I am 23 and I have been experiencing impotence when having relations with my spouse. is this possible?

Question

For what ever reason this has been happening for the last month or so... I mean I had a drive like no other. recently i found out of alot of hidden secrets in my family (parents) and i have been very stresssed... I dont know if this has to do with it... I have a physical set up for next week but i dont know if this may lead to future problems... I want to be able to satisfy my spouse... She is already use to the drive I had and she deserves nothing less. I am actually very scared... please help with mature anwsers - Thanks! :-(

Answer 1

Ivan, I think first of all you sound like a great guy and pleae believe this from a woman, that means a heck of alot more to your lady than an erection ever would...
You said there has been alot of stress lately and I am betting that is what it is...it has happened to us before, both my husband and myself...all stress related...
Try not to make it bigger than it is (no pun intended)...stresss can cause so many health issues..so many...
It probably bothers your wife a lot less than it bothers you, seriously,,,,if she has a brain in her head she knows she is lucky to have you...and don't forget,,,,theres more than one way to skin a cat!!!!!

Answer 2

You answered your own question.

Stress is the leading cause in impotence. As simple as the answer may be, there is only one answer:

Make an appointment with your Urologist and explain the situation. He will give you a prescription of either Viagra, Cialis, or Levitra.

If you remain in your depression for a long period of time, it may be necessary to consult with a Psychologist available through your Health Insurance plan. Stress is of a psychological nature and they will get you on a road to recovery.

It happens to everyone (males) at some point. So make that move! It'll be worth it and your spouse will thank you for it!

Answer 3

Sometimes tiredness and stress can prevent arousal. If you are preoccupied with worries or negative thoughts, it can easily turn you cold. For example: my girlfriend likes to rest her hand in my lap when I'm driving - the result is obvious. However, if something happens on the road which means I have to react quickly or get stressed, "it" shrinks and disappears in an instant, even though her hand is still there.

I don't think you have anything to worry about in the long term. From my own experience, I'm pretty sure that this is quite simply mental tiredness and worry taking precedence over sexual arousal.

Best of luck and I hope the doctors tell you the same thing!

Answer 4

There's an old saying, Stress kills. Well it is true on more levels than most people know. And don't worry about not being able to achive an errection. I first had it start happening to me with my first wife when we where 19. It didnt happen to me again untill I was in my current job (age 24), and my stress level went through the roof. Working way too long of hours, dealing with 200 conflecting peronalitys, scheduleing, ect... you get the idea. Well I did go and see my doctor about my not being able to achive an errection, or when I did, it wasn't full or very firm. He asked about work, and personal life. When I left he gave me a script of 5 viagra. Well they did help, used 3 of them, and ended up takeing the other 2 back to him to be disposed of. The reason was simple, once I got used to the new stress level of my work, and got settled into my new situation the mental side worked it self out. So go see your doc, and be HONOST with him and you'll be just fine.

Answer 5

I think you are on the right track... a physical is a good start... If nothing is found, then you can probably feel certain that it is the stress of your family situation that is causing you to be distracted and have less of a sex drive.
Maybe you should consider going to see a therapist to help you come to terms with "family secrets" and other stresses so you won't be so distracted by them in the other areas of your life. By the way, what you are experiencing is perfectly normal. I am glad you are doing what you can to face things head on!
Blessings- dd

Answer 6

Relax. It sounds like it could be the stress of these newly founded family secrets. Think about it this way...is there anything you can do about these family secrets? You have no control over what happened, especially of what your parents did. You can't let it affect your everyday life. Deal with it, definitely, and then move on. Learn from it so that you don't repeat the same mistakes.

Until then, just make sure your lady is satisified the best way you can (you know what I mean). She loves you very much and is willing to work this out with you. Us women tend to be good like that. We are nuturers ya know.

Good luck, and Relax

:)

Answer 7

Don't be scared....this happens to men all the time....one thing...are you drinking alcohol before having sex...this is one thing that can cause impotence....another thing you might want to have checked is your testosterone levels....you might need some hormone therapy...a lot of little boys that were put on soy products (high in estrogen) as a baby has kind of messed up boys hormones....Just go to the Doctor....I am sure you can resolve this....don't get stressed about not being able to perform though...that will only make it worse...Be Blessed.

Answer 8

I think you're just stressed, not just about the family secrets you've discovered, but also about your loss of sex drive. Try to relax and talk to your spouse about what's troubling you. You'll probably be surprised at how sympathetic & supportive she will be. My guess is you'll bounce back pretty soon - 23 year olds aren't normally impotent! Good luck.

Answer 9

Yeh its possible. Stress does cause problems down below. Then the next biggest hurdle to overcome is anxiety which until you have conquered the problem will always be there. You will always be thinking I better work etc but the more you think that the less it will work,Once you have over come it you will be fine.

Answer 10

Have you been taking antidepressants due to the family secrets you found out? Antidepressants can cause dysfunction. Otherwise I'd bet that it's just the stress that you are under. See your doctor and discuss it with him. I'm sure he hears this all the time.