How long were you married before having your 1st child?

Question

My husband & I will be married a year in May, & I am dying to have a child. I feel like that's what God put me here for--to be a mother. I want to know what it feels like to love someone so much and have someone to depend on me for life. My husband also wants a child, but wants to be through with Police Academy for Highway Patrol. He will graduate in May. Do you think after only a year of marriage it would be a mistake to try to conceive?

Answer 1

I got pregnant with my first 2mo. before my first anniversary. I gave birth 5mo.before my 2nd. anniversary.
When you should start trying to conceive is up to you and your husband. It worked out for me though. I have 2 wonderful children and I will be celebrating my 5th. anniversary in a few days!
Good luck to you.

Answer 2

I was got pregnant before I got married. If I were in your situation, as long as finances, your home, and your partner are all in the right place/agreement then I would go for it. It is no fun to have someone not with a job, a tiny apartment that won't fit a second person let alone a baby, and a partner who doesn't want a child. As long as you both are on the same page, I don't see why attempting to conceive would be an issue.

Answer 3

I think it is a personal decision. My husband and I have been married 3 and half years and are now trying. For us we are so glad we waited. But we too thought about having a baby a year after marriage. We believe in God so we feel even though we are trying we put it in his hands. My husbands parents tried right after they were married and didn't get pregnant for 5 years but after that pregnancy were able to concieve right away 2 more times. They now give credit to God because they thought they were ready but they now know God new they weren't. So if you are a person of a faith believe in it what ever it might be. Also you and your husband have to be on the same page. When I felt I wanted a baby I went to my husband and he admitted he felt exactly the same way. So good luck in your decision. Do what is right for you guys in your life.

Answer 4

Hi, I have been married 18 months and am currently trying for a baby. Everyone is different. The majority of married couples seem to have a child within the first year but that's not to say that's normal! Everone's circumstances are different. I must admit I feel a bit left out as all the married couples I know have children and have been married the same amount of time as me! You should only consider this when both of you are ready as it's a major decision.

Answer 5

Ah-ha! We were married for 9 months and 7 days when our little bundle of joy arrived. I have no regrets and would not change a thing. I guess that it depends on how old you are, how you are doing financially, etc. The last thing that you want is for the conception of a baby to cause a huge fight and lasting disagreement. If you can wait a little while and it will make your husband more receptive to the idea then I think you should.

Answer 6

well it depends how well u know him, only u can answer this question, having a baby early in ur marriage is really tough, i did it, my daughter was born the day before our one yr anniversary, but we got thru it and are much better now. i think hes smart for wanting to get done with police academy first, having a career before having children is much easier, my husband wants to go to school but is having a hardtime doing it because that means less time wtih his daughter. Its something u both need to agree one, but after a yr i think ur fine i dont think any baby is a mistake, just make sure its something u both want not just something u want or it wont end very well.

Answer 7

5 years then 2 more years till the next and 9 years later another. This is a love that has no words or boundaries it is an experience no woman should be without even if that means adopting. Being a mother is never easy but it is well worth your time and effort.

Answer 8

on each occasion, i do no longer think of there is anybody stable time-physique for everryone, some desire and choose time with in basic terms their significant different in the previous havin teenagers, yet others might particularly attempt for toddlers the superb option away. and a few have teenagers in the previous they're married or get married cuz the female is pregnant, so it relatively relies upon on the guy. So i've got faith that there is not any longer a stable time-physique for each man or woman, some 5 years may be stable, some no waitin is stable too, it relatively relies upon, lol, :D.

Answer 9

I was married to my husband about 14 mos, and our little girl came as quite the surprise (but a pleasant one, of course!)....she's just turned 2 and we couldn't have been happier.

BUT! We were both on the same page with wanting a child, and while surprised (we figured it would take us longer, as my women's time wasn't regular), we were both as ready as you can be without ever having had a child before!

If your husband would like to wait to have a child, I would suggest you respect his wishes. Babies take a LOT of security and money, and TRUST me, you don't want to be unsure of your job position while having a child, it's too much stress and worry. Besides, if he does not feel like hes ready for it yet, it would be bad for you (relationship-wise) to get pregnant. It's always better to be open with your feelings in your marriage, and all he's asking you to do is to respect him and WAIT....the Police Academy is like the Military, and there's a LOT of stress that goes along with that. Babies inherently FEEL that stress, and I'm sure he just wants to be able to be calm and to enjoy your child. PLEASE wait.

Answer 10

Of course it's not a mistake. That is what God put you here for. Having a child is not going to be any easier after 10 years of marriage. It's a big change, but it's so worth it. Your whole life will change your priorities will change, but it is so worth it.