Is sixteen 2 young 2 b engaged if u r truly n love this person and truly belive he is the one?

Answer 1

I think the way you write speaks to the fact that you are way "2 young 2 b engaged"

Answer 2

No your not too young to get engaged. There is NO law that prohibits the age at which one may become engaged. People can be engaged from birth. Law does prohibit when someone marries. 18 in most states w/o parental consent. (NE is 19 and MS is 21)

I'll be honest the odds are really against you. Teen marriages have a nearly 56% failure rate, and that was in 2000. (see link) Love is a fickle thing, and love doesn't pay the bills. When contemplating marriage you have to look at the whole package, not just love.

Think about how you will live, where you live, how you will accomplish your life goals (you do have life goals don't you?) School? Health ins? Babies? Food? Rent? Car payment & ins? What about when your marriage is strained due to life's circumstances? Do you have appropriate coping skills to face the problems? Does he? Marriage is HARD work, and takes personal sacrifice and emense effort to maintain a healthy and happy home.

In the end you will do what you want to do, and that is your right. But go into this with your eyes open and with the rose colored glasses off.

Answer 3

No it is not to young to be engaged, just make it a long engagement so you truly know all you need to know about each other before you marry. I know several couples who have been married over 10 years that were engaged at 14 and 16, many of the couples who have been married 50 years or more were married at 17 or 18. If you feel you are mature enough to handle the responsibilities of being engaged and no longer being involved with other men then go for it.

Answer 4

YES you ware way to young to be engaged or thinking about marriage. Consider how much you will change over the next year. Your interests will change, you will gain an entire grade in high school, you will learn a ton and mature greatly. So will he. Now think how much you will change by the time you graduate high school. What kind of person will you be in college? Imagine yourself at 25 or even 30 years of age! It's pretty hard because you have no idea what kind of person you will become. And neither does he. So if you are bound together at such a young age, you will almost certainly grow apart. You could be divorced with 3 kids before most people are graduating from college! Not a great way to be starting out. Even if your marriage lasts, you could end up resending each other for all the experiences in college and your 20's that you missed out on. You have your whole life to be married, worry about kids and a mortgage payment, etc. But you only have one opportunity to be young, independent, and figuring out who you are WITHOUT anyone's else's influence.

Answer 5

i think sixteen is too young for most things. you have NO experience with the world yet, you haven't gone out there and done your own thing, and if you get married, you are stuck. Now, marriage isn't a bad thing, but if you havent had time to figure out all the things you love, you are settling for a guy who might like completely different things, and you will not know what YOU want and you will be unhappy by trying to do all the things he likes because you have not developed your own opinions yet. i would say wait, get out of high school and go a year or so on your own and then give him a call. i know that seems extremely farfetched and impossible, but i have many friends who did that and then DID end up marrying that person. just try independence for a bit and try to develop some of your own opinions and joys in life first.

Answer 6

Don't do it..... you are to young. If this is truly the one he/she will wait until you are physically and mentally ready for marriage. The reason why there is so much divorce in the world is because marriage is hard and you need to constantly work at it, and if you are not even fully developed physically and emotionally I don't think your chances are good. Focus on finishing High School and getting some type of career training, travel --live your life.... Like I stated before, if this is truly THE ONE he/she wont mind waiting for you and if he/she don't want to wait then maybe he/she aren't the one. Hope I've helped in some way.

Answer 7

It is absolutely too young.

Ask 100 people over the age of 30 if they were even remotely the same person at 16 than they are now. I guarantee you that th only ones that say yes are also the ones that show up on day time talk shows.

Ask this same 100 people if, at 16 they were absolutely sure that their boyfriend / girlfriend was "the one" and just about 100% will say yes.

At 16 you haven't even begun to map out the person you will become. You only have the beginnings of vague ideas of your moral standings, and value systems. At 16 you are still going through puberty and your hormones are in control, and really, do we want to gamble the security of the the rest of our lives on hormones?

Answer 8

Honestly, I think at 16 a lot of us thought we were with "the one." Very rarely does it ever turn out that way. Of everyone I know that dated in high school, only 2 of them ended up getting married and one of them are divorced now. Right now you are in the high school environment, and that makes it fairly easy to maintain a relationship, but pretty soon, you will be going to college, or getting a job and you will start to meet a lot of new people and make new friends and start liking different things. It's called growing up and maturing. It's not a bad thing, it is what is supposed to happen. I got engaged at 18, convinced he was the one for me and that I couldn't live without him. We broke up 3 months before the wedding, thank God, because we weren't right for each other. I ignored a lot of it, thinking it would get better once we were married. As I got older I realized that. I ended up getting married at 24 and having our first child at 25. Still sort of young, but we are still happily married 8 years later. Marriages is a struggle at times, it's not the picture of bliss that I had imagined when I was young. It takes a lot of compromise, love, respect, selflessness and a lot more. I know you are probably tired of hearing it, but at 16, it's hard for me to imagine you are mature enough for that. Even if you think you are. I did too at 18, and I was very wrong.

Answer 9

My grandma got married at 14 and had her first child at 16. She rushed into the marriage and spent a life with an alcoholic. But she never gave up.

For my children, I hope that they will wait until they are 16 before dating. Why? There is just so much to learn. So much to do. But, if it is good for you or not, I don't know. I would really try to listen to those who know you best. Like maybe - gasp- your parents.

Love is a tricky thing. I suggest really thinking about everything. Write down negatives and positives. Even write down the suggestions from those who have been married.

Answer 10

Oh Hell Yeah it is. Believe me time changes people. When I was 16 I was a long haired smartass into cars and trouble. 10 years later I am an advertising executive for a network TV station and sport a suit and tie everyday. Point being the same person you love now will not be the exact same in 10 years. The same goes for you, do you see yourself being the same for the rest of your life? Find out who you are going to be first, then find out who will make you happiest. In the meantime you are a kid, have fun and take full advantage of being a minor.