my daughter is 16 years old and her mother lives very close by.
2007-02-06 03:02:18 · 13 answers · asked by bobroberts33 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let your daughter decide. She is old enough to know what is going on and knows her own schedule.
I heard something on talk radio yesterday, a lady had called in and said that what helps them is that they don't call the 2 houses 'mom's house' or 'dad's house', they call it the 'brown house' or the 'new house'. That way she doesn't feel like she is going to a hotel.
2007-02-06 03:07:24 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say talk to your daughter don't give her control cause at 16 she will wont to be where she can have the most fun, there will probably be rule differences between homes so I would go with 3 and 4 if you go a whole week she will have a harder time adjusting to which set of rules to go by and a 16 year old is hard in any circumstance just try to be fair to her and each other she will learn allot about life by how you and her mom react to each other threw this process
2007-02-06 11:12:08 · answer #2 · answered by sweetcavebaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your daughter is 16?? why don't you just ask her what she would like to do. she is old enough to be able to make a good decision on that. remembe though, she is 16, she isn't gonna want to spend that much time with her parents and it will have nothing to do with the divorce. that is how teens are. what you as parents should always remember, DO NOT BAD MOUTH EACH OTHER. love your daughter and go on with your lives. good luck
2007-02-06 11:07:56 · answer #3 · answered by linda k 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford it - the best custody plan for kids is when they stay in one home and mom and dad take turns moving in and out. So for example - there is one house. Kid stays in that house all the time. Mom comes in for her time and then goes to an apartment on her off days. Dad comes in for his time and then goes to his apartment on his off days. You start to see how disruptive and difficult this lifestyle can be and really understand how hard it is on kids as well.
Good luck.
2007-02-06 11:18:07 · answer #4 · answered by CV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we do 3 days on four days off. it works out well for us (once the intial schedule really settled in.) i think an entire week away at a time is just too long for both the kids and the parents.
best of luck :)
2007-02-06 11:05:59 · answer #5 · answered by dali333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 16 I had no real desire to see my dad, I lived with my mom and had school and a job. I am not trying to sound mean but at 16 most kids aren't home as much to spend time with their parents. My dad barely sees my stepsister and she lives at home!!
2007-02-06 11:17:19 · answer #6 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you three can sit down and work things out, so sit down and decide a schedule. If it doesn't work out you can always change it. Good for you two for doing this and realizing that it is the two of you that got the divorce and not your daughter.
2007-02-06 11:08:12 · answer #7 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though your daughter is 16 and not yet considered above the age of consent she is still old enough (and hopefully mature enough) to help make this decision.
2007-02-06 11:06:25 · answer #8 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
one week and one week its easier to do and give the poor kid a chance. its very sad for break up but remember its worse living with the spouse and having the problems which kids can feel and hate it
2007-02-10 02:30:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her schooling won't be affected, I would ask her which she prefers. Just keep to the same rules in both houses, or she will definitely prefer one over the other on weekends, etc.
2007-02-06 11:06:15 · answer #10 · answered by mq1229 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋