I have spoken to him about this a million times. he needs reading every night before sleeping. We are youg couple in 30s got married an year ago and never had a sex life which everybody experiences atleast once in lifetime. I do everything and try to make him happy. he is all affectionate and caring and kissing me all the time, but nothng beyond. if I initiate that does not turn him on too. I ave not had good experience even wit our few encounters. I have decided to make it work but donno know how. he is a perfect guy otherwise and every women thinks is a good catch.
2007-02-06 03:23:47 · 14 answers · asked by wonder 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am sorry for you. You're in a libido / sex attitude mismatch marriage. There is a support group for people like us. It is called SWAGE. There's lots of new members every day, that are there to give you the kind of support that only people who have suffered from this plight can give. Others have no idea what you are going through...
2007-02-06 04:21:15 · answer #1 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All he has to do is Google "low libido after birth" and he'll get a million hits all telling him the same thing...it's extremely common and not an excuse. My son is 5 months old and I'm BF and still have practically no libido. It's all hormones and not in any way your fault or anything you can control. If he wants to make things easier he needs to help out more so you aren't so tired. He might also want to try taking care of both the kids on his own for one day (with some pumped milk) so he knows exactly what you deal with every single day. A lot of dads are under the very, very mistaken impression that being a SAHM means lounging on the couch watching soap operas and eating bon bons. They don't have a clue how exhausting it is.
2016-05-23 23:34:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people are never what they seem. appearances can be deceiving. ask him why he married you. maybe he just had bad experiences with sex in the past. maybe he needs to get used to it or something. i don't know, but i do know that if you two love each other then you can find a way to get through this. it may take time but you will both find a happy medium.
2007-02-06 03:39:39 · answer #3 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as hard as it is to believe there are some men who have low libido. I don't know what you can do other than him taking Viagra or cialis to give him that extra push. Talk to him and see if he's willing to try some medication to perk things up a bit.
2007-02-06 03:45:47 · answer #4 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute.. you have NEVER had sex with him?
Eh.. if he's not gay then maybe he has impotency issues. I can't see it being anything else. He is either not attracted to women or he has some serious embarrassment about it, to the point of phobia.
2007-02-06 03:36:07 · answer #5 · answered by Jim T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's into some kinky sex. you guys will have to let all of your fantasies out. maybe he's shy. please him as much as possible. even if its just laying in the bed and ahving oral sex with him while he reading. i'm not sure. i've always wondered this. some men don't like having sex and some women are the same. my thing is if you can orgasm every time why not do it as much as possible. i make sure she gets her everytime any way she wants it and i still get turned down. it is strange.
2007-02-06 03:47:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nnThis is the same advice I have given for the other couples,start dressing in your blacksilcky linger,as assloon as he come home go to him in this sexy dress and start kissing him, Then give hima good drink (whatever behis choice_) sit in his lap and give him the drink,then both of you cann take a warm bath, where he soaps you and you soap him in all the places.the squichy feel of the soap itself wii increase you temperatures, then see what happens andif you get what you have wanted,be first to infform me.
2007-02-06 03:51:07 · answer #7 · answered by ramy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may need to see a doctor or a sex therapist for this problem if he is not gay or cheating. I think he is gay though but i could be wrong.
2007-02-06 03:31:02 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you spoke to him about it a million times a million and one or two won't work. Put it blunty: that you have needs that he is not meeting.
2007-02-06 03:44:10 · answer #9 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually, you may want to make him a dr appointment. He may have some sort of medical condition. If so, there are LOTS of things drs can do to help out.
2007-02-06 03:31:43 · answer #10 · answered by mojo0520 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋