of a clique!
2007-02-06 12:59:20 · answer #8 · answered by heartache 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say you need to change yourself but try something new, something you wouldn't have done yesterday. Maybe try to find someone else who looks like they feel the same way you do then strike up a conversation and then go from there....do not hide behind the certain but do not push people away from you. Believe me i've been there and it is not fun....just make it a goal to find someone who you can have a good time with and run with it...GOOD LUCK
2007-02-06 13:00:00 · answer #9 · answered by Jeannie H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that depends... Follow the heard... or follow your own path. following the heard has benefits...like the majority of people excepting you, and being blissful in ignorance. Or you want to take the harder road, and be who you want to be regardless of the majority. It has its ups and downs... but i always took that path and found you become more enlightened that way, and usually find happiness easier in life, because you are not pressured in doing what everyone else does. It can be lonely...but you can use that extra time to read books, do art, and/or discover **** that you couldn't, if you were always at the mall buying pink ****. :-) i hope this helps :)
2007-02-06 13:05:02 · answer #10 · answered by ladysaidh77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason you don't have that many friends right now is because many people aren't grown up like you yet. I was like that when i was younger..but if you just wait a little, try to make friends then people will see you for a really nice person. Don't worry about it.. soon everyone will want to be your friend.
2007-02-06 15:51:43 · answer #11 · answered by sunkissedlove<3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋