My husband kissed and made out with a common friend of ours who is also married. Actually my hub and I, and her and her hub have been married for 4 years. Well my hub and the woman had the kiss at her place one time and then I had a source tell me that he and her talked about not meeting again and not kissing again because they are married and it's wrong, but that they really like each other. When i see them together in public, my hub stares and dances with her, he flirts with her and somehow still can't stop observing her. She writes my man alot of harmless emails and he replies to them all. Now my question is my hub and I moved to another state for his job. We have lots of common married women here. Is it possible for him to kiss one of these woman here and make out with her, or would he be too guilty and just keep to friendship with other married woman, especially after having a kiss and makeout session 2 years ago with Ann?
2007-02-06 04:07:35 · 25 answers · asked by Saira D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My guess is if he's done it before and gotten away with it, he'll do it again.
Your husband doesn't think he needs to treat you with respect. You're going to have to demand that he quit corresponding with this other woman. It doesn't matter that she lives far away. He's getting the idea it's ok to continue to email her.
Your husband sounds like a train wreck waiting to happen.
2007-02-06 04:15:04 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are so many ways to look at this, the bottom line will always come to how do you feel about this? what actions you need to take? question? has he even confessed or even know that you know about this whole kissing,making out session? maybe if you step in ,let him know how you feel that this is concerning you, you might find out on your own, so stand to him in a respectful way and ask him is this going to be a regular thing that he plans on doing for now on ? ask yourself can you deal with that? if not ask him how it would feel if you did that? if he don`t care or respond then you have to take other steps, right?
i see it this way if you don`t care to share your husband with another married woman, or any womanfor that matter,then you have the right to say something, this does keep up, there are three things you can do,
stress your self out over a infatuation, you can let him know how you feel, or join in, meaning be more open minded but you need to know right were you stand in this marriage.you you need to ask yourself if this is going to make you comfortable obviously he really does not care whether you are comfortable or not, so i say open your eyes, stand up to him and get your relationship together, or keep this foolishness up. going back and forth, resolving absolutely nothing. mind as well not call this a marriage if this was not the agreement which, most are not open to other people, obviously, this was not the agreemen. please let us know how it goes. dracula_winter@yahoo.com
good luck!
2007-02-06 04:47:41 · answer #2 · answered by katana b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance of 7 years and I just broke up 2 months ago...He has kissed my best friend a few times and I just thought it would stop because I was the one he came home to every night. They have been closer over the last 6 months as friends...talking on the phone and even showing up to my work together (when I was bartending) I trusted that they were just friends, but it bothered me that he was talking to her all the time and especially about our relationship instead of talking to me about it. As a result-I believed they were developing feelings of trust for each other. Well I was right, because we just broke up and guess who he ended up introducing as his girlfriend to the family on New Year's Eve-her! Once he had that infatuation for her it was over! So, the answer to your question is I believe that he will want to make out with another woman, or still want to be with her behind your back...sorry. Good luck.
2007-02-06 04:51:26 · answer #3 · answered by ~Why~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry. I've seen the situation from the other side and personally, I say there is an extremely high probablility that he will do it again. Not a guarantee, but most likely, he would.
The best chance of him not doing it again would be to eliminate whatever motivation he had of doing it the first time. He sounds like a really flirtatious guy. Guilt will not prevent him from doing it again. Like one other reply said-he is like a dog in heat.
That's about as much as I'll say about it here. If you want more male insight, feel free to e-mail me.
2007-02-06 04:23:50 · answer #4 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might do it again. Just make sure you communicate your feelings about the situation. It's a little early for the 7 year itch, but he might be looking for something to spice things up a bit. Keep an eye on him. Does he show any remorse for what he did? Suggest some couples counseling if you think it may be a problem you don't think you can handle. Maybe he'll get the hint and straighten up his act.
2007-02-06 04:16:48 · answer #5 · answered by zumi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is a very hard thing to ear and once you break it nearly impossible to rebuild. Sounds like you have trust issues and for good reason. Honestly what did Anns husband say about this? Does he know? I am not sure what I would do in your shoes, but definetly keep an eye on him.
2007-02-06 04:13:24 · answer #6 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a very forgiving woman. I think if my husband had a flirtation with another woman like your husband did with Ann we would have been in marriage counseling in a flash.
Maybe your husband has some things going on with him....but instead of waiting for something to happen either both of you go for counseling or you go.
Every marriage occasionally needs a tune-up....I think yours needs a professional tune-up.
2007-02-06 04:18:22 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it is never all right for your husband to do this, you need to kick him out or get this fixed as this will escalate into sex with these women. I know people who got a divorce over such matters, as that is not allowed. Try this, why don't you make out with some guy and see how he likes it? Turn the tables on him!
2007-02-06 04:14:50 · answer #8 · answered by St.Jeb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you this but I think your man is a dog in heat and he needs to be neutered !!! Kick his slimy butt to the curb and divorce him . You know the saying once a cheater always a cheater well there is a reason for that saying . i would be at the lawyers so fast it would make his head swim . good luck to you.
2007-02-06 04:40:19 · answer #9 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the statistics say that there is a 56% chance he will do it again. From reading your post, it sounds more like 80-90% for him.
2007-02-06 04:14:24 · answer #10 · answered by Jim T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋