My wife and I split up a few months...many issues are revolving around us...we agreed to try work these issues out...now after getting back together one issue which I see evolving surrounds both our families...seems my wifes family has been hurt by the spilt...my family as well. Now that we are back to gether we are finding it hard to get them to socalize with us. please help
2007-02-06 03:03:58 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
take time understand that they are looking out for your wife's best interest. They are confused about what is going on. I mean if it was your daughter, sister or cousin, You would wander what the purpose was to the split up. Then to see her back with you. They may be looking at this as what's going to happen next? How long is this going to last? What's his reason for all this? And they even may find it hard to bond with you now because they don't want her or them selves to get hurt again, emotionally. It's going to take time to get back into the flow of things. Let them have their space and let them deal with their feelings. In the mean time enjoy the relationship you have with your wife and work on that. Love her as you would beyond your self. Treat her like the queen of everything. Just let your wife know that you both need to just give the family time to adjust. Your family may not show it, but I'm sure they are going through the same thing.Just give it time. Blessings to you both and the families.
2007-02-06 03:16:55 · answer #1 · answered by really???? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just focus on each other and working on your marriage now. You can deal with this later when you are both stronger and can handle it better. Are you guys in marriage counseling yet? The families will adjust and learn to accept it again over time.
2007-02-06 03:15:52 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you got married it wasn't just you and your wife, it was your families as well and they might not trust the situation right now or be afraid of getting close or involved since your separtation probably caused them pain as well.
you will have to give it time and show that your serious about working on a marriage.
2007-02-06 03:09:43 · answer #3 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what does your families have to do wtih your relationship with yoru wife? leave them alone. if they don't want to socialize with you then you find some friends to hang out with...this goes for birthdays and holidays too. especially around the holidays. because the holidays are usually a time for familes to get together. but not in all cases. why don't you start your own holiday tradition. just because your family doesn't like what's going on with your relationship doesn't man that you have to allow their opinions and lack of communication with you and your wife to keep you from making your marrage work (this goes for your wife's family as well). keep your contact to a minimun. if they dont' call you...then don't call them. you need to let them know (through actions) that they have no dominion over your relationships or over your decisions in your life. if they don't like it..they don't like it. just because they are family doesn't mean that they HAVE to be friends and it doesn't mean that you have be treated like crap. i say stop telling your familiy what's going on in your life. they will start missing you and will make the move to begin talking to you more often. just keep to yourself andyour wife.
2007-02-06 03:14:19 · answer #4 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the families this is the way it's going to be; Either they socialize or they don't, that's entirely up to them. It can go both ways for you and wife too when it comes to socializing with them.
2007-02-06 03:16:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let time go by you and your wife thats the first thing.then after sometime has passed both your families will see that your both hanging in there and trying even harder even thought theres still some tension between both families.they will come around just be patient,ok.
2007-02-06 03:23:06 · answer #6 · answered by Baby Doll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them time. Time heals all wounds.
My mother once told me when I got married. Don't tell me what he does, because you might forgive him, but I won't.
It's kind of true. It's harder for the family to get over it than you two. Just let the dust settle, and worry about the socializing later.
2007-02-06 03:15:22 · answer #7 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just work on your marriage and let the extended family stay in the background for now. that issue will resolve itself in time. the most important thing is your marriage at this point.
2007-02-06 03:08:36 · answer #8 · answered by dali333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 11:50:07 · answer #9 · answered by lobos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Don't get why your families are so hurt, when you guys are the ones living with each other. Stop living for them, and concentrate on each other. I guess they are all going to have to get over it, and it may sound harsh, but really concentrate on yourselves, and whatever you choose, they will choose also.
2007-02-06 03:08:25 · answer #10 · answered by Brandnewshoes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋