I'm married but I'm starting to worry about me getting attracted to other men?

Question

I don't want to cheat but my hubby said it's okey as long as I tell him. He even hinted on me hooking up with some ex's. Are we going crazy here?

Answer 1

No you aren't crazy. Want my number? lol

Answer 2

You are married but you are starting to worry about being attracted to other men?...No offense, but that should not even be a concern if you are truly in love and love your husband...you say you don't want to cheat - you have the right instinct - dont! I'm still trying to figure out why your husband would say it is ok as long as you tell him?.....have you ever considered that you husband really doesn't love you? Seriously...no offense meant - but your average man does not relish the mental picture or thought of some other guy laying all over his wife!! For him to hint to you that it is ok to hook up with some of your ex-boyfriends is really off the wall to me!!! You may want to step back and re-evaluate your whole relationship - seriously - why are you guys even married?.....he owes himself and you more respect than that....with him saying and hinting toward what he is, there is no realistic chance of the relationship surviving...wow, that is really wild!! I'm am trying to figure out why he would even suggest such a thing!!

Answer 3

Id for the sake of your marriage, God forbid children are a factor, instead of getting attracted to other men or adding up sparks with an old fling, Id suggest, and this is just a suggestion, one night he goes to a strip club while you go to a male review. Both of you can get a "fantasy" of someone else, most people would be aroused after such events and would want nothing more but to "Get some". With that thought in mind, both of you take the person that sparked your greatest interest, have sexual relations with your HUSBAND, and just imagine that your husband is that dancer and your husband can imagine that you are that dancer. You might be surprised how intense of an experience you two might experience, without the chance of ruing a marriage.

Answer 4

1 if you are lusting after other men you werent in love enough to get married in the first place my fiancee is the only woman i want and thats for sure. 2 if your hubby wants you to sleep with other men that can mean only one of about 3 things 1 he doesnt love you and wants an excuse for a divorce 2 he's bisexual and wants to be with men himself and hes using this to open the door to a 3 some and finally number 3 is he's so jealous and possessive that he's trying to "set you up" so he can frame you cheating on him because its already in the back of his mind which would explain the whole wanting y ou to do your exes thing whatever i hope you do whats best 4u peace

Answer 5

Sounds like neither one of you's should be married.One of the biggest parts of marriage is trust.You's don't even want or care about trust.There is nothing wrong with being attracted to others but just remember why you got married in the first place.If your husband thinks it is ok chances are he's already done it with someone else and does not care a bout you anyway.You can be as attracted as you want ,but,for a good solid marriage to last forever leave the rest alone!!!!!!!

Answer 6

Human nature is naturally curious, especially when it comes to sex. The majority of us try to suppress our curiosity and inclinations because of the moral, social, and family conditioning we have been subjected to. There are many couples who can cope with and handle extramarital affairs. When one comes to grips with the realization that sex, as a natural outlet, has nothing to do with the true love you can demonstrate to your spouse, it becomes easier to handle. No need for all the guilt , remorse, and BS. There are many couples who can function perfectly knowing that they have a perfectly controlled, premeditated, exclusive, healthy, and well orchestrated sex life. Having sex with others can benefit your marriage both individually and collectively. There are many situations that can be explored once you've set the ground rules. Your husband can join in on the fun, whether it be in trio with another man or woman. Just consider the endless possibilities that exist if you have the maturity, tolerance, resistance to comparison, patience and stamina necessary.

I have been happily and productively married for the past 20 years. My wife and I have had sexual experiences with others, both individually and shared and have never had a single moment of friction arising from any of this.

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Answer 7

I think your husband is going along with this because he thinks it might give him comfort if you cheat. But honestly I don't think there are any success stories when it comes to cheating. If you are finding yourself attracted to other men, explore this with your husband, what exactly is missing from your marriage? Or what are you unhappy about? It sounds like maybe you two need to take your relationship up a notch by trying new things in the bed room. Spice it up!!!

Answer 8

I suggest you all sit down and have a long talk about this because there are certain boundaries that need to be established when you're moving your marriage into being open. For example your husband may want to watch later on etc., those are the type of things you need to discuss.

Answer 9

Honey, he doesn't sound like a keeper - more like a pimp type. He sounds like he is or wants to do something behind ur back so he can justify his own questionable lifestyle. I would get counseling of some sort or LEAVE. Anything is possible, use the power of ur subconscious!

Good luck and don't be afraid of change! Be honest and have courage.

Answer 10

Sometimes crazy things work for crazy people.
If you look hard enough you will find that there are cults out there that dedicate them selves to that kind of life style. But just be aware of the risks that follows the lifestyle that you choose sometimes they are more than you can handle and people often get hurt.

Answer 11

I don't think it's good to cheat, especially if you're married. I don't know if you two are into swinging/swapping, but for me, a husband has only one wife, and a wife only one husband.
Temptations are always there, but if we are strong enough, we should be able to overcome them. People can always be 'attracted' to others, but that doesn't mean they will cross the boundary and just sleep around simply because they are 'attracted'.