My friend is getting married soon. He is a really nice guy, and everyone likes him. He has been very sucessful in the business that he owns and he has a nice house and cars and everything, but he isn't one of those rich jerks or anything like that. A few years ago he was very supportive of me when I was going through a hard time in my life, but I am wondering what to do because yesterday I was talking to his fiance and she asked me, if he died ... would she get his money.
I am not surprised that she would say something like that, because she only seems interested in his money. She talks about it all the time. He loves her, but I don't think she loves him. I just know that once they have been married for a couple months, she will divorce him to get the money.
Should I tell him about this? Should I tell him that she asked me that question? He helped me, so maybe I should help him, because I don't think he knows her real intentions. What should I do?
2007-02-06 04:23:06 · 16 answers · asked by Alyssa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You will never win this one.
2007-02-06 04:28:15 · answer #1 · answered by Pretending To Work 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's natural. Women are suppose to have kids and hopefully they do this after they get married. So you have get married and have kids. But not everyone is like that. Some people don't want any of that, and that's ok. But eventually you are going to want to be with someone because you don't want to be old and alone. What a sad life that would be! Other stereotypes are : Women are weak. Men are suppose to do the yard work. Men are suppose to be the bread winners. Women are suppose to stay at home with the kids. Women can't run successful businesses. Men can't cook. There are lot of others, but those are the ones I can think of off the top of my head. I am not saying that these stereotypes are bad are good. People are allowed to have free will, and if that will wants you to be against something or with something, it's up to you. I hope I was of some help!
2016-05-23 23:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know if I had a friend with concerns like that, I'd want to know. Your friend must be intelligent and a good businessman (or he got very, very lucky in his business). I'd talk to him, but keep it open and non-accusatory. Don't sit him down and say anything like "Look, the trollop is just after your money." That will immediately put him in the frame of mind of having to defend her and thinking you're just causing problems. Instead, tell him you were talking with his fiancee and she made a couple of comments that troubled you, and you think he should be aware of them, even if they were made innocently. He may still love her and marry her, but better he go into it with his eyes open so if a problem does crop up later, he can be prepared for it.
2007-02-06 04:30:32 · answer #3 · answered by Katasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your friend...and sometimes you have to let your friends take it like a man. That being said, a good idea would be not to confront him about her, but sit down and really talk to him (just the two of you) about the relationship. Mention your conversations with her, but do not accuse. Once you start accusing, is when you are going to lose your friend.
Casually mention that in a couple of conversations that you have had with her, your money has come up, and it seems a little obsessive. But if he is happy, then you are happy for him. (this gets the idea in his head, but doesn't look to be you breaking them up).
Good luck, and I hope that everything works out okay!
2007-02-06 04:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by Kate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes her, she likes at least something about him. She could have just been trying to be somewhat funny in a very off color way. He should get a pre-nup and as a good friend you should advise him of that but don't go and say - so in so is a money grubbing whore. Instead say i care about you and you helped me out when i had a problem and i was wondering if you had thought about a prenuptial agreement because as we know sometimes things just don't work out.
If you are not comfortable with that just steal him from her for yourself...
2007-02-06 04:34:56 · answer #5 · answered by mraandmisse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer your opinion. Try to find a way to do this that does not make your friend all defensive and stuff. If he truly loves her he will get angry at you, but after he storms off and thinks about it he might stop and think there might be some truth to it. You dont have to make he break the commitment to stop it from happening. Plant the seed of thought in his head and let him do the rest. Maybe mention a prenupt. that might be all it takes to get him thinking about it
2007-02-06 04:30:56 · answer #6 · answered by drgreen4_2_0 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should. if ur friend is a wise and intelligent man, he will take his own decision afterall. but in case anything goes wrong in his married life, u may have a guilt feeling that u did not warn him at the time. however, take care that when u talk to him about it, u r not over emphasising the issue. hey, it feel that u r interested in ur friend.......
2007-02-06 04:56:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should tell him. He may get upset with you or not believe you, but at least when she does leave him he'll know that you are a true friend for telling him the truth. I think if you are a true friend you'll tell him for his own good, even though it will mean you and him having issues.
2007-02-06 04:44:33 · answer #8 · answered by dimplez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well - you might subconsciously like the guy and want him for yourself. Even if she was calculating and wanted to marry him for money, nothing you say is going to stop them (unless he asks you). And that is the kind of lesson he has to learn on his own. And he will learn it. And it will suck. But everyone has pain in their lives - you can't stop that.
2007-02-06 04:29:30 · answer #9 · answered by urrrp 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think I would get involved, you would be seen as causing trouble, and you could lose a good friend.
2007-02-06 04:29:57 · answer #10 · answered by beverly c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe in front of them both you can say so if something happens to you does so and so get all your money?? I hate money grabbers I hope she was not serious,
2007-02-06 04:28:02 · answer #11 · answered by whattheheck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋