Before my wife and I met I found an old diary of her's saying that she wonder would it would be like to have a woman as a companion and use a guy just for pleasure. Now, my wife use to be an exotic dancer down in Southern California and I try not to stereotype her or prejudge her. She told me later on that she did kiss a woman just to see if she could be bi or just gay but couldn't do it. I really don't know we're a generation a part and I know things are different now. I understand that her ex husband was abusive and put her through a lot of hell. In addition most guys were jerks to her. She says I'm very different than any guy she has ever met. We are best friends but sometimes I feel she doesn't tell me things just for the sake of our marriage. I told her to keep everything open and that it would be best to tell me than to have th past unexpectanly run in my face. So I do not know but i wonder. Most women say that they do not have to kiss a woman to find that out.
2007-02-06 04:48:52 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
She may have been curious or even bi...if she ever was she still is, she just opted to be in a heterosexual relationship with you; for all the men and women from whose ranks she could have chosen.
2007-02-06 05:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, without trust, the relationship is doomed. And it sounds like you don't trust her. Why else would you be reading her diary? Frankly, I have a lot of straight female friends who kissed girls in college, because at the time, it was the cool thing to do. Most of them never took it any further. You need to figure out whether or not you really trust your wife, and then you need to be having this conversation with her.
2007-02-06 05:04:47 · answer #2 · answered by Beth B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could you find an old diary of hers before you met? Poor sentence structure aside, it sounds to me that you're looking for trouble. You say you feel she doesn't tell you things for the sake of the marriage...have you told her everything about your past? And what's with this "have the past unexpectanly [sic] run in my face" comment? If you love her, you'll accept her as she is now and let her past remain that....HER past.
2007-02-06 05:01:39 · answer #3 · answered by behrmark 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Noone would know this except for your wife and whomever she MAY have done anything with. If & when she's ready to tell you, she'll tell you. Just because you found a diary (why did u read it anyway??) that said she "wondered" doesnt mean she actually acted on it. She may just be bicurious.
2007-02-06 04:53:00 · answer #4 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't be "used" to be anything with regard to sexual orientation. The only time "used" is applied is when somebody used to be the closet. If she's bi - she's always been bi and always will be.
2007-02-06 05:03:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's no 'used' to be bi...she either is or isn't.
in this case however, it sounds like she was curious about it at one point, which is pretty normal.
but...here's a thought - ask her!
2007-02-06 05:01:11 · answer #6 · answered by supposed 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋