My husband hit me just becoz he was tired, angry...I love him a lot but can't accept this..what to do?

Question

he said sorry that he was tired, but he hit me in front of kids :(

Answer 1

there is no reason to hit it is all about what is going on inside him. saying i am sorry is never enough, especially in front of the children, as they themselves will grow up thinking they can handle problems by abuse also. if he is unwilling to go through therapy than he is not willing to make the changes necessary to stop this behavior. and in that case u need to get a divorce from him.

Answer 2

He hit you? Call the police. If you really can accept what he's doing fight back! He only hitting you becasue he thinks you are weaker than him. Let him know that just because your'e a woman doesn't mean anything. I 'm telling you to gain enough courage to fight back. You can do it. And... if that doesn't work pick up the nearest frying pan.... or whatevers laying around and hit him until he blue. But, don't do it in front of the kids.... tell them to go outside and play. Children don't need to see this kind of violence taking place if will infect them and they remember it so they will think it okay to hit a woman when it's not. There are other options... Battered Woman's Shelters, or a close relative.
Get out while you can!!!!

Answer 3

Dear Mp,when the husband hits you it is not you he is hitting, it is all the frustrations and the disappointments which he is carrying, I know it is wrong to hit you in front of the kids,but let me tell you I have done the same with my wife for so many years, but the poor woman has patiently accepted her life and let me tell you that when I was bed rid-en and had a by pass surgery she was my pill or of strength and god willing we may celebrate our
silver Wedding jubilee in Nov07. So don't make a big issue of this and as a saying in our Tamil language says "The hand that beats is the same hand which hugs us" So be happy. Afterseeing more than 50 comments before me I feel very sad that because of a slap if you are going to divorce him or leave him what is going to happen to the institution we call MARRIAGE.

Answer 4

Being tired and angry is no excuse for violence, especially in front of children, i realise its hard to jus cut all ties after this on incident so you need to sit down and have a very serious talk with him, i would suggest something like marriage councilling if you honestly trust it was a one off, either way make a big deal out of it, dont let it be brushed under the carpet. Most guys that hit apologise and come up with excuses, but there are NONE, for either a man or a woman to hit their partner. Ihope you can talk through it, and set your marriage back on track, but if you really feel you can't trust him, you should end it. seeing this kind of violence could be harmful to your children.

Answer 5

You don't make excuses for a man no matter what the situation is when it comes to physical violence. And he even did it in front of the kids? This is teaching your children that it is okay to communicate with physical abuse. If you have sons, thwy might grow up to beat their wives because they saw daddy do it to mommy, and if you have girls, then they will think it is okay to marry someone that treats them badly because they saw daddy do it to mommy. You need to take control of your household. Put him in his place. How would he feel if you hit him? I bet he wouldn't stand for that, and you shouldn't either.He isn't a child anymore, he can communicate without throwing blows!

Is this the first time that he has hit you? Let him know how it made you feel and how you never want him to get so angry, that he resorts in violence. You are the mother of his children, he isn't supposed to treat you this way. If you think is anger is out of control, then he needs outside help. Maybe angermanagement classes or something. Let him know that "being tired" isn't an accuse for violence. Especially against someone you love. Let him know that you won't stand for this type of abuse. Either he gets his emotions together, or you are leaving. If you accept the abuse once, and don't do anything about it, then it leaves room for it to happen again and again. Please don't be a statistic!!!! Take control of your life. You teach people how to treat you!! Teach your husband to treat you like the queen that you are.

Answer 6

Take control of this situation. When he comes home today when the kids aren't watching, give him a good swift hard kick in the nutz. Then while he's on the floor whining and holding himself, Say you are sorry you only did it because you were tired and stressed out and by the way mister you ever hit me again i'll cut it off next time and you will have to sit to pee for the rest of your life.

if that don't work next time he hits you, call the police, press charges and while he's in jail file for a divorce.

Answer 7

Parents are role models for their children, they will learn from everything you do and say, your husband just gave a lesson in how it is ok to hit another person. You have an obligation to keep your children safe, not just physically but mentally. ever hear the quote "the apple doesn't fall far from the tree"? If you don't get some help or out of the situation completely then your children will grow up and do this to their families as well.

Answer 8

It doesn't matter who what where when why or how it is not appropriate to hit someone in front of the kids or other wise. I don't care if he was tired and angry. He should not have hit you. If he continues to be abusive I would call the police. I understand that you love him, But being abusive isn't right. weather its the man hitting the woman or the woman hitting the man. Its all abuse. Good luck. ♥

Answer 9

Being tired and angry is no excuse for domestic abuse or violence of any kind. Do not let him get away with this! You should have called the police. He will hit you again, and because he hit you in front of the children, they now think that hitting is OK. Who's to say he won't start hitting the children? Take your kids and get out NOW.

Answer 10

NO ONE has a reason to hit another person and being angry and tired is a lame excuse if I ever heard one. I would sit him down quietly and tell him that if he married you thinking he can do this all bets are off.. Think about this carefully cause once they do it they will do it again only it will be easier the second and third and fourth time. What I mean is it is very difficult to walk away from someone you love knowing that they did this to you but it is in your best interest and your childrens.