My girl friend got married. I feel so bad that I am felling suffocated. What should I do ?

Question

My GF got married very recently. I could not able to concentrate on my work neither I take food. Every moments remind me about her. I am not able to concentrate. I feel lots of suffocation. Still I try to contact her. I like to talk to her. I dont know, still I feel she will be back. What should I do to be normal.

Answer 1

dude I don't think she your girlfriend if she got married. Move on find someone new

Answer 2

I've always said that the only bad thing about love is the heartache. And it sounds like you have a bad one right now. You're probably spending all your time inside just thinking about her and getting more miserable by the minute. You can grieve yourself sick that way.The first thing you need to do is get out of the house, take a long walk and clear your head. Go somewhere where there is a good crowd of people and just hangout for a while, listen to some music, and NOT the songs that remind you of her. Just relax because you sound like you probably haven't slept much either. But it isn't going to get any better until you MAKE yourself LET it get better. At least give it a try before you just totally give in to heartache. Okay? Please?

Answer 3

Typical heartbreak. Boy do I know this story.... I know most people will just tell you to move on, and ideally, it would be the perfect thing to do... But it's easier said than done... once you're inside the hole, even when you're surrounded by ladders it feels like a major impossibility to getout. The truth is that slowly you have to coax yourself out of this mess. I know you probably still loved her to death and that there's this wishful thinking going on inside of you, but believe me, if she picked someone else to spend the rest of her life with, chances are you'll never again be a part of that picture. So try to take it slow... dya by day. You are mourning. People don't only mourn for dead relatives and friends, but also for situations that have to come to an end... so take your time to mourn. Cry, scream, burn the photos, do whatever you feel will be necessary for you to get over with it... Then learn to let go. It sounds hard and it takes time, but it's the only road for you to take if you want your life back. Someone else will come your way, but you have to be 100% out of rebound before you make any rash decisions... or you'll hurt both yourself and the new person in question. Best of luck and remember that there is ALWAYS a blue sky behind a dark and cludy day, ok???

Answer 4

I hope English is a second language for you. It took several minutes to decipher what you were trying to say. If so, you could take classes in proper writing, grammar and syntax. If you are a native speaker....MOVE ON... she was not YOUR girlfriend if she married someone else. STOP trying to contact her before she files a restraining order against you. She is now married to someone else. She is now someone else's WIFE. You don't want her back.... you want some idealized version that you have of her. Would you really want a woman who cheats on her husband by contacting you? Such a person will soon find a new 'boyfriend' even if she returns to you for a short time. You need to get out and meet new people and find new activities to occupy yourself....MOVE ON

Answer 5

I have heard of people that this has happened too.
You will suffer as long as you allow this to be an obsession.
Writing down your problems helps. You are going to have to take it day by day. You are suffering from a fate worse then if you would have lost a loved one due to death...as you know she is still alive...and living...and you can't be with her.
Get some good therapy as their is grief therapy right? so get some counseling in your local mental health agency...the sooner the better ...time does heal most wound but it hurts like hell now and it does not have to be...learn from this learning experience ...what don't kill you will only make you stronger

Answer 6

I know that feeling well friend......it's pain. The suffocation you feel is anxiety. The lack of being able to focus is depression. You must be careful with this because it may lead to Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder or "OCD". You should see a doctor about the acute anxiety and depression because it will make you phyically ill. I know because I've been there/done that. As far as the girl.....she's moved on with her life.....move along with yours and never look back. Use this event as a "life lesson". Buona fortuna il mio amico!

Answer 7

If you were dating her while she was engaged then that was wrong of you. Obviously she loved someone else more and she is not married so move on with your life and find someone who isn't taken. If she was a girl and your best friend and now you miss her then try to get in contact with her. She should not end her friendship with you if you two were just friends.

Answer 8

You gotta learn to move on. I speak from experience when i say that it does eventually get better. You will get your appetite back and your time at work will also get better. You should stop trying to contact her because that is still giving you the illusion of a connection between the two of you. Don't worry, every day it will get easier to bear. BE STRONG AND YOU WILL CERTAINLY BE JUST FINE

Answer 9

I understand how you feel. I went through the same thing with my ex-boyfriend. We dated only for a short period of time and we broke up for no apparent reason. He ended up getting married and I felt the same way, although I had several relationships between that time. Just know that for some reason you guys didn't work out and that there's someone out there even better for you. I don't believe there's only one perfect person out there for each of us, so get out and enjoy looking for that special person. Good luck, I really hope you feel better.

Answer 10

Make a new life for yourself, new friends, liming spots you didn't share with her, etc.

Understand that her decision was made and it was not you. Do not cry over someone who is not crying over you.

Pick yourself and your heart off the ground, dust off and jump back in the game.

Life is not about failing but about how you deal with success or failure, no matter who we are - we fail at some point or another- the president, the congressmen, businessmen, etc

Good luck my dear from someone who's been there.

Answer 11

I left the church presently previously I grew to change into 19. after I grew to change into 18, the pushing began. I had an interview with my Bishop about marriage, and the way it change into significant that i began searching. They transfered me to the singles ward without delay. i change into always being set up, even so some distance as human beings making bets on how lengthy it would want to take me to get married (i guess you may want to say I;m extremely alluring). If my mothers and fathers had missionaries over for dinner, jokes were cracked about them coming again to marry me. My Dad had even talked to me about being married previously I grew to change into 19. I hadn't even MET all people yet! no longer lengthy after, I supply up!! The pushing change into the important element in the starting up. yet, followed by potential of so a lot more effective and making me very agency in my determination. My kin in reality did an identical about a year later. Now, I were relationship my boyfriend of two and a 1/2 years, we stay mutually, and are interior the technique of shopping for a house. My mothers and fathers are literally the finest ones to push us in course of marraige.