Should I tell my husband what happened?

Question

My husband and I were going through a really tough time a few months back. I had heard from his brother that he cheated on me and I was heart broken. So I went out with my friend for her bday and got pretty drunk and ended up kissing one of my guy friends. It meant nothing to me but I still feel really guilty. I have asked my husband if he cheated on me and he just changes the subject. Should I tell him what I did or just let it go since it was just a meaningless kiss??

Answer 1

By the way he acted, it appears he did in fact cheat. But I think sometimes things are better left unsaid.
The kiss you engaged in was a drunken one time thing. Not to mention your mentality at the time, which has proven to be correct after the fact.
Understand what you did wasnt right, but it was completely meaningless. I dont think I would feel much guilt about it.
If it bothers you to that degree, then be honest with hubby, but if the two of you are doing good now, why bring up a negative issue to make it bad again.
Its up to you, but i honestly dont feel like its a big issue due to your mentality of him having cheated at the time. You didnt sleep with someone for revenge but undoubtedly was so hurt, you wanted to feel better and tried something else.
I wouldnt sweat it, and i would leave it under the door mat unless he finds out about it and asks u about it.
Then, b honest......but he aint talking about his actions is he?
Good luck to you hun.

Answer 2

Personally I would tell him because if it's playing on your conscious than I can't see it suddenly stop doing so unless you confess, what you did was wrong but like you said it meant nothing and you were drunk. You need to talk to each other he may be avoiding you because he may have done the same as is trying to cope with his guilt. Maybe go out together and talk about whats in both of your heads.

Also if someone else tells him and then you would look really guilty and if your argument would be "its just a kiss" than that would probably make him more angry thinking that cheating isn't anything important whether it meant something or not. I'd be honest...
I really hope it all worrks out for you

Answer 3

Dan I really love u, you have just kissed a guy friend and for that you are feeling guilty, don't feel guilty,forgot it ,once again ask him firmly about his cheating, and even at that time he refuses to tell the truth, leave it, it is because he loves you and if the truth comes out you may leave him, which he does not want, he wants you with him. Just like the meaningless kiss,this would also pass.

Answer 4

The issue here is the fact that he cheated on you, can you live with this? Or later on will you decide to drink a little more and do a little more. Its sad that he did that, 2 wrongs do not make it right, and its good that you didn't go any further. I would confront him on what his brother told you and tell him you were so upset that, you went out and kissed a guy but were smart enough not to go any further and get to the bottom of it

Answer 5

If it meant nothing to you, then you don't need to tell him. He didn't tell you of his adultery! I say to let it go. Do you really want to know if your husband cheated on you or not? If you told you he did, how would you feel about it? Would it make you more content knowing that he did, and told you about it, or would you feel less of a woman and hurt? Neither of you need to discuss what went on with eachother when you were seperated. Neither of you should have been doing anything, because you were still married to eachother, but that is besides the point. DON'T TELL HIM ANYTHING!!!! It will only hurt your relationship even more.

Answer 6

No, because it sounds like it's already broke and you'll just be adding fuel. Two wrongs don't make a right, if there even was a first wrong in the first place. Why would his brother come to you and say that- and your husband denies it? Do they still talk? You're marriage is not going to last unless you get some counseling and learn to talk to each other. Good luck.

Answer 7

I suggest you tell him, I dont think it's that bad compared to cheating. A kiss is nothing compared to the actual cheating and you will know how he will react to it. Just a simple way of you getting even with him, That should break his heart also, there's nothing for you to feel guilty about. What you did was very minor compared to what he did to you.

Answer 8

You want to tell him because you feel guilty about it. I say let it go. It was only a meaningless kiss. I know as a woman, it hurts you to keep it a secret, but I seriously doubt telling him is worth the trouble it will cause.

Let sleeping dogs lie...

Answer 9

if he is changing the subject and won't answer you about this. then chances are that he did cheat.
you still need to be honest with him about the kiss. if it was nothing and nothing else happened, then you shouldn't feel ashamed or afraid to tell him. let him know why the kiss occurred in the first place. tell him if he did cheat on you to be honest about it and then you can both work on repairing your relationship. the longer he doesn't talk about it, the harder it will be to fix things. good luck

Answer 10

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