2007-02-06 03:34:17 · 8 answers · asked by m 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If you think that you're in the wrong body and that you should've been constructed as a man then you are trangender. If (as a man) you like men then you are a gay trangender.
It happens. I hope you can reconcile yourself and find a partner who understands and accepts you.
2007-02-06 04:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you're expressing could be some kind of fantasy, or a hint that you may be transgendered. I'll define:
fantasy/fetish: An idea or image you have that you find attractive. Some people like to role play, others are attracted to certain objects or roles. Others like to become different people or take on different identities. These are only temporary, and generally don't mean that a person is unhappy with who they are "normally", in day-to-day life.
Transgender: When someone feels they are 'born into the wrong body', and feels more comfortable as a different sex/gender than the one they currently have.
It sounds like you're expressing that you want to be male, and that you're attracted to men AS a man. This could possibly make you a transgender gay male, but I'm going on very limited information. See if you can answer these questions - they aren't a "test", just a way to get you exploring questions about your identity in more depth:
Are you unhappy with the body you have now? If so, what would you like to change about it?
Is the ideal identity that you want different from the one you currently live now? If so, how?
Why do you wish you were a gay male, or transvestite? Is it because that seems to "fit" you better, or because you're attracted to the idea of these identites?
Do you wish you were a male because it makes something about your emotions and attractions easier for you? Ex - are you attracted to gay men? What about being a transvestite appeals to you?
If you wish you were a gay man, or a transvestite, because that's who you really feel you are on the inside, there's a good chance you could be transgender. I would recommend looking into a trans-friendly therapist who can help you sort out some of these issues - a gay man and a transvestite are very different things (one is a man sexually attracted to a man, and one is a man who likes wearing women's clothing. Most transvestites are heterosexual, not gay men).
Wishing you were a gay man or transvestite is no indication of your sexual orientation. It doesn't mean you're bisexual, gay, lesbian, or even straight. It has to do with your gender identity, and how you see yourself as male or female.
Your sexual orientation (who you're emotionally and physically attracted to) can be gay, lesbian, bisexual, straight, etc., and you can STILL be transgendered (or not). The two are not connected, and can operate independantly from each other.
Your issue could have to do with your sexual orientation and not your gender identity, but I'd say to get a good, queer-friendly counsellor/therapist who can help you sort it all out. Ultimately these feelings can be different (maybe even scary), but it doesn't make you abnormal. Many other people are questioning themselves the way you are.
Good luck :D
2007-02-06 12:06:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wish you were a man, and you are attracted to men, then it's possible you are a gay transman, or gay female-to-male transsexual. There are lots of them out there, but don't get too upset now; there are also many women who identify as "gay men in women's bodies" but aren't at all masculine, nor do they really wish to surgically or hormonally alter their bodies, although some do as well. I myself know that if given the chance, I would absolutely choose to be a gay or bisexual male rather than a woman. Gay male sex resonates more strongly for me than heterosexual sex.
But don't worry; it doesn't mean you're bisexual; only if you like women and men both sexually are you bisexual.
Hope that helps; you can go to ftmi.org if you'd like to know more about female-to-male transsexuals. Good luck with whatever happens!
2007-02-06 11:58:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Female to male transsexual. If you identify as male and are attracted to men only, the correct labels would be gay transman.
2007-02-06 14:13:57 · answer #4 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I second cando_ there are LOTS and LOTS of "gay ftm's" out there in fact here in Atlanta I'd say there are more gay ftms then there are str8 ftm's. Just because you change your sex doesn't mean you change who or what your attracted too. Gender and sexual orientation do not go hand in hand.
2007-02-06 13:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by Glitterygrrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have perfectly normal feelings. There is nothing wrong with your feelings atg all and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
2007-02-06 11:59:38 · answer #6 · answered by Michael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
transsexual - in other words - gay ftm
(probably)
2007-02-06 11:51:03 · answer #7 · answered by girl with a gun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it makes you confused
2007-02-06 12:01:08 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋