my wife is tourchering me mentally and financially - is there in legal support for such husband?

Question

I am married for 4 years - since then my wife is exploting me financially. She keeps on quaralling with me till night 3-4 . Now my parents came to stay with us - she keeps quaralling with me till night 3-4 and doesn't allow us to sleep. If we say something thertens us to book us under domestic violance law. I want divorce but she is thertening she will do attempt of sucide ( not sucide) and make complaint againt us. What should I do ? Is there and law that can protect me ? or all laws are favouring females

Answer 1

Leave...........

Answer 2

Personally, I'm opposed to it, and not just for the reason that I'm in an older generation. If a woman is the sole means of support for the family, the man is looked upon by society as a whole, and the courts in particular, as little more than an afterthought in the relationship. Even if he is a homemaking husband, he is the butt of a joke: ie. Mr. Mom. When the man is the provider, he supports his family; if the woman is the wage earner, he's viewed as nothing more than competition for resources that should be allocated to the children. Then comes custody and visitation if the marriage ends. I have rarely heard of women being ordered to pay child support, and NEVER heard of it being enforced. Unlike a woman, if he has no job or financial resources, he loses the children. Period. The wife takes the children, and gets a financial judgment in the form of child support that he cannot pay, often resulting in his having to take two or more entry level jobs just to pay the upkeep of the children and keep a roof over HIS head. And she can use that to keep her ex from seeing the children, since he's never going to be home to be with the kids anyway. All in all, being a homemaker husband is a bad deal.

Answer 3

SORRY NO LAW FOR PROTECTING YOU ATLEAST IN INDIA. Now what should you do? Just start ignoring her, keep away from her most of time, read some book or newspaper when at home or watch TV channels. Stop giving much money to her. Stop her purchasing habit, avoid taking her to market. When ever she starts quarrelling go out of the room, maybe for some long walk. Listen from one ear & take it out from the other. Also avoid doing sex with her for some time although it may look very funny but it will make her to understand you mean business & make her to understand that she is going beyond all means. I am much more senior to you with 25 years marriage experience & guiding you rightly how to tackle bully wife. May people here may not agree with me specially ladies out there but in order to control such wife one has to take some strict steps.

Answer 4

Laws don't all favor the females. Make sure you document the abuse--record these absurd arguments, video her ranting and raving, take pictures if she breaks things or leaves scratches or bruises, and call the police to file complaints. If you file for divorce and there are police records of you complaining about her, the law is likely to be on your side as far as financial settlements goes. The longer you wait, though, the more money she is going to get when you finally divorce! Just make sure she has no arguments against you; don't abuse her back. And I wouldn't worry about her suicide threats. If she tries anything that's just more evidence on your side that she's mentally abusive.

Answer 5

Try marriage counseling to find out what is truly bothering her.

Or next time she starts a fight, get her to hit you and YOU be the one to call the police. Police arrest the one who has the bruises or scratches.

Or tell her if she doesn't stop all the petty arguments, you'll file for divorce.

Or next time when everyone is in a good mood, try asking her what she wants. Tell her 'we can talk, but the first time you yell, I'm walking out of the room'.

Or the next time she starts yelling, take your parents for a drive and tell her you'll see her later when she calms down.

Answer 6

1. call the police. you need to start getting a history going against her
2. get her evaluated. there may be something else wrong
3. you need to get your own account in your own name because you need to protect your finances and your credit
4. move out....or get her to leave...cause it's not worth staying there if all she wants to do is argue all night long
5. hire or talk to an attorney
6. http://www.ndvh.org/ just because domestic abuse or domestic violence is mainly geared towards one sex doesn't mean that it affect the other when the shoe is on the other foot. please check out the website (since i dont know which state you live in if you live in the states) because they will have more resources for you than yahoo answers

Answer 7

Hai dear.. Why Divorce??? I am a lady and can understand ur problem. If next time ur wife do the same , u just ask her PEACEFULLY and PATIENTLY "What does she want?? She might have some reason (or just some mis understanding) for all this." . You need to talk to her WITH LOVE. . You need to know what she wants and then u both can solve it out. After this , if she don't have a LIABLE REASON for all this , then1 u can try divorc

Answer 8

You need the help of both a good therapist, a divorce attorney, and the police. I am relatively sure you won't get it, but that is what you need. This is far too complex a problem to be solved here on Yahoo.

Answer 9

i presume u r in india
please get in touch with a lawyer and a private detective
try and record her situation vedio tape and record her voice on hidden cams and recording devices
it may cost but it will be way cheaper that what u are going to face
do not go for divorce
do this and i am there as i am in nuch thicker **** and have lost both my mother and father all because of torture from her and even now i at the receiving end
my mistake was that i HAVE TO MAKE MARRIGAR WORK FOR THE SAKE OF MY CHILD
but now the child is also speaking her language who is just 8 years old
IT WOULD HAVE BEEN BETTER IF I FOLLOWED MY PARENTS EVEN TO HELL

Answer 10

You need to call the police next time she does this, if she threatens suicide, she needs help and you need to get her evaluated. Unfortunately, this is the first stage before she becomes increasingly more and more violent towards you. The only way you can protect yourself is to get her in to the legal system, call the police, get a record going.

Answer 11

go to the local police station and file a NC against her and if cant do that do see a lawyer, so that there is no legal hassle for you and ure parents. make sure u have enough evidence of the financial explotaion happenning, is u dont have please start collecting a evidence for the same so that u can prove ure say.