I come from a Mormon family (very strict, if you get what a Mormon is) but my mom says she'd be ok if her kid came out bi/gay. However, before she has said she was ok with stuff like marijuana, and then wanted to take out my lungs with a spoon when I actually tried it. So, should I come out as Bi to my mom, or keep it from her at risk of the previous threat?
2007-02-06 03:34:34 · 10 answers · asked by Lena 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm 18, m'dear. :P
2007-02-06 04:12:59 · update #1
LOL uncle Frunk. But, it would be a more painful way to get your throat cut out. After about ten trys, you could get there.
2007-02-06 06:12:39 · update #2
You should come out to her if that is who you are. And if she has a huge problem with it and throws a fit, you shouldn't be afraid to tell your mom that she's being unfairly judgemental and also a hipocrite for SAYING one thing, but acting another way. That isnt right. It's like she's lying to you to trick you into confiding in her. That isnt very mother-like to me.
2007-02-06 03:39:16 · answer #1 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honesty IS always the best policy, but there are also times when it is unnecessary to offer information without inquiry. 18 is still very young, and you are still figuring out who you are and what is best for you. I think if you have come to the conclusion that you are bi, and that is going to be your way of life for the long haul, then you may as well talk about. When doing so you will set the tone of the conversation. Be genuine and honest. I agree your mom probably isn't the strictest if she was okay with the weed, but you should expect her shock and disappointment, but that's okay. She must understand we are each responsible for exercising our agency and will each be accountable for our own decisions. You should tell her you respect her and her opinions, but that you must make your own decisions. Sorry about the rambling. I'm Mormon, but married an agnostic. I am still very strong in the church because I can't deny the witnesses I have received, but my choice to marry a non-Mormon was a big one (especially for my strict Mormon mother); and the consequences I must accept. Good luck.
2007-02-06 09:07:04 · answer #2 · answered by straightup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, honesty is always the best policy.
Understand that your mom might have said "ok" though it might still come as a shock...by "ok" she could have also meant she would accept the decision, not the act.
Also, if you claim she is a strict Mormon and she told you it was ok to smoke pot then she must not be too strict...seriously, if she is, then she won't agree with your decision to be "bi" but she will still love you as her child.
2007-02-06 08:07:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are 18, move out of her house. Get a job etc. Then when you are safe from her, then tell her.
Sounds like she doesn't know what she is OK with or what she is not OK with. Do not trust people like this....or I would not.
2007-02-07 04:47:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can truly answer that as it will impact you and your life. Personally, I would suggest honesty is the best policy. Spoons don't cut, after all.
2007-02-06 04:45:12 · answer #5 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't actually come out as bi until it came down to you dating a girl.
That might sound bad, but what if you only date males while living in your parents house, it would cause unncecessary drama.
If it really bothers you that you're not out to her, then by all means tell her...but I recommend not to.
2007-02-06 03:52:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, if your mom becomes violent when you try to tell her things, you may want to tell her in a room with some people that you trust won't let her kill you.
However, I have to say that you should read what scripture says about homosexuality and understand why it would upset your mother who wants the best for you.
2007-02-06 03:40:24 · answer #7 · answered by Christian93 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I don't know how old you are but I agree that you should wait until you have a girlfriend to come out to her. If it's not hurting you to keep it to yourself then don't tell her.
2007-02-06 04:09:20 · answer #8 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want an open, honest relationship with her you'll need to tell her.
2007-02-06 06:12:41 · answer #9 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her your bi
2007-02-06 04:16:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋