Why do stay at home moms think their life is tough?

Question

They stay at home all day while their husbands work even harder to pay the bills. I would do anything to stay at home and play with my kids, watch tv, and have naps all day while my wife went to work. I would also guarantee that the house would be spotless and dinner would be made when she got home. And more importantly I wouldn't complain about it because, afterall, I was at home all day playing with my kids!!!!!!!!!!

Ariel - you need to relax and stop exagerating about your family. As if 50% of stay at home moms have $500 000 in their accounts. And so what, your mom did what moms are expected to do. Do you want me to give her a cookie? As for my education, I'm a school teacher and very happy with my career and my financial situation( I married into a very, very rich family). So now you can SUCK IT UP

Answer 1

Let me tell you something *******!!! My mom is a house wfie and she works 10X harder than my dad! She cleans our huge house, makes dinner, volunteers for numerous communities, brings me to college every morning , picks me and my 4 brothers to and from sports and still somehow manages to get 5 hours of sleep!!!! You cant just judge ALL stay at home moms like that. and you know what? 50% of stay at home moms (like mine) have more than $500,000 in there bank account from previously working through highschool and etc...so i think with that much money THEY DONT NEED TO WORK THE REST OF THERE LIVES!!!! And when a percentage (being my mom) are stationed over seas because of their husbands (my dad) are in the military, they are not allowed to work in a foriegn country. MY MOM gave up HER job just for my dad because he has to move all over the place. So now she is a stay at home mom. Dont complain just because you probably didnt go to college to get you a job that will allow you to retire at an early age. SUCK IT UP !

Answer 2

I have had the pleasures of being a stay at home mom. Some days are rough, but over all its awesome. You should keep the house clean, doesn't have to be spotless but never get to a pig sty. And yes there should be dinner on the table or in the making for your husband and kids every night. What else does a hard working husband have to look forward to after a long day at work. Some women fall into a depression and that's when things fall apart though.

Answer 3

This is the question of a person who has never done it. And if you have you probably approach it like work - Giving orders and expecting results. You get to escape the often mindless drudgery of looking after children. It isnt all about playing. Kids need to be cared for, fed, taught, watched, nurtured, and so much more. Try to make an appointment or do something as simple as shop with 2 or 3 kids. That is like caring for 2 or 3 elderly people, you have to dress them, make sure they have gone to the bathroom, make sure you have everything they could possibly need for the duration of your trip, and then while trying to do whatever it is you have set out to do you need to keep them safe, inline, and occupied. This is just one simple example.

You on the other hand get up and go to a job where you deal for the most part with adults. they generaly do not through a tantrum, cry, wet thier pants, you dont need you to feed them, entertain them, play with them, nurse their boo boo's, teach them, and so on. You can have an actual conversation with them about current events, the latest game, tell adult jokes, gossip about the guy down the way who is sleeping with his secretary, and so on. Every day you are at work you are really on a mini vacation from the demands of running a family and looking after other people. She complains to you because you are her source of adult contact, you should listen and allow it, you should interact with her.

Yes work is hard, but its just a job and it has a start and end time. being a parent doesnt, and a good parent (such as your wife sounds) doesnt quit. None of this mentions the benifits to your children from having thier mom as a caregiver. have you seen the horror stories from day care?

You need to spend your next vacation home doing her job, but do it right - take care of the kids, all there needs, keep them happy, fed, nurtured, do all the shopping, the cooking, the cleaning, take them to all the events, juggle the schedules and so on - You will be screaming for work by the end of the week.

Just a note - I am a Male not another one of those complaining stay at home moms. I do understand the need for a 2 income family but the children not in day care do have an advantage and if you can pull it off GO FOR IT. Remember how they were tossed in daycare when you are sitting in the old age home.

Answer 4

Yeah my husband thinks the same way. I am not completely a stay at home mom. I drive a school bus But I am home alone with the kids most of the day. Its harder then you think. Laundry, dishes, making beds, making breakfast, lunch, and then having dinner on the table when you get home, picking up all the toys, chasing the kids around all day, Its alot harder then you think. Don't get me wrong its a joy. Its great to be able to spend the time with the kids. I would rather do this then do what my husband does. I also don't complain about it I just do what I have to do and get it done. no since on complaining its not going to do any good. ♥


I wanted to add that some stay at home moms like the lady that lives next door to me doesn't do a damn thing all day doesn't clean doesn't fix dinner just sits on her fat *** and when her 10 year old comes home from school makes him to the dish washer and pick up the mess that the 2 year old made and makes him wait on her hand and foot. moms like that need to get off their fat lazy asses and do something. I am a school bus driver. I am home most of the day but I also drive first thing in the morning 6am-9am then from 9-1:30 I am home then from 1:30-4:00 I am driving again. I bring home about 250-300 bucks a week doing this.My kids come with me on the bus. how come some of the other moms can't do something like this. Its gives you plenty of time to get everything else done too. Thanks for letting me add this. ♥

Answer 5

thats an easy one ive been both a stay at home mom and a working mom. It's easier for dad cause seems like the kids behave better for him. With working you get away from the mom i want this and so on while when your at home you have to do all the cooking cleaning and all that and still deal with the i want i want. If you think you would spend the day watching tv and napping you are mistaken theres alot of things to do to keep a house running. My husband thought the same way before we switched roles for awhile and I worked while he stayed home with the kids and believe me he appreciates what I do alot more now then he did its not all fun and games staying home you have like 5 jobs in one to do when your working you only have that one. try switching places while she works and you stay home and see how u feel about it then

Answer 6

I agree with you, and I'm a woman. I would do anything to stay at home and take care of my husband and kids....I'd love to be the top PTA mom in my kid's school. But, I'm a single mom, and that isn't possible. I'm not lazy, and am not afraid to work, but I think that my family is the most important thing in the world, and to take care of them 100% of the time would be a dream come true. I also believe that with both parents having to work in our society, we are doing our youth a disservice. Society is raising our kids while we are trying to make ends meets. An ideal situation would be if one or the other parent could stay home with the children. I bet our society would be a whole lot better if we were able to do that.

Answer 7

If you think staying at home is so easy and it's ALL just laying around and playing with the kids, you are wrong bud!!! because once the kid are in school, its making lunches, going to teacher parent conferences and helping with homework.and outings for the kids sports practices Finding time to shop, cook, clean a 10 room house and ironing husbands shirts Then we are running to make Doctor and dentist appointments and paying the bills on time. Oh not to mention helping husband with the bookkeeping and keeping track of business expenses and sale taxes on your free time. Then trying to stay fit and pretty for your husband, when he want to go out on the town. Do you think there is time for a nap in all this? I think a women does more then her fair share. A man can punch out at the end of his day but a women never has any ending or beginning to her day. my 2 cents

Answer 8

It's a 24hrs. 7-days a week job with no vacation, raises, and cheap pay with only one day a year that Moms get honored. We get no support from our family. We are taken for granted at times. Society looks upon us like we gave up on our dreams and just settled for being a housewife. And there are people who think like you do that gives stay at home moms/dads the bad rap.
A stay at home mom does twice more work than a full-time employee. Here's just a list of what "we" have to: clean house; dishes, dusting, mopping, vacuuming, washing and folding, and cook three types of meals (breakfast, lunch and dinner).
And there's the family: taking care of children by dropping them off at school, making sure they are doing their homework, be their doctor/nurse when they are sick or hurt, cleaning their rooms, enacting with them by spending quality time (not just sitting in front of the TV watching "Jerry" or "The Price is Right"), helping them deal with their problems at school or with their friends, and making sure they are safe from harm. When that's all squared away, "we" give our husbands their quality time and giving them support and love that they deserve. Now if you have a demanding husband/wife, it's even more stressful and nerve-racking.
I am very fortunate that my husband lets me stay at home with my
family and be a good housewife.

Answer 9

okay im a stay at home mom with a 3yr old and a 1yr lod. u cant tell me that it easy. its a full time job. i garrente the u wouldnt b able to have the house spotless and the dinner on the table. when u go home ur done working. u go in sit down and ur done for the day. not women... its a 24/7 thing. even in the middle of the night. i love being at home with my kids though...dont get me wrong. but men cant do it like women do. its not in ur blood to raise kids.

Answer 10

Wow, why don´t you do it then?
I´m not a stay at home mom, but i´ve been a nanny for a looong time and i can tell you, as million other women that it is one tough job. It´s funny that you mention watching TV and taking naps...so typical of ignorants like you. Days taking care of kids and homes are crazy. Sometimes you don´t even have time to use the bathroom. You have to plan ahead, run against the clock, prioritize, get kids ready, get their food ready, take them places, keep them happy and occupied or deal with their tantrums/needs (it´s called education, btw)...i don´t even know why i bother trying to explain...you obviously won´t get it.