My husband and I haven't had sex since August 05. We have been married for 2 years and 4 months. On several occassions I busted him for watching porn online, buying and hiding porn dvds, and looking at women on date sites. I asked him to go to counseling and he won't go. When I confronted him even more back in December he asked me "Why does sex have to be a part of a marriage?" I don't want to cheat on him but I don't know what else to do but file papers! HELP!
2007-02-06 03:05:38 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All you can do is try to talk to him, if he is unwilling to seek counseling and pay attention to you, there is nothing you can do. My ex did this, would be up all night, on chats, im's, etc, porn, blamed it on my son, and all that time I was right there ready to be with him, willing etc, we are not together, he did not appreciate me, well I found out he is fat and alone, so it all comes full circle. Make yourself happy, don't cheat, get out!
2007-02-06 03:54:42 · answer #1 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont think for one minute that porn is the big issue here.
6mths without sex and him watching porn doesnt seem like a perverted statement.
I dont know what the problem is, but it may be he is having erectile problems and using porn to try to get it up.
This sort of problem is not one a man likes to talk about.
He might need a different kind of help.
Keep an open mind
2007-02-07 04:19:44 · answer #2 · answered by tillermantony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you have exhausted all your hopes. I can not tell you to push yourself more into 'educating' your husband. But do talk to him about the option you are going to consider if he refused to change himself.
And before you take the actual step, sit back once and think whether you are prepared for it just yet.
2007-02-08 15:05:05 · answer #3 · answered by Cyphor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋