my 9 month old son is not crawling quite yet, but he is pulling up and cruising the furniture. my problem is that i try to go to the gym about 3 times a week and they have a day care there. i only stay for 30 min to an hour while he is in the day care. it seems as though he is fine when i drop him off, but when i come to get him he is always screaming. the girls tell me that he insists on being held the whole time and is pretty fussy. at home he plays alot by himself and i don't hold him much at all, but it is just the two of us. i just feel bad for the girls at the gym and i feel bad for him not enjoying his time there. i feel strongly that working out is something i need to do for myself, but i feel guilty everytime i go. any suggestions for him, or me???
2007-02-06 03:54:05 · 7 answers · asked by little mamma 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
He is not too young to be away from you for short intervals. He is probably going through separation/stranger anxiety. See, he's fine with you not holding him because at home you are in the vicinity where he can see and/or smell you. Over there, he's not only not near you, he's not even with a regular caregiver. When I mean regular, I'm talking about a daycare provider who sees him ten hours a day. At that age, when they insist on being held all the time it's because they have one of the "anxieties", all completely normal. My suggestion? You can find someone he knows to watch him for that hour or so you'll be away, or you can buy an exercise bike or something at home or walk with the baby. Eventually they grow out of it. He's too young to interact fully with a bunch of strangers and strange environments, so you have to cut him a bit of slack. At the same time, dont' feel guilty for having 'mommy time' away from kiddo. It makes for a better Mom.
2007-02-06 05:28:26 · answer #1 · answered by MomofOneSpnkyGrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my question how do you expect him to support his child 4 days a week with no job - This plan of yours isn't entirely thought out if you ask me - the money in question should be split 50/50 given that he doesn't have a job and needs to provide for this child somehow - You say he's not a loser but he's making no effort to help the family financially - to me that's not exactly a stand up father He should be out looking for employment with this new found degree he has - I know in my area accounting jobs are pretty easy to come by if you have so much as a 2yr associates in accounting - he could do payroll, office management something instead he chooses to live off you and the government - hmmm
2016-05-23 23:43:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a sitter come to your house so you can go to the gym. Or go to the gym when your husband can watch the baby at home. None of my kids ever liked the gym daycare at all. They're in a strange place with strangers and hated it. They did just fine at our house with a sitter.
2007-02-06 04:00:25 · answer #3 · answered by wwhrd 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why not incorporate your baby in your excercise routine? They have those running strollers and there are videos and classes that make baby part of the excercise. Until baby gets to be about 18, I would forget about "me-time".
2007-02-06 04:42:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is secure when he see you in the room he can play still and know that you are there. He is having separation anxiety, this age is common for this. Keep taking him he will eventullay get used to it.
2007-02-06 05:55:38 · answer #5 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is to interact with him more. Do you have know anyone else with children close to his age? It's better for him to begin building relationships with both you and his peers as early as possible. -Good Luck!
2007-02-06 04:13:03 · answer #6 · answered by LeaveNoQuestion 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he needs to be at home. but thats just whati belive. hes to young to be away from his mommy
2007-02-06 03:59:21 · answer #7 · answered by Daydreamer 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋